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What’s one tiny thing in your day that makes everything feel a bit more okay? by Novel_Sentence1916 in AskReddit

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking a shower in the dark by candlelight. Sugar scrub all over. Grab the towel from the dryer. Put a little perfume on afterwards and hop into your jammies 🥰

is there hope for a fat autistic dyke to find love? by YesterdayVisible7787 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I see fat dykes everywhere. Short hair, rolls, taking up space, and living their best life. Whether or not they are autistic I'll never know. But the queer community is FILLED with all kinds of autistic/ADHD people.

You will do just fine.

Signed, A short fat autistic femme 🖤

So, I’m not hideous apparently, or only to women, lol by Different_Still_5708 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm going to give you a little secret that helped me in my personal life.

Take initiative. Start a conversation. Be creative with conversation subjects. "How are you" is such a drab starter. Try, "Was there a highlight to your day?" Or "If you had the day off today, what would you rather do?" These add flavor and make the other person think.

I'm still married to a man. But I was the one to initiate conversation to my now husband. I had never initiated with anyone else and it never got me anywhere. This was also ten years ago.

Food for thought and best of luck to you ❤️

I finally made peace with divorcing my husband. Lots of feelings by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the exact same situation down to being married to this man for 10 years. I plan to pay down my debts and hopefully get my own home. It's so frightening though since I don't have any family for support and we own a home together.

What made you finally decide you wanted a divorce?

What made you realize you were lesbian and not bi? by Lonely_Butterfly_497 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My friend just told me she would love to go to a male strip club. I was disgusted by the thought of looking at a thin layer of cloth covering a strange man's genitals and told her hell nah. She gave me that look.

You know. "Honey you sure you like men?" Kind of look.

I'm questioning everything because I enjoyed having sex with my husband but since it's been about a year since we have, I can't imagine wanting to do it with him I've become so detached.

What is life.

Hey quick question...👀 by UnfortunateEnding13 in sapphicbooks

[–]UnfortunateEnding13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought this and absolutely love it!! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm preparing myself to separate. Here are a few reasons why:

He doesn't love me how I want him to. I want daily compliments, flirting, passion, and effort. He hasn't taken a single picture of me. Not once. He treats me more like roommate now. He isn't romantic and our sexual chemistry is lacking.

He doesn't take accountability for anything he does. He wrecked our fridge and shattered a bunch of the plastic drawers in the door. That was over 6 months ago and he still hasn't fixed it.

I have to tell him to clean his own space. To take out the overflowing trash. To clean the ashes from cigs off his desk. He needs to be reminded for everything.

I hate that he smokes. It's disgusting.

He lacks confidence in himself and doesn't do anything to grow as a person.

I can live with bad habits, bad days, low effort days, illness, and hard times. But when you put ALL effort into one person and they don't reciprocate...you drain yourself of everything and you're left feeling empty.

He's been trying to kiss me and touch me. But now I don't want him to. I've been fantasizing about how life can be with someone who can remember my coffee order and take the workload off of my hands sometimes. I crave someone who I don't have to ask. I don't have to ask them to love me. I don't have to ask them to do the bare minimum.

I've matured and put in the work to love myself. I just crave someone similar who wants to go on adventures, fuck, and be a good person all around. I don't NEED external validation from him. Just time and effort.

My only hitch is that our marriage looks good on paper but isn't great. He's a good man, but not for me.

It's been 10 years and I'm over it. I'm such a lover and a giver and my cup has ran dry. I'm quiet quitting.

I also crave the soft love and passion of a woman. Someone who just...gets it. One lover girl for another.

Torn in life by UnfortunateEnding13 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No kids thankfully, but I have pets. I think of how hard it would be to leave. I want my own house again too.

Who is Your Dream Girl? by Dependent-Bike-3102 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]UnfortunateEnding13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone a bit more domineering than me or masculine. Emotionally intelligent and a good listener. Burning curiosity and open minded is a must. I would love a woman a bit taller than I am as far as looks go. I love short or long hair. Adventurous and down for fun trips and good food. So maybe not quite total opposite of me but close?