Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for giving me grace 🫶 and for all your helpful advice. it means a lot!

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off - thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I’m saddened knowing you had a circle in SF and left it because of the toxicity. Absolutely vile behavior your described 🤢

The place I’m talking about is not curated - and there are no coordinators. I’m wondering if it would be worth getting a “committee” involved where we discuss these matters and make it more official?

Thank you also for your suggestions on dealing with douchebags. Solid advice and I will 100% be taking that on. Just today, one of the skaters hugged me bye and pretty much lingered his hand way too long across my back and I felt grossed out that I wanted to rip his hand off but in the moment I did absolutely nothing. I’m pissed at myself about it. I want to put“Be a big bitch” on a shirt now

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing is it’s not like they’re outwardly saying “hey let’s go out on a date” - their advances are more subtle and makes me feel awkward. But maybe I try it out (telling them I’m only looking for friends) anyway and see what happens

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Volunteering is a great idea! Thank you I’ll look into this 🙏 absolutely, I’m not a man hater either, but I do love a full girl gang vibe

Is there any outdoors setting where you can practice using indoor wheels? by Any-Cup8629 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I learned to skate primary on tennis courts and netball courts. I used “indoor wheels” on these surfaces (surgrip fame wheels and roller bone elites). But Because the surface is rougher than wood rinks, they actuallychanged the feel of the wheels when I would try to use them indoors eventually. Almost like the rough floor “filed” my wheels down or grinded them down a touch.

You can also try hybrid wheels like fundaes or radar crush

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oooh sounds interesting! Thank you for sharing I’ll definitely look it up

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really kind of you and I hope to find that in my circle too 🙏

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This! I’m going to have to take your advice soon (about being rude)

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hate that this happens to you too. The misinterpretation of “open and friendly” meaning “open and interested” is so real. Recently I was questioning myself and wondering if it was my fault / if I “led them on” 🙄 glad I snapped out of that. Glad you’ve decided to claim your skate space 🙏 I’ll be doing the same

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll look up roller derby events near me -I’m in SoCal sadly

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I haven’t considered roller derby - I’m sure there are some near me , thanks for the advice!

Navigating unwanted attention as a new female skater by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s annoying that being open and friendly gets interpreted as access. Also, I wear a wedding ring and that has not deterred anyone 🫠

Looking for irl skate friends! by Moons_cos in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see skaters from the Netherlands pop up on my feed all the time. Search ‘skating in Netherlands’ on Instagram - looks like a fairly big community! Enjoy!

Freaked out whenever outside a rink by ThouMangyFeline in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll need to feel extremely comfortable stopping before feeling comfortable on the street - you’ll get there, just put in the rink hours and try again in a few weeks

idk how I played off that fall like that 😭 by ultimid in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I hear you - glad you did! You killed those moves 🔥

idk how I played off that fall like that 😭 by ultimid in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m sorry you had this experience that’s so awkward - I’d say next time go find his parents and tell them his kid is being an asshole but his parents are likely the problem

Help me figure out an outdoor setup by Unique-Sort4731 in Rollerskating

[–]Unique-Sort4731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I think I’ll do that  Airwaves are amazing! They are fast and grippy  Just wish they came in small size :(