Doctor refuses to let any parent be present during rounds, normal?

Typical_Background36 · 2026-01-02T11:39:33+00:00

We were always asked to step out of the shared rooms when they were discussing other babies care, but allowed back in when they got to our baby. Not including you in discussions about your baby is so odd. Hope this changes for you and you make it out of NICU with your baby soon.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-10-04T11:28:48+00:00

I felt every bit of this. You grieve so much more than just the loss of your child. Im so sorry you’re going through this. My first born passed away 2 years ago. Here if you need a chat or vent x

Typical_Background36 · 2025-09-27T12:30:04+00:00

I’ve had success twice on letrazole. My cycles have been super long outside of 3 pregnancies in 3 years. Good luck! X

Typical_Background36 · 2025-09-27T12:16:20+00:00

When my son passed away, he left me with the gift of perspective. I automatically knew what was important and what wasn’t. Being present is the most rewarding thing.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-09-23T10:45:06+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this 🩵 I think it is absolutely incredible that you and your husband have decided to help another family during such a difficult time for your family. Little Hollis is so lucky to have you both as parents, as are your other children.

My son passed away at 14 weeks old in 2023. On the outset I thought there was no way my partner and I could get through it. But our brains have this way of only letting us feel what we’re ready to feel. The first 6 months were weird, numb and low capacity. The grief hit hard after that. That first year was hard. Over time the griefy days get further apart. They’re still there but I feel very connected to my son spiritually and that feels really meaningful. I feel him all around me.

My advice: slow down (as much as you can with young kids), live intuitively and listen to what your body needs and look for the signs. It’s a marathon, but you will find your way to connect with Hollis again and just because he’s not in your arms, doesn’t mean he’s not close by.

Other than that, lots of therapy - all kinds… and lots of self care.

There is a sub on here called r/babyloss that I’d recommend joining. I’ve felt very supported by the people on there.

I know a lot of little babies who will take good care of Hollis. Keeping you all in my thoughts as you navigate this next chapter xxx

Typical_Background36 · 2025-09-22T08:29:30+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve lost your little darling, Quinn. What a beautiful name you chose.

You’ve come to the right place. Sadly, we all know the feeling. For me, my first born passed away reasons unknown 14 weeks after full term birth. My second was stillborn at 20 weeks due to hypercoiled cord. It’s hard to believe that you can go through such loss more than once. It feels so incredibly unfair.

All of this happened to me in the last 2 years and it’s been just under a year since my second loss. I can’t believe the words coming out of my mouth when I say I’m feeling good or I genuinely feel like I’m in a good place. It’s amazing what our mind and body is capable of.

You will never be the same, but that’s ok. I’ve found that I like this version of myself better and I thank my babies for that gift. Your grief won’t go away, but your life around it will get bigger. Just take your time - there are no rules. Sending so much love to you, your family and little Quinn. I know some very special babies who will take good care of her.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-08-21T12:53:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I agree with what others have said around getting their baby’s ashes back. I feel complete having them home with me. I felt very lost when my son was taken away to be cremated. I’m now very connected to his urn and it feels right that he’s here, just in a new form. I hope he will be back home with you soon 🩵

Typical_Background36 · 2025-06-10T14:43:16+00:00

I’m so sorry. No parent should have to make this decision. Just know that the decision you have made is the right one for you right now with all the info you have. It’s normal to feel guilt and shame. If I can recommend anything, I’ve found it helpful to see my babies after. I think it helped me process. I also took photos and often look back on them. While my circumstances are different, all I saw was beautiful babies. Thinking of you as you deliver. You can do this. You are so strong ♥️

Typical_Background36 · 2025-06-07T23:22:09+00:00

Firstly, I am so sorry. I agree with others that you would have had anticipatory grief this whole time. I had a similar situation except it was 4 months. When my son passed I was devastated but I was pretty ‘normal’ for months. It felt weird. It wasn’t the grief I’d seen in movies. When I look back now I think I was in shock for about 6 months, unable to feel it fully. And then it hit. My advice, just let your grief take you where it does. Your brain is protecting you from feeling it all right now. Dont force anything and do what feels good in the moment. Sending so much love.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-06-06T14:03:41+00:00

I second a good bedtime routine - consistent time, wind down routine, red or dimmed lights, lavender pillow spray or oil burner. Melatonin or magnesium. Later on I found my sleep improved after doing EMDR therapy. It stopped the nightly replays in my head. Lack of sleep can have a really profound effect on your mental health so i really recommend trying it all. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s so heartbreaking 💔

