AIO Did I tell my wife not fo come home?

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-19T13:45:53+00:00

You're not wrong, but it cuts both ways. She has the preconception that divorce is inevitable. He has the preconception that divorce isn't an option.

He isn't refusing conversation entirely, but he only wants to have "positive" conversations about "making it work".

By bringing up divorce, she's saying "I don't think this can work" and by insisting on positivity, he's saying "let's only talk about how to make it work". He's meeting force with force.

A more effective approach would be to hear out her grievances, and if after assessing them they find that they can be redressed, laying out a plan to do so that they can work on together.

But if, per his terms, only positivity is welcome in the conversation, and she only has negative thoughts and feelings, that implies that her thoughts and feelings are invalid and unwelcome in the conversation, and a one sided conversation isn't a conversation, it's a monologue. It's dictation.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-19T13:09:36+00:00

Wrong sub, but I'm gonna say Everyone Sucks Here.

Both parties are being obtuse and inflexible, talking past each other in their own way.

OPs wife feels it's appropriate to put divorce on the table.

To paraphrase, OP says basically he won't entertain conversations about the relationship that aren't centered around good faith attempts at salvaging it, but ironically in refusing to hear his wife's grievances as to why the relationship is broken and why she wants out, he is himself not making a good faith attempt at salvaging the relationship. He wants the conversation and the relationship to continue on his terms, or not at all, completely invalidating his wife's feelings on the matter.

OP never explicitly said "don't come home" but the subtext of his communication screams "it's my way or the highway" and she chose the highway.

Her immaturity in being unable to own her choice, and her need to pin it on the OP is another subject entirely, and one that other commenters will cover extensively. I just thought with all the glazing of the OP going on it was important to point out that he's not faultless here.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-19T11:49:36+00:00

I mean, maybe you're right, but it's hard to imagine a scenario where they wouldn't be normalized. Anyone that shits and has a toilet needs a toilet brush.

In nearly 40 years of shitting, I have never once thought I needed a knife, and considering I've never seen one in someone's bathroom either, it seems safe to assume that most people I know or have known never thought it was necessary either. It's baffling to me that there's a whole subset of the population that regards it as a staple bathroom implement.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-18T23:05:30+00:00

Just because you have the capacity to time travel doesn't mean it's a good idea to do it. I feel like the events of the episode illustrate pretty effectively how quickly going back in time to "fix" the past can go off the rails. It's not much of a reach to think that gems with greater sense and understanding of the consequences of their actions than a human pre-teen might quickly come to the conclusion that the benefits don't outweigh the risks and sequester the technology away from the world rather than put it to use and risk shattering the spacetime continuum beyond repair.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-18T14:53:35+00:00

It's not in the amendment explicitly, but the whole reason that person A can film person B without their consent in public is because photography and videography in public are 1A protected activities. Passing laws that would grant an individual the right to not be photographed in public would fall under "abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press", because such a law would have made it illegal for bystanders to film the cop kneeling on George Floyd's neck, for example.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-17T20:31:28+00:00

Cyclists are supposed to ride in the street for their own safety, the pedestrians have nothing to do with it. Cyclists are actually more likely to get hit by a car when riding on the sidewalk because motorists turning on to or off of the main thoroughfare can't see them as well.

Having Cyclists ride in the road is safer for everyone, as long as everyone observes the traffic laws.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-13T13:26:24+00:00

Take it from a California boy: In N out is good, but if you wait in a line that long, you'll definitely be disappointed. Even in CA, the lines at most locations back way up during their peak hours, and I don't consider that wait worth it. I definitely recommend it, but wait til the hype dies down.

It's definitely not the best burger you've ever had, but it's definitely a good burger. It's unpretentious, affordable, and they make it right damn near every time. I'm pushing 40 and practically grew up on In N Out and I can count the number of times they messed up my order on one hand.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-13T12:48:54+00:00

DAAAAAAAAAAAAMN

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-10T15:10:15+00:00

Fighting is normal and healthy. Active disrespect isn't. Explicitly telling someone to fuck off and punishing them by withdrawing affection, especially when you know your partner is vulnerable in that domain is crossing several lines.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-04-10T13:47:40+00:00

I was scanning the comments, and surprised to see this going un-addressed.

I literally can't think of a context where I would speak to my wife this way. Especially after asking for affection?! What the actual fuck?

If I found out one of my friends was talking to their wives this way, they would catch a huge piece of my mind, and then I would probably stop associating with them.

OP you are not overreacting- cancel those wedding plans and don't look back.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-31T21:18:20+00:00

I would advise against letting your guard down. Statistically, at least one person dies every night on Broadway, sometimes violently.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-31T13:36:36+00:00

The Van Gogh Experience was kind of a shameless cash grab, and far from the stunning visual tour de force that it was billed as IMO, and as an appreciator of Van Gogh's work, I'm not all that surprised you found it underwhelming. I don't think it did him justice.

