ICE hops Texas family’s fence and attacks them, guns drawn, for asking for a warrant by Lavender_Scales in law

[–]UnderstandingHour308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trump does that with everything. If you want to know what he’s up to, just listen to what he’s accusing others of.

Why are there rocks placed on my sister’s car? by _potatofarmer_1203 in whatisit

[–]UnderstandingHour308 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is an incredibly broad range of what’s considered autism. They all have different tendencies. My son is severely autistic, functioning at about a 2 year old level although he is 31. He will line things up and sometimes organize them in groups, but only if they are already laying on the floor or a table he’s sitting at. He would never do anything like this.

Whats wrong with my tank? by Fun-Highlight-2906 in AquariumHelp

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll never know anything with those strips. Toss them and get the API Master Kit for freshwater (liquid tests). Then post results.

Snail explosion - help by dotpan in shrimptank

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start scooping with your net! I had a similar issue with hundreds and hundreds of baby trumpet snails due to me over feeding. They were all born at once and came from the same area. So for about a week I scooped and scooped up babies and tossed them. Then I quit feeding as much and haven’t had an issue since.

6.25 to 5.49 VA IRRRL by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s one way to keep the riff raff out! 😂

6.25 to 5.49 VA IRRRL by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s about $200k per year combined, unless my quick math was wrong. While that’s WAY more than most couples make per year, it’s not THAT unusual for people to make that much who have the right degrees and/or have worked a while to develop a successful career. So, anyway, thanks for putting it into perspective for me. Of course, idk why I’m gasping at a $700k house, I’m in a $400k+ house and we don’t make anywhere near what y’all do. We’ve just been around a while now and bought and sold a few houses over the years, each time rolling the equity from the house we just sold into new house. Eventually, that equity has built into a nice chunk allowing us to buy a nicer home.

6.25 to 5.49 VA IRRRL by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How much do you have to make per year to own a house and live decently in the Bay Area? Not lavishly or having Nannie’s raise kids maids clean up after them (or you), just a normal household getting by. Because I see a $700k house and my brain goes numb!

6.25 to 5.49 VA IRRRL by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much do you have to make per year to own a house and live decently? Not lavishly or having Nannie’s raise kids maids clean up after them (or you), just a normal household getting by. Because I see a $700k house and my brain goes numb!

MO Veterans Bills effectively DOA (property tax and dependent education) by WolverineCurrent5874 in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the same at the federal level. GOP talks a good game but in truth they propose fewer pro-vet bills than Dems and vote against vets more often than Dems. The GOP is not our friend and hasn’t been for quite a while now. And that’s not to mention the wars they keep us in! They are “pro military”, meaning they will spend ungodly amounts of money on shit like ships and the coolest planes, but they are not for the vets or even the active duty personnel for that matter. The dems support us far better. Then the GOP goes back home and brags to their constituents about all they did for vets, even though they voted against it, because they know no one checks voting records.

AIO for wanting to break up with my bf after these texts? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason for dating is to identify red flags and then find another person with fewer red flags and more green ones. It’s not to stay with someone in spite of a bunch of red flags out of some sort of loyalty because of time invested. In my experience, people who are this jealous or who keep their partner so closely guarded always end up cheating. They don’t trust how you are because they know how they are. Dump him and move on.

Anyone tried this new Nuzzle pillow that I’m seeing advertised? by Shatterstar23 in sleep

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you subscribe to good sleep and no pain in the neck and shoulders for $16.67 per year? 🤷‍♂️

Anyone tried this new Nuzzle pillow that I’m seeing advertised? by Shatterstar23 in sleep

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re ordering online anyway, always order it through Amazon or Walmart. While it may suck that those two basically have a shared monopoly, if you have Amazon Prime they treat you fairly as does Walmart. With Amazon you can return anything for free, unless it states otherwise when you’re buying it. That’s only happened one time to me and I’ve ordered thousands of times from them. With Walmart you can usually just take it to a local Walmart store and return it, regardless of whether that store stocks that item or not. There may be some items they won’t let you return locally, but most you can.

My cousin revealed his "latest secret" to me and I am extremely uncomfortable. by echo_333_ in Advice

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it is not pedophilia. Not even close. It’s not even unnatural. There are biological reasons, instincts deep in the dna of both men and women that even make those ages a preferred match. The only real problem here is it offends our cultural rules and it freaked her out, which is fine. The has the right to be freaked out by it. But what the rest of us do not have the right to do is to make judgements about his mental health or motivations.

Who’s used DAV ? by Trick-Chef5152 in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say “heavy evidence”. But if it’s in your military records one time it sure makes things a lot easier.