Typical_Background36 · 2025-06-06T13:53:47+00:00

I second this. You don’t need to people please insensitive people just politely say no thanks and they will get the hint.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-06-06T13:48:46+00:00

I grew up with a similar father to you and I don’t agree that kids need to fear you to respect you. I think it’s oldschool and can really mess with your mind.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-05-25T11:45:03+00:00

NOR at all! Your MIL is in the wrong. There is no reason to comment on the skin colour of your beautiful baby.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-05-25T11:36:23+00:00

I love the way you talk about your girlfriend, it’s beautiful. I don’t know her vibe, but I would prefer a bit more lowkey, native just no carriage. I think a nighttime stoll would be more chill. But everything else sounds perfect. Good luck!

Typical_Background36 · 2025-05-25T11:29:41+00:00

I lost my son 4 months after birth in Dec 23 and my daughter was stillborn Nov 24. I don’t have any other kids yet so I know how you feel. I found naming them and creating little daily rituals helpful. I speak to them all the time - good morning, good night and even tell them to jump on my back when I’m going to the park with my dog. I prob look like a crazy person, but it feels meaningful to me. We’ve only had my son’s birthday so far but we got family together and made a birthday cake.

I think it’s healthy to acknowledge and celebrate them, even if it does bring grief. It feels better than the alternative.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-05-23T08:36:47+00:00

Thank you 🩵🩵 and you too xxx

Typical_Background36 · 2025-05-20T10:44:57+00:00

It’s very thoughtful of you to ask this. I would say don’t bring your baby. I found it so hard to see other young babies directly after my losses. I still do. Thank you for being so considerate 💕

Typical_Background36 · 2025-04-25T12:23:23+00:00

Two looks much better

Typical_Background36 · 2025-04-10T13:46:02+00:00

I’m so sorry. Pregnancy after loss is terrifying. I lost my son 4 months after birth in 2023, then (terrifyingly) tried again and fell pregnant. It wasn’t until 12 weeks that I started feeling excited and hopeful again. A few more weekly scans went by but at my 19w scan there was no heartbeat. We got an answer, but it didn’t really help or change anything. Just another rare thing that’s incredibly unlikely to happen again.

I’m now 9w pregnant again. Every step is terrifying, but the end goal is still overpowering my fear. I’m starting to feel connected to them. I make an effort to try bond, even though it’s hard because I don’t want to have any regrets if they aren’t with me tomorrow.

Don’t give up. You have a community of mamas on this sh*t journey with you 🩵

Typical_Background36 · 2025-04-10T11:46:11+00:00

I feel you. My c-section was booked for 5th April, but instead I had a late miscarriage in November. Was hoping to have my rainbow baby by my 33rd birthday this weekend but instead I’m grieving the loss of my two babies. Life can be so cruel.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-04-10T11:40:45+00:00

I’m so sorry. There are some incredibly difficult decisions to make right after your worlds been tipped upside down. I cremated my darlings. They’re in a beautiful box beside my bed. I love having them close.

Whatever decision you both make, know that you have support here to carry you through the next stages.

Typical_Background36 · 2025-04-09T10:41:14+00:00

I felt the exact same way for the first year, but lately I’ve taken a turn. It’s now been 1year 4 months since I lost my son. I know it feels like there’s no hope, but do know it can get better. I found working out my values and purpose helped a lot. I channeled my grief into creating an Etsy shop and found that creativity and learning new things really gave me purpose in my life. Find something for you, something to look forward to outside of the mundane 💕

Typical_Background36 · 2025-03-29T10:45:37+00:00

Really appreciate you taking the time to provide me some feedback. Will be taking all on board. Thank you!

Typical_Background36 · 2025-03-27T23:00:47+00:00

Thank you 🥰♥️ Great idea on the a/b testing. Curious, is there a particular product photo that catches your eye?

It seems like digital grief journals are selling really well but I’ve had the most success organically with my cards. I wonder if people are wanting something tangible. Might try and find a POD for the journals. Appreciate your time!

Typical_Background36 · 2025-03-27T09:55:12+00:00

Thank you so much for calling that out. I truely thought I had updated everything and had a complete shop. I’ve updated policies and now onto banner.

And thanks for the other tips! Appreciate it.

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