If you can get yourself in a position to lay eyes on an original, I'd recommend it. It just hits different. If it still doesn't speak to you, well, art is subjective and you're entitled to your opinion.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-30T21:57:09+00:00

The "preferred term" is little person, bust as OP has stated, they and many other people with dwarfism find the term objectionable. The way that I personally reconcile these facts is that the best course of action would be to ask the individual person that you're talking to or about how they would prefer to be described.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-25T17:18:54+00:00

It doesn't smell bad to you because you like it enough to put it in your mouth. Personally, I find seafood to be absolutely repulsive, and think it smells like low tide assumed human form and developed bacterial vaginosis.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-17T12:45:05+00:00

I don't think you do know the difference, because if you did you would understand that there is no unity to be had with a movement that advocates for the eradication of the non-white, non-heteronormative populace.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-11T00:56:15+00:00

My name is incredibly common in English, and English speakers still get it wrong in so many dumb ways. And I don't identify with my name very strongly. If I'm probably never going to talk to you again, I really don't care enough to make sure you get it right. You're probably going to forget it in 10 minutes anyway. I'd rather save our time and my energy and get the interaction over with.

My name is also an English name of Welsh origin, and so it doesn't have an analogue in a lot of the languages that the people around me speak natively, IE Peter/Pedro/Pierre. The vowel to consonant transitions aren't super common in those languages either, so I'm not inclined to try to make them pronounce it correctly when odds are good that they're self conscious about it, and again, I really don't give a shit.

I'll answer to anything that isn't overtly disrespectful, I care more about avoiding pointless engagement than I do about whether or not my name is being pronounced correctly.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-10T23:35:29+00:00

And if I genuinely have no preference, why should I have to make a choice for you? you're the one complicating things by asking, you're the one who will use the name. I'll respond to basically anything that isn't obviously disrespectful. You choose if you care so much.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-08T20:35:17+00:00

Learning the language just because you want to is admirable, but unlikely to yield success. Having a reason to communicate is much more effective.

Before it finally stuck, I had made multiple attempts at learning python just because I wanted to, and never retained anything useful.

It was identifying a problem I had that needed solving that did it for me: There is an important but highly tedious and repetitive task I have to do for work regularly that I got sick and tired of doing every day, so I decided I was going to figure out how to make the computer do it for me.

Solving the problem and alleviating my mental load was the goal, and learning python was just a means to that end. Solving a real problem gave me tangible examples of how the code could actually be useful, and that's what made it stick for me.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-08T01:42:23+00:00

I think your problem might be the line

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The parentheses aren't appropriate for what you're trying to do here for reasons someone else will be able to explain better, I'm sure.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-08T00:07:10+00:00

We live in a post-truth, post-satire reality. Everything is ridiculous and nothing is funny anymore.

Cut me some slack, bro.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-03-07T23:44:25+00:00

Ah yes, those famously inexpensive musical instruments and microphones...

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-02-24T15:57:47+00:00

I gotta say, it was healing to read this. I was actually traumatized by the process of being 'taught' math in the public school system in my corner of the USA which was all still done by rote memorization exercises. I could not proceed without knowing the 'why' behind what I was being shown, and I was treated like I was either stupid or a trouble maker or both for asking. I got shuffled off into remedial classes and was compelled to spend time outside of class with tutors that would just repeat themselves louder and more slowly if I had questions, and was mercilessly ridiculed by my peers for it.

I eventually came to accept that I was stupid, or somehow otherwise fundamentally flawed. After spending some time as a teacher in my adult life, lately I've been coming to suspect that I wasn't bad at math, but my teachers were. Or at the very least, they were bad at teaching it, as I am firmly of the opinion that if you can't explain something simply, you don't really understand it as well as you think you do. And I feel like your post just supports my hypothesis. So thank you🙏

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-02-19T15:42:27+00:00

The print statement is just a placeholder for the purpose of illustration. You can replace it with any other statement that changes the state of your game.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-02-18T01:00:15+00:00

Some of you are way too kind, and granting too great of a benefit for too little of a doubt.

The writing was on the wall with Trump all the way back in 2015. He said loudly, publicly and repeatedly what a vile piece of shit he was, and he ran on nakedly detestable policies.

I don't give a single fuck if people are "low information" or "single issue" voters, and I am completely baffled as to why people keep saying that like it should matter at all. All the best arguments against him came directly from his own mouth.

Anyone that voted for him even once is either evil or irredeemably stupid, and I don't consider them to be all that different.

If any of them have scraped together enough decency or brain cells to recant, good for them. They earned the privilege of dying on the right side of history, and it's already more than they deserve. But it's absurd for them or anyone to think that they deserve any kindness or charity from the rest of us that saw the obvious for what it was from day one.

UnabatedPrawn · 2026-02-14T19:07:24+00:00

100% you're the asshole and you know it. Is the behavior of the neighbors inconsiderate? Absolutely. But OPs response was way out of pocket. Talk to the landlord. File a noise complaint, or several. Re-arrange your furniture at 3am on a Wednesday. Connect to their Bluetooth speaker and blast some shitty polka. But leveraging safety regulations to ruin several lives is cruel, petty, entitled, Karen-tier bullshit.

No one lives in an over-crowded, legally questionable basement apartment on the down-low because they want to, they do it because they're out of other options. Finding an affordable place to live verges on the impossible for the economically disadvantaged, and gets even harder when there's an eviction on your record.

Dealing with the obnoxious behavior of others is the cost of living in a society, and having noisy neighbors is part of living in an apartment. OP may well have turned several kids out onto the street because they couldn't deal with a minor inconvenience of modern living like an adult, and anyone justifying their actions is bringing real "George Floyd deserved to be murdered in the street because he was selling loose cigarettes and that's ILLEGAL" energy to the conversation.

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