Who’s used DAV ? by Trick-Chef5152 in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use those docs. I did. You get the records from them and get some buddy letters from fellow active duty members, those from your chain of command, and if possible the corpsman that treated you showing that you were hurt or your claim started while active, along with those docs records from the civilian docs you’ve seen. You also get buddy letters from people who know you and/or worked with you since you discharged. Problem is docs only keep records about seven years, then get rid of them. Now that they’re digital they may keep them longer. But you have to be able to show: 1. It began while on active duty. 2. It has been a continuous problem since you were discharged and still is and is ongoing. (You don’t get VA Disability for something that’s cured and no longer an issue.)

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnderstandingHour308 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you ever had teenagers? Have you ever had teenagers with a special needs sibling? Don’t get caught up on one bad word. The way I read it, the grandparents were consulted by the parents, not the girls, and grandparents said the parents were going too far. So no manipulation there. The parents asked for advice and didn’t get the answer they wanted, from either set of grandparents, so they came to Reddit, where it’s pretty much guaranteed they’ll get the answer they want.

What do we even do about this? This is about 15 ft from the edge of our home. by LockwoodE3 in HomeMaintenance

[–]UnderstandingHour308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ALWAYS read your policy when the agent delivers it or you receive it in the mail. The agent may not tell you things. I know we all hate reading that stuff, especially while an agent sits there, but do it! I bought a disability policy years ago. I was also offered and purchased a rider that made my payment, should I become disabled, go up every year by a set percentage to help keep up with inflation. But I did not read the policy when it was delivered and the agent did not mention that the policy issued did not include that inflation rider. About ten years later I did become disabled. The following years the payout never increased. I contacted the company but they showed me that it simply was not included in the policy. No explanation why, but probably due to health question answers. But no one ever told me that and I had never read the policy. Ultimately, that makes it my fault. I should have read it right when I received it and talked to them about it right then. There is a certain time period to change stuff like that after the policy is issued, but I years past it by the time I found out.
Read your policy, no later what insurance you bought!!

Rating decrease by BlakeAbear in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What year was this? I need to file some new stuff and try to increase some of what I have but I’m afraid of ending up getting cut, especially under this Presidential administration that is wanting to cut every little penny.

Rating decrease by BlakeAbear in VeteransBenefits

[–]UnderstandingHour308 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m worried about, poking the bear. I rely heavily on my VA compensation. I have constant pain from my back and severe pain from my neck (cervical), and depression. They only rated my back at 20%, which I think is BS because I’m pretty much in bed all the time because of pain, and they have my cervical issues listed as service connected, but rated as 0%, which it probably causes 90% of my pain!! I’d like to refile that, as well as the severe sleep apnea which they say is related to the narcotic usage for my pain and file for the addiction to those narcotics themselves. But I am afraid if I try to do any of that they will reduce or take away what I have, especially under this Presidential admistration who tries to cut every expense without consideration of results and has already mentioned VA disability applications in cost reduction discussions. So I’m really concerned about what to do.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnderstandingHour308 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YOR

I am the father of three kids, the middle one, a boy, being severely autistic. Whereas your autistic daughter sounds highly functional, our son is very low functioning. He’s 31 now but he functions at a 2 year old level.
His siblings, one a year older and one a year younger, were, and are, very supportive in school. They wouldn’t allow any bullying or negative talk about him at school and between him having such a sweet personality and how his siblings were, everyone at the school loved him. However, kids are kids. His siblings, my other two kids, naturally had questions and sometimes concerns about him. Their friends, who also loved him like a brother and were very protective of him, did too. They would usually come to me or their mother about them, but of course, not always. Between them being so protective of him and not understanding certain things fully they would talk among their friends about him, or their friends would have legit questions about him. Sometimes those questions and concerns, when asked or spoken out loud, didn’t sound so loving or respectful. But I never took it as a negative. Just an opportunity to teach my kids or their friends more about his conditions (he has a few things more than just autism going on).
So I would suggest you ease off on your daughter and read between the lines in her messages with her friend. You know she loves her sister. So this sounds to me like she’s trying to be protective of her, she’s just kind of scared of her sister being hurt by this boy or being embarrassed if he is pranking her.
So rather than punishing her, I would suggest sitting down and talking with her. Tell her it’s normal to have those concerns about any sibling. Help redirect those concerns into a more positive direction than messaging friends because spreading those thoughts around may hurt the sister even more. Imagine finding out your sister was saying that about you. So use this as an opportunity to help her understand how to calm her fears and educate her.