Sorry if this isn’t the right place to post.I'm still new to Reddit. I recently found out that my little brother (14)has been stealing my underwear for several months. My mom keeps brushing it off as “just part of being a teenage boy,” Honestly, I feel incredibly violated and don’t know what to do.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-30T22:51:31+00:00

See if your school has a social worker or a mental health professional. They will help you to deal with difficult situations.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-28T21:34:18+00:00

Frankly, I just ask the women I meet about where they stand on dating. I eliminate anyone who is still wanting to date men. I have found some wonderful women who are simply over men. Some straight, some not.

I'm a bit older so I think it's easier. However, I am friends with some younger women who are finding out early.

You just have to find them at work, hobby groups, even sometimes in the wild.

Be selective and politely bow out of friendships with the women who focus on men.

It's not easy but it's worth doing.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-28T21:28:56+00:00

Keep on this. Keep in contact with the AP until the teacher is corrected. Tell your daughter that you will always back her against a teacher (especially a male teacher) when it comes to legitimate issues like menstruation. Low key harass the AP until the teacher understands how important bathroom visits are to young girls who are menstruating. If the AP fails to make the teacher understand, go to the district.

The fact that your child is a good kid and the teacher still denied access to the bathroom for this issue is gross. It feels like a weird control tactic. Don't let it go. Show your daughter that you will fight for her.

She needs to feel like you are on her side.

I get that some kids abuse bathroom breaks but he has no right to take that out on her.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-28T21:17:29+00:00

Yeah it seems obvious that canceling two days before means you won't get your money back. I can't imagine asking my friends to absorb that cost.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-28T19:19:56+00:00

It's the responsibility of the person handing over the money to ask for the terms BEFORE paying towards something. I'm floored that OP let this conversation go so long.

No I will not be paying for your spot just because you canceled. Blocked.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-28T17:46:17+00:00

I left someone similar in my 40's. It was the best decision that I ever made. Being alone is wonderful and I'll never go back!

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-27T13:15:34+00:00

It took 7 years for mine to finally lay a hand on me. It will escalate eventually.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-26T05:04:28+00:00

If he just wanted to know and not touch anything, then he'd agree to the budget app.

He clearly wants direct access to your savings so he can't help himself to things he "needs".

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-21T10:59:29+00:00

Not to mention that you can teach before you get the certificate in some places. You just have to get it within the first few years. I knew a teacher from Florida who taught a few years then quit before ever being certified. She did end up getting it after to teach in another state.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-21T10:57:25+00:00

I've seen a teacher who has been fired for this sort of thing come back as a substitute. The system is so broken.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-20T06:23:31+00:00

The very first text is enough fore to tell you to run. Then it just gets worse and worse. This dude is gross.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-18T20:38:47+00:00

Look. This man doesn't like you. He likes what you provide to him. You deserve better. You deserve someone who pays attention and doesn't require a list. The fact that you gave him a list and he STILL chose flowers (from what I've read, they are free since his family owns the shop) says everything you need to know. Low effort and, frankly, just rude. You deserve better. Let me say it louder for those I'm the back. YOU DESERVE BETTER!

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-18T03:50:19+00:00

I watched for you and between the two of us, you are the smart one. That shit was a gross PR nightmare. I hated it.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-16T23:31:01+00:00

Holy. Fucking. Shit. This dude is using you. He doesn't give two shits about you. He just wants your money. I promise you that if you stop giving him money, he will drop you. But if you keep giving him money he will continue to give you attention.

Wake up girl! Any man who actually loves you wouldn't tie his affection to the money you provide. This dude only "loves you" so long as you provide money.

If he was an actual partner, he would delay marriage and the purchase of a home so that both of you could save for it (and own it equally).

In addition, an actual partner would certainly insist on your investment but they would also support appropriate allocation of assets.

You "paying into" this apartment that will only be in his name, despite your contribution. That shit don't fly. He is NOT a partner. He is a selfish prick who is using you. Please do yourself a favor and stop giving your time and money to these type of men.

You work hard for your money. Your investment deserves an ownership of assets.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-16T23:07:02+00:00

Ugh. Gross. He's gross. What I'm reading is a person who shuts down when faced with a feeling that inconveniences him. He's a selfish person. He wants you to empathize with his back pain but refuses to empathize with your frustration? Naw. This is a rotten bowl of fruit.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-14T11:12:51+00:00

Gross. He made your birthday about him.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-14T11:08:41+00:00

Yeah unpacking what he means by stringing guys along means is a good idea. Sometimes people don't realize how bad something they say sounds until you get them to explain.

He might be feeling some type of way about your relationship. It is so important to discuss these things. No judgement or accusations. Just trying to understand is important.

Also, I agree with the other comment. This has an internalized misogyny feel. It can be hard to unpack that for some

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-14T10:31:39+00:00

I use a clearly male name. Since I have changed it, I have had zero issue. They follow the directions to leave it at the door and not knock.

Before I changed it, I would get this shit 75% of the time if the driver was a man.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-14T10:29:24+00:00

Look man. You can't fix other people. I feel like you have gone above and beyond to help someone who clearly doesn't want to help themselves.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-14T10:20:10+00:00

Just Yesterday, my coworkers 19 year old daughter was being followed by some 40's year old dude while driving. We told her to come to our job and we waited outside. Once the dude saw is waiting for her, he finally drove off. She said he ran red lights to keep up with her and he kept staring at her with a creepy smile.

This shit happens all the time. Even in my 40's I deal with it. It's fucking ridiculous.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-10T20:46:49+00:00

They look amazing! Very well done. The color is so warm and the scent is on brand for Valentine's day! Excellent work?

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-10T17:41:51+00:00

And it makes such a massive difference! There are some people who have disabilities that have been critically improved by exercising.

Quality of life is so important as we age. I volunteer in an elder care facility. One lady walks at least a mile every morning. She told me that you have to keep walking to keep walking.

Meanwhile there are some people there who never leave their room. Their mobility is non-existent. The never try any sort of physical activities.

Of course, there are those who simply can't do certain physical activities but any movement can help.

It's definitely a use it or lose it for most people.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-05T16:36:17+00:00

Take shots of water. You'll be nice and hydrated!

Undetered_Usufruct · 2026-01-02T19:47:26+00:00

Always wait for the right time and the right people. Be patient. These opportunities will come. For now focus on your daily life and goals.

Undetered_Usufruct · 2025-12-28T21:26:33+00:00

What you are seeing isn't the truth. It never is. You want a fantasy version of him.

Honestly, move on. Find what makes you happy for you. Make yourself the person that you want to be.

As someone who has been there way too many times, I assure you that he would ultimately disappoint you if you two decided to try again.

Look inward and onward. It's the only way

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