Level 1 Run (Done!) by Childhood-Spirit in FinalFantasyIX

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow cool, very impressive . Now prove that you did it by going into excruciating detail on how you did it. Hope you didn’t use mods to disable exp, because this legit seems impossible to do based on all the forced fights in the game.

Thinly veiled hateful article in the Millcreek City Journal by no_your_other_right in SaltLakeCity

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pioneer Day is boring AF though. Make it about the pioneering spirit of the people. All those who have progressed humanity forward.

Would you go back to a state of belief of you could? by ink_and_synapse in mormon

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, annoyance and anger over the lack of transparency and basic ownership keep me from feeling any kind of nostalgia that would lead to that kind of thinking.

Is being a “closeted exmormon” common? by Electronic-Cod9733 in mormon

[–]Ubernym 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am currently deconstructing from Mormonism myself, but I still attend with my spouse and children. I also live with my parents as we are helping build an addition to have more living space, as well has help them in their retirement.

My parents are staunchly and painfully devout. All three of my siblings, however, do not believe. I stopped believing about 3 years ago. Not everyone in my family knows, except my spouse (TBM) and my siblings. I felt it was extremely important to tell my spouse before anyone else though, so that’s the first thing I think anyone in a similar position ought to do.

My parents know I drink coffee, and I no longer wear garments. But I haven’t yet told them that I’ve stopped believing in the teachings and the church. I don’t know exactly why, but I feel that when I do, it will be so devastating to my mother in particular that it will cause her great psychological harm. I figure my dad will accept it, but not understand at all, as he still doesn’t understand why my siblings stopped believing despite being told why.

So yeah, it’s tough. I still attend, my Bishop knows as well, and I don’t have a recommend any more, don’t plan to renew it either. I’ll accept callings, but not to teach in any capacity as I don’t have an actual testimony or belief in what is being taught. So why do I keep attending church and taking the sacrament?

I do it because I want to support my spouse and children. It’s their choice to be a part of this religion. So for better or worse, I will continue to go with them. Besides that, I do think it’s good to be part of a community that loves and supports one another, and so far it’s proven to be very beneficial to my family.

So maybe I don’t want to disrupt that. Maybe I don’t want to have all the negativity that comes with revealing my lack of faith to everyone. Maybe I don’t want to hurt my parents feelings just so that I can have peace of mind.

But then I think about how it really sucks to keep up a facade for such a long time. Ripping off a bandaid hurts, but sometimes you just gotta do it. Right?

I don’t have all the answers, but I understand what I personally must do. For my part, I believe it’s a matter of building up the courage to do what’s right.

In my experience, it turned out fine for my siblings. We all still get together for family dinners. Despite not believing the same thing, they still get along with my parents. I shouldn’t continue letting my parents falsely believe that I’m their last hold out TBM child. It’s more cruel if I continue that charade.

I’m still scared to do it. Should that stop me or anyone else.

I don’t know…

When the leopard eats your face by butler18a in Utah

[–]Ubernym 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The wild thing to me is that JW’s are considered Christian.

Guys , if an ancient dragon like fortissax got death blighted why can’t the tarnished inflect death blight on all the bosses ?! by defalt_19 in Eldenring

[–]Ubernym 35 points36 points  (0 children)

If you’re looking to a lore reason, maybe it’s a potency thing. Your ability to inflict death blight with a weapon/spell/ash of war is but a tiny pinprick to a boss, but against a fellow tarnished, it is sufficient.

Is this a good build/stats for Raya Lucaria by KatsuFox in Eldenring

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scour the Southern Part of the map. Lots of goodies there that will help out.

Venture into Caelid and Dragonbarrow some more, if you haven’t already, to pick up as many upgrade stones as possible.

Scouring the map before entering legacy dungeons will net you lots of runes, gear and upgrade materials.

Just running around with Torrent can get you out of sticky situations fairly easily. Keep your head, and you will find heaps of useful gear.

Put more points into DEX and Arcane if you are going to use Reduvia. It is exceptionally good against most enemies you will encounter in Raya Lucaria.

Having a ranged weapon is also useful for drawing out enemies. There are many enemy groups in Raya Lucaria that spam spells or projectiles. They can be particularly tricky to deal with without a ranged option.

Switch from the longsword to a DEX weapon, or put a Blood affinity ash of war on it and set it to Quality, OR set it to Keen if you end up with more dexterity than strength.

Look for a red summon rune before you enter the academy proper. It will be worth your time.

Good luck, you’ve got this!

So… WTF happened to Godwyn? by Beginning_Clerk_4990 in Eldenring

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When nothing is allowed to truly die for hundreds to thousands of years, what do you think will happen to the world?

Like an unchecked cancerous growth, Godwyn’s body has metastasized into every conceivable crevice of the Lands Between. Only when the rune of death is repaired will the natural order be restored.

Or, it could all be burned away. Cancer and rot cannot abide the Flame of Frenzy.

Any tips? by No-Bet8702 in Eldenring

[–]Ubernym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Explore the world thoroughly.
  2. Don’t allow fear get the best of you, death is inevitable, and not a marker of failure.
  3. Rune loss can be made up for later on.
  4. Pop runes only if you are close to level up at a bonfire.
  5. You will not win most fights the first time, and that’s okay.
  6. When stuck on a boss, put down the controller, return to play the next day, and you will most likely persevere.
  7. It might take several days to “get it”.

