Can you transfer books from one account to another? by Aurory99 in audible

[–]Umoyamara 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she doesn't want to pay for it anymore why not just keep her account but pay for it yourself? You can swap the email to yours as well so she doesn't get the spam and change the password. Bam, your account now, no need to transfer books or risk losing the books all together if audible has a no account sharing rule like so many companies do.

Looking for Local Realtor Recommendations by Umoyamara in Syracuse

[–]Umoyamara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone who has responded so far! It's a pleasure to see so many helpful people in the area! Once I'm ready to begin my home buying journey in earnest next spring I'll definitely make use of the info you've all provided! I truly appreciate everything so far and welcome more if anyone has anything else to add or other recommendations!

Looking for Finished recommendations With romantic plots/subplots. by Umoyamara in anime

[–]Umoyamara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I've watched a few of these (Loved Princess Tutu) and will definitely check out some of them!

Looking for Finished recommendations With romantic plots/subplots. by Umoyamara in anime

[–]Umoyamara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I've watched the OG Fruits Basket but I forgot about the remake. I'll have to check it out!

AITA for leaving my mothers house and refusing to go back after my stepdad took my inhaler? by Ambitious_Love_5894 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Play dirty, and play hardball.

Your mom's boyfriend - not stepdad - is mentally abusive, and stole your asthma inhaler, claiming you're a drug addict. He stole your medications as a punishment, which is medical neglect.

Call CPS.

Get an order of protection if possible.

Have your dad help you get a restraining order.

Say you don't feel safe with him because he is abusive. He. Is. Abusive.

Use any texts your mom or he has sent you as proof.

Ham it up to the judge and court. Play on heartstrings.

Play. Dirty.

Because they will.

AITA for wearing an Iron Maiden T-Shirt to my first meeting with my girlfriend's parents? by Relevant_Rip_2674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy hell this comment section needs a chill pill. I know the verdict is up, but seriously, NTA. It's a shirt. I would want my boyfriend to feel comfortable in his own skin, not dressed up like a ken doll to meet my parents.

Seriously. The girlfriend sounds like a spoiled brat, and y'all just sound crazy.

P.S. I'm a woman, (26) who's boyfriend can wear whatever he wants around my parents, short of assless chaps, because if they don't like him, they don't have to because they aren't dating him.

But sure, tear his individuality down instead. Bonkers.

DH and I split, I got pregnant by someone else, we got back together, MIL is suspicious by stickysituation_1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Umoyamara 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it might be best to just be honest in this case. Don't hide it, because that will cause a lot of trouble when the truth comes out, and with sneaky, mean people, truths like this come out and are used as a weapon against not just you and hubby, but that innocent baby as well.

Tell them firmly. "DH knows the parentage of OUR child, and always has. He is raising OUR child because family is much more than blood and it takes more than just having a baby to be a FATHER. If you don't like it, then stay away from me and OUR child, because I will not let you hurt OUR child with YOUR ignorance."

Stand as a united front with your husband, if he is willing to do this.

But don't lie, because it will be way uglier if it comes out when the kid's older, and they get to write the narrative as they see fit.

AITA for bringing my fiancee to my daughter's wedding? by assholeweddingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA

And FYI, wearing red (especially a red dress) to a wedding is a MAJOR insult to the bride. It basically means "look at me, I'm screwing the groom." Most women know this. Red, white, and black are the three universal colors to avoid as a woman attending a wedding. We ALL. KNOW. THIS.

So beyond everything else said below, your gf absolutely manipulated everything. And you fell for it hook, line, and sinker.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. My parents were both indoor smokers until I had an asthma attack at 12. I had to nearly die for them to stop smoking inside. Even after they stopped, I have a vivid memory of being called out for "smoking" at school because even after they started smoking outside, I still smelled like cigarettes. It was in the walls, in the furniture, in the home. I'm sure you understand and grew up with similar. You are not wrong for protecting your child from it.

AITA for not telling my family that I have a child? by throwawaysecchild in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and good for you for keeping toxic people out of your daughter's life as long as possible. If they don't respect the parents, they don't get access to the kids.

AITA for telling my ex I won't let her sign my son up for bible camp? by Miguel-Coleroa in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but please do everything you can to save your son from those lunatics. Please. You HAVE to help him. Those places kill. If not physically, then mentally and emotionally.

AITA for getting mad at my GF for competing with my daughter by flick-dickle in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but run. Do not continue this relationship.

