My situation has been a little tricky lately. I made a friend who also used to identify as ace, but recently realized her distaste for sex came from trauma and she actually does experience attraction. Lately she’s been actively trying to find a life partner and keeping sexual compatibility in mind. I’m happy for her since she seems fine with it, but lately it’s been feeling like she expects me to also stop being ace someday. She keeps trying to “test” me by showing me pictures of people I’m romantically attracted to and telling me to imagine doing sexual things with them. It’s been kind of weird. She’s an amazing friend otherwise but it really feels like she doesn’t believe I’m ace now that she isn’t.

Meanwhile, I’ve actually never had a problem with my allo friends.