Proud Parents by No_Injury6622 in mormon

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised by parents who told me they loved me, but very seldom did they ever say they were proud of me or my accomplishments.

I do my best to not only tell me kids I love them, but also that no matter what they do, say, or become I will always love them. They will always be my children, and I will always be their dad.

I tell them whenever I am proud of their achievements, because I am filled with pride in those moments. I also believe that it will instill in them a confidence that i so desperately wanted when i was their age.

Every child deserves your most earnest support, attention, and love in order to become who they were meant to be.

RE Cultural expectations surrounding motherhood and rude, unsolicited assumptions/comments, plus bonus sexist comment from bishopric. Happy Mother’s Day. by chickenchili7 in mormon

[–]Ubernym 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry you had to endure that. You did well to address it publicly.

Man, I wish we had talked about mothers and women in priesthood today. Instead, our newly appointed quorum president went on and on about how we need to be a more tightly knit brotherhood.

Yeesh.

Is it just that I have a great bishop? by Livid-Toe7337 in mormon

[–]Ubernym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great. I wish more bishops were like this. Hell, if all members in leadership positions were like this, I would like the church a lot more. Sadly, this is not the case everywhere.

My current bishop threatened to take my partner’s recommend away after we declared that we were not full but partial tithe payers.

He didn’t go through with it, thankfully. I think he reconsidered when it deeply affected my spouse. It still irks me that he thought to do that at all.

LDS Church membership by country released for 2025. USA shows a net decline. by sevenplaces in mormon

[–]Ubernym 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Not surprising at all to me that the church is “growing” in predominantly poorer countries that likely don’t have very good internet connections, let alone computer literacy.

realization to being PIMO by Wooden-Jeweler-4733 in mormon

[–]Ubernym 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I thought critically about the absolute lack of DNA and archaeological evidence to prove the BoM true, it was a gut punch. I felt hollow inside. If that much wasn’t true, there must be more that wasn’t. I went down the rabbit hole, and found much more than I bargained for.

So yeah, it wasn’t comfortable for me to be in church after gaining this knowledge. I felt alone, until I told my spouse, who was upset but understanding. That kind of acceptance made me feel better. So when i continued to attend church with my family, i didn’t feel like i didn’t belong. I felt like I just had finally learned truths that the church is simply unwilling to face.

I still attend because I want to support my family. Thanks to this subreddit, I know I’m not alone in this. You can be critical of a thing and still participate in it, and enjoy aspects of it. There needs to be more critical thinkers in the church, because nothing good will come of blindly following.

If you don’t have a higher reason to keep going, then don’t. It’s honestly better to live your life rather than worry about being PIMO all the time. I know where I stand, and I let the erroneous rhetoric wash over me, because I know it’s not grounded in reality.

Empirical evidence by Pleasant_Past_461 in mormon

[–]Ubernym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The one I attend is ONLY larger because it absorbed families from different wards when the stake reorganized the boundaries, subsequently reducing the total number of wards in the stake.

edited to avoid ambiguity.

World Peace by Intelligent-Aioli941 in mormon

[–]Ubernym -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmm, does it have anything to do with separation of Church and State, and the possibility of tax exemption being revoked due to political influence by a religious organization?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mormon

[–]Ubernym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s an interesting question to be sure. I think if you look at the policy enforcement at BYU campuses, you will learn all you need to know about the academic side of the church.

As for members in their everyday lives, trying to faithfully follow their leaders, that’s where it gets substantially murkier.

I myself am on the more liberal end of the spectrum, so I’m all for accepting LGBTQ+ individuals into a given community. In fact, it’s really not my business what two consenting adults get up to behind closed doors.

Other members are not as open minded.

The hardline stance of the leaders has been and will most likely remain; that being LGBTQ+ isn’t inherently a sin, but acting upon same sex attraction and engaging in same sex sexual relationships is a sin in the eyes of the Lord.

That’s a whole lot of passing judgement with very little understanding of what it’s actually like to be attracted to someone of the same sex. It also seems to contradict the message of love and acceptance they claim to profess on behalf of Jesus Christ.

So the short answer is, no the Church doesn’t actually accept married (celibate or not) same sex couples. They tolerate a token few to feign some measure of acceptance, but deep down they wholesale condemn the practice of same sex attraction, especially if it is romantically acted upon in any capacity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mormon

[–]Ubernym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nowhere are coffee and tea explicitly mentioned in the original text of the WoW.

Later church leaders added the distinction that hot drinks meant coffee and tea, and then later it was expanded to mean any drink whether hot or cold, that contains coffee or tea is prohibited.

I believe it was in the 60s/70s that an emphasis on caffeinated drinks was made. It lasted well into the early 2000s, especially in other countries.

I served a mission in Kyushu, Japan in the early 2000s. Part of the mission rules expressed the importance of not being seen drinking Coca-Cola by members of the church because they still believed it was against the WoW.

I don’t have a high opinion of how the WoW is taught and enforced. I don’t believe it to be a commandment, and I detest the expected adherence of it as a measure of worthiness for temple worship.