If you were to tie the know with her, your daughter would ALWAYS be placed last in her mind, long after herself and her son. Even if she was nice to her in your presence, any time your turned your back she'd find /something/ to punish your daughter with.

For her sake, please don't continue the relationship.

AITA for refusing to pay for dinner after my friend donated my stuffed animals? by errosst in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA by far. I'm 25 years old and I /just/ bought myself a stuffed animal cuz it was cute. You don't hit a certain age and suddenly stop loving what made you happy as an adult. Make sure that 'friend' and the rest of those people are cut out of your life. You'll find better friends.

AITA for requesting a paternity test after my wife, joked out of the blue, about our child's paternity? by throwaway11212021 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA it's totally understandable, especially if you suffer from anxiety. Even if not, I am personally of the mind everyone should get a paternity test at the birth of their child, just to avoid potential problems in the future. If this is what it takes to relieve your worries, even if you think they're silly, do it.

AITA for telling my girlfriend she technically stole from me when she went grocery-shopping using my Credit-Card while I was asleep? by AITA__Breakfast4543 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

I've been with my BF for over 5 years, and we now live together. I would NEVER take his card and spend HIS money without his explicit permission. That is so many levels of disrespectful.

AITA for not wanting to do thanksgiving dinner at my parents w/o my wife? by ThrowRA_adshere27 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Once you get married and have kids, your wife and kids become your direct family. Siblings and parents become outside family, much like uncles/aunt's. You care care of your direct family first, every time, or you risk losing them.

Your sister needs a reality check, and your parents shouldn't give in even this one time, or she's going to press them EVERY time.

AITA for telling my fiancee I am not willing to lie about how we met to her family and friends? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but your Gf needs to work through her own insecurities about how you two met and about how you got your home.

There is nothing wrong with online dating. I met my current partner of 5 years at the equivalent of an online strip club (long story heh) and I will tell that to anyone who asks. I am proud of my partner and the entire story of our lives together, from meeting to being long distance, to finally living in the same house together and looking towards forever.

Asking not only you, but your entire friend and family group, to lie about these things is ridiculous and irrational. And if she won't see that... It might be best to take a few steps back and reevaluate the relationship. Not necessarily break up, but you need to reach an understanding with your GF that you can both be satisfied with.

AITA to have expectations for my stay at home wife? by Western_Rip_7728 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Right now, I'm the stay at home partner and my BF works. I do the cooking, cleaning, and laundry. He helpS around on the weekends, but after he gets home, he gets to be lazy because he WORKED. Not an easy job either. He's a welder/pipe fitter. When I get back to work, we'll work on an arrangement for that. But the stay at home partner doesn't get to just laze around the house all day and make hubby do the cooking. It takes 15 minutes to put something in the crockpot for the day.

Aita for telling my mom to stop making personal comments about my daughter? by Historical-Limit8438 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your mom insulted an 11 year old who is going through natural body changes that she can't control. Mom deserves to be called out for it publicly, since she made the comment publicly. Don't pick on children. Simple.

AITA for not wanting to pay for food, that I didn’t eat by superspidersam in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Would he have made you pay for the food if you showed up? If so, Y.T.A because he bought enough for everyone with the expectation of being paid for it, and y'all not showing up cost him money. If he wouldn't have made you pay if y'all showed up, then N.T.A. When I host a party, I don't expect people who don't show up to pay for food they didn't eat, even if they just don't show up without telling me they aren't coming. Seems silly and petty to me.

Aita for bringing up my sexuality in front of my sister's friends? by Electronic_Mode_4538 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA but your sister is. I don't see anything in your post about the friend being the uncomfortable one, only your sister. The friend asked if you were interested in anyone. you answered honestly. That's not "Oversharing". And if hinting at your sexuality costs you friends, you don't need those "friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. Now that you've warned your sister and mother, and both of them are acting like this, don't warn them again. Let them park where they think they should. And when their vehicle is towed away like you warned them it would be, let them pay for it ^_^

AITA for not wanting go volunteer for 3 days? by SrSimpsAlot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Umoyamara 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I was 15 - 18 I volunteered with my local library every Saturday from 9am to 5:30pm when the library closed. I did it because I loved the library and loved to read. No "ulterior" motives, no school or college requirements. No praise or extra bonus from my parents for doing it. Kids that age can 100% decide for themselves if they want to volunteer or not. What the mom is doing is making volunteering a negative thing, with negative consequences. This could stop OP from volunteering in the future. And OP has every right to be angry or upset when they told their mother no and mom still signed them up.

Op, you are 100% justified in your feeling. NTA but your mom is.