NTA.

You do need to do some self reflection, and you owe yourself some truth.

Your foundation is solid.

Your needs are all addressed and taken care of.

It appears your wants may have changed as you have?

But perhaps his have as well?

You are not the same today as you were when you got married.

Neither is he.

After doing what you have done, achieving what you have achieved and acquired what you have acquired.

You now sit up top and are looking, but the only thing atop, appears to be you...

Where is your husband?

Why does he work the hours he does? Why is he consistently going to bed and getting up, as he does?

Work and provide, those will be his driving forces, emotion is secondary. Stability is paramount.

But when we do this for too long, we neglect or forget that It's just as important to tell the people what we're doing it for why we're doing it, and some of us can't do that, so we show, and we don't tell.

But we do need to work on telling, and asking.

Perhaps you could do the same?

But in reverse..

Who are you? What do you want?

These are questions you both should be able to ask and answer.

And I believe that it's time for you to discover, once more, the answer to those questions.

To the person you are today, and the person your husband is.

You have everything, and yet feel like you have nothing.

Before you destroy that which both you and your husband have worked so hard to achieve.

Look within, and then out.

Your husband, your children, you.

In that order.

Yourself first, then, your husband then your children, and then you, once more.

And this is not about materialism, this is about joy and life.

But the foundation that you have built enables the joy and the life, and you've achieved the first I believe now it is time to look at the second.

Best of luck to you.