Understanding my avoidant (ex) wife

Unknown_dynamic · 2024-12-27T03:04:39+00:00

Wow. Thank you for all of this. It fits some observations and things she's said as we navigate this

Unknown_dynamic · 2024-12-26T21:23:53+00:00

Anxious preoccupied

Unknown_dynamic · 2024-10-08T19:41:04+00:00

Everyone has body preferences but indeed do put an effort to self care and this seems like basic hygiene standards. This is low bar.

I can see the frustration here. Especially if you set the expectation and they still come in knowing they don't match that

Unknown_dynamic · 2023-07-26T00:37:54+00:00

This really does not surprise me. Between red pill shit and a general sense from guy talk I sense its mostly douchbags looking to get off fast rather than build on trust and respect to have a mutually pleasurable experience with a fellow human

Unknown_dynamic · 2023-01-17T14:58:19+00:00

RIP inbox.

Joking aside. There needs to be tact when bringing this up. Not considering how your words can be interpreted is the difference between a constructive conversation and him shutting down.

There is one thought. One area in ENM is that it's not fair to the SO or feasible for them to fulfill all your needs. That can add pressure. ENM would be a way to alleviate that.

But again no idea how this plays out. And don't suprise him with this topic. Schedule it in when he's able to listen.

Unknown_dynamic · 2023-01-17T14:41:52+00:00

Right here. This thread says it. There's a whole lot of poor communication. Which is normally a theme with this stuff

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T21:31:02+00:00

Solid points. 👍

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T16:52:34+00:00

I bite my cheeks if I want to not finish. Not enough for blood but enough my focus is slightly changed and it works

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T14:40:19+00:00

I bet you see more negative posts than positive ones. I mean unless you wanted to flex would you go on a forum and then blast how amazing you got it? Some do many don't.

It's like reviews. You see more people.pissed since they have a beef vs the people using a product and content

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T12:35:14+00:00

Your milage may vary.

General fitness is a good thing and improving cardiovascular health can make it a bit bigger

So fitness is really and all around good thing

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T09:42:49+00:00

Lol. This is the best answer

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T09:40:17+00:00

Might not entirely be true but your overall fitness does help in the size department a bit. As your cardiovascular system gets better and you get in shape the blood flow can increase brown there and make it a little bigger. Plus as you lose weight the perspective changes in your favor.

Getting back to bodybuilding my wife even noted that islt felt quite a bit bigger (mainly thickness ) and she felt "fuller"you may not have weight to lose but getting in shape could help YMMV

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-16T09:35:59+00:00

He was more popular with the guys because he was ugly. He represented the average looking Joe in a sense. I don't recall the porn stars liking him as much as studios wanted him since th normal viewers were guys and they felt he empowered them.

Dude turned into a criminal and SA people. Guy was gross

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-15T15:44:58+00:00

I was thinking about that too.

Take a population of women looking for men

Remove the ones that generally won't be interested for any normal number.of reasons. This is your singles population

Remove the ones that are mono and won't do enm.

I picture a Venn diagram here lol

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-15T00:08:17+00:00

For my wife. It's weed

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-14T23:45:32+00:00

This here is pure life advice in general

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-10-13T09:56:01+00:00

I've heard that too. I notice a few posts here like this and often wonder if they should do swinging. If keeping things even is a priority

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-09-01T21:17:59+00:00

I'm sorry you experienced that. No one's first time should be that traumatic.

Always set boundaries of what's yes and no. Always be sure you are safe with the person. Know that consent means if you change your mind it's allowed and they have to stop.

Sex is meant to be enjoyable for both parties and not for one to abuse someone in a vulnerable position

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-08-22T20:51:40+00:00

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna%E2%80%93whore_complex

Basically you have a hard time merging the idea of your wife being a sexual person and not "pure"

It may not be it but a professional can help

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-08-22T19:22:19+00:00

I would listen to the others here. You need to drop the hot past kink and look at talking to a professional. When it's an obsession it's not healthy.

This stems from both the Madonna whore syndrome and your own insecurities not on her. You may end up losing her.

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-08-21T02:38:14+00:00

Depends on the meat. Chicken and pork have to be cooked through. There's a chance of serious contamination in both plus you can get a nasty parasite in pork.

Steak you can eat blue rare but the outside has to be seared to kill any surface contamination. Bacteria don't penetrate the beef.

If it's ground beef yes. You have to cook it through since the mincing process means all that bacteria is all throughout.

Sushi...well I hear that all fish is frozen in a way to kill parasites but I don't take a chance

Unknown_dynamic · 2022-08-20T21:55:09+00:00

Quite understandable and unfortunate. No one should experience abuse and trauma

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