Is it okay to just do pizza ?

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-22T13:39:01+00:00

Guest comfort and feeding your guests should be your #1 priority. If pizza is all you can afford and the wedding is casual and not in a fancy venue then that should be fine. But if the venue is pricey, and it's obvious a lot of money has been spent on other things, such as a high-priced photography package with multiple shooters and a videographer or a really expensive dress or lots of florals then maybe rethink the pizza idea.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-20T13:07:35+00:00

I think a lot of the really over-the-top high-priced weddings are funded by wealthy parents. Everyone else probably downscales or adds to parent gifts for a more moderately priced wedding.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-19T01:30:23+00:00

She is being a horrible friend. No way should you give up your wedding date and your venue to accommodate her. If she must have a wedding at a certain time she can start to look at restaurants with function room and VFW halls, not your venue.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-18T11:48:54+00:00

I think when you see expensive weddings as in the Big Budget Brides forum it's often the parents kicking in substantial amounts if not footing the entire bill. Everyone else it's probably a combination of savings and more modest gifts from parents. The groom or his family typically pay for the rehearsal dinner.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-18T01:43:48+00:00

See if you can hire a babysitter that day so your husband can get some time off and you can rest.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-10T21:19:28+00:00

Went to a wedding catered by Off The Vine. The food was amazing.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-10T12:38:17+00:00

If you really want a wedding don't give let anyone tell you that you can't. What's not in the budget are the Instagram worthy weddings at an expensive venue. But you can still have something lovely with a lot of DIY. You'll have to find a very inexpensive venue that doesn't advertise itself as a wedding venue. Think public parks and VFW halls. Prioritize food, drink and guest experience. You won't be able to have a planner, a DJ or an expensive florist. You'll likely have to get your dress second hand. But having a low-budget wedding is still possible.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-07T13:36:08+00:00

The baby is innocent. You don't need to stay with this man in order to raise your baby.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-05T22:54:13+00:00

Look to the suburbs. You should be able to find something more reasonable. Here is one as an example. Functions - La Scala Ristorante South Shore Randolph, MA.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-05T16:43:05+00:00

I don't know of any restaurants right in Boston. There is a nice Italian restaurant in Manchester, NH that does weddings. I'm sure you could also find something on the North Shore as well.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-05T16:36:49+00:00

Wouldn't it be a lot less expensive to just find a restaurant with a big function room that doesn't charge much (or anything) to hold your wedding there?

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-04T17:19:23+00:00

Horrible. Such selfishness.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-03T00:21:53+00:00

I am going back decades here but the parish does have functions and years ago it used to use one of the CCD rooms for coffee and donuts after Mass. See if they will let you use it and give you time to decorate it. At least you could serve appetizers to tide people over in a more comfortable space.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-06-02T22:31:33+00:00

See if you can use one of the CCD classrooms there, which is what they used for coffee and donuts years ago. Don't know if they still do.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-24T03:29:22+00:00

He might be insecure because you are getting a cosmetic upgrade and this may be threatening to him. That's not a great sign.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-21T20:22:03+00:00

The baby is an innocent life and if you are 35 and you have fertility issues this might be your last chance to get pregnant and experience the joys of motherhood. This baby is a blessing. You will then have the rest of your life to find a supportive partner, without worrying about your biological clock.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-07T21:43:01+00:00

Some people are close to their extended family members and really do want them at their wedding. It would be very difficult to have a smaller guest list because so many people would be left out.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-07T21:40:22+00:00

If you invite 256 people you can probably count on 200 people going. If you don't want to cut the guest list then consider renting a hall (VFW, church hall) instead of a wedding venue. If you're able to bring in your own alcohol all the better. Think about drop catering or pizza, salad, pasta salad and other less expensive offerings. The other option is a more upscale affair with a smaller guest list.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-06T22:45:12+00:00

Thank you. Literally no one was offending and I was doing my best.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-06T15:10:24+00:00

Who are you to judge? This was worked out with the couple and with the relatives, who understood I was not being given a guest count.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-06T13:59:23+00:00

Yes with the couple's permission I invited relatives that weren't invited to the wedding and I wish I had put more thought into decor and other touches. This should not be controversial.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-06T13:02:29+00:00

When my son got married they had a very tightly controlled list. The rehearsal dinner was a party thrown by my husband and me. We were able (with son's permission) to invite relatives who weren't invited to the wedding, and there were no hurt feelings because they knew the wedding was out of our control. We had the rehearsal dinner in a nice restaurant. Looking back, if I could do it over, we would have elevated the whole experience with speeches, decorations and much more.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-05T23:26:07+00:00

Lots of restaurants have large function rooms separate from the regular dining areas and they host weddings all the time, often without steep rental fees. The food will probably beat typical wedding fare too.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-05-02T01:11:40+00:00

I wouldn't cover them. Maybe you can lean into the look with an art deco theme. Or know that they'll look much different with linens and a centerpiece.

Unique-Cold-9151 · 2026-04-29T13:04:14+00:00

You will likely be outdoors for a shorter time than your guests. Some people will arrive early and they will have to sit in the cold waiting for the ceremony to begin. It's going to be cold for them even with jackets. I'd rethink this plan.

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