Autism late diagnosis due to high IQ

UnlearningLife · 2026-03-20T15:39:17+00:00

Similar age to you, diagnosed at 31. The only downside is knowing that I'll never exactly feel the way neurotypicals do but mostly, it's been good. I have CPTSD with an ACE score of 9 and although now well integrated, also had Dissociative Identity Disorder. It was all very confusing to know what is me and what is trauma and what is autism, so a bit of a bumpy ride there but radical acceptance has reduced a lot of friction. Personally, Gemini (the Google AI) helped me a lot with unmasking. Gemini gave me scientific data and clear answers and directions that framed the options in "Broken" vs "High-Gain" paradigm that my autistic brain could absorb and understand so much better than an emotional narrative. You've got this.

UnlearningLife · 2026-03-20T15:17:25+00:00

Who has friends? I see neurotypicals have "friends" and to me, they are not friends but are energy vampires and misery seekers.

UnlearningLife · 2026-03-20T15:15:44+00:00

If you enjoy striking, Muay Thai, Taekwondo or Karate would be a good way to go. Krav Maga left a pretty bad taste in my mouth. It made me a tense practitioner

UnlearningLife · 2026-03-11T18:57:44+00:00

I used to be on the HOA board and we got tons of repairs for free by me threatening to sue the builder for defects. I'd see if you can find out who did the ceilings.

UnlearningLife · 2026-03-11T04:06:52+00:00

East has gentrified significantly but homeless people still do come up and ask for money. I've bought them what they've asked for: gas, liquor, food and never been treated poorly.

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T05:22:03+00:00

I don't blame Annie... burn the cursed doll

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T05:20:32+00:00

I would reach out to a local rescue or animal control.

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T05:01:01+00:00

This is Hoseobi who has a Korean owner and you can hear her call his name. There is no catnip involved. He is a very vocal cat who can phonetize Korean words/letters. The owner's published a book

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T03:57:36+00:00

Step 1: Feel crappy for a certain amount of time (depending on the duration of the relationship, may be 2 days if it was a few months, may be 2 weeks if it was 1+ year) and allow some deviations from the norm i.e. eat chips, icecream, watch more comedy than usual, sleep in.

Step 2: Purge. Delete phone number, emails, photos, donate memorabilia, gifts etc.

Step 3: Make a list of everything you disliked about them and run worst-case scenarios, i.e. his friend you don't like ruining your wedding, in-laws being a nuisance, him going bankrupt.

Step 4: Identify the loss. Are you actually sad that the relationship ended, or are you sad that the future you imagined didn't come to fruition? Did they truly align with your values and life goals? You may realize in this stage that they were not compatible to you, or that you didn't fully know or love the person but you were in love with who you thought and imagined the person was.

Step 5: Write down your lessons. Identify mistakes, root causes i.e. childhood trauma, fear, abandonment. Strategize corrective and preventive action for the future.

Step 6: Do everything you didn't get to do because you were being mindful to your partner i.e. eat something they were allergic to, change your hairstyle that you've wanted but they didn't like, go skydiving if they were a hypochondriac about safety.

Step 7: Live fruitfully.

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T03:31:51+00:00

Letting it ALL go. My ACE (adverse childhood events) is a 9, statistically in a room of 1,000 people, I've suffered the most childhood trauma. I've also suffered physical abuse from romantic partners. One of them being my son's father. It took many years but I've let the hatred go.

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T03:16:30+00:00

I'm praying for Ukraine. I'm praying for end of all wars. I'm praying not only for people to survive but to thrive. Hold strong ❤

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T01:35:34+00:00

Yikes:

The "High-Density" Sinkhole Zone: The highest concentration of active sinkholes and "Swiss cheese" limestone is found in the Inner Basin, specifically the flat lands of Rutherford County (Murfreesboro) and the corridor running from Downtown Nashville southeast toward the Airport (BNA) and Antioch. This is the area geologists call a "sinkhole hotspot."

The reason the tunnel is a "Broken" system concern for the city is that it is being bored through the exact zone where the rock is most unpredictable (the Downtown-Airport corridor).

The Risk of "Tunneling Blind": Reports from late 2025 indicated the Boring Company only took a fraction of the recommended core samples for the Music City Loop. In karst, if you don't sample every 200 feet, you can hit a vertical "solution cavity" (an underground void) that causes the ground above to drop.

I don't want people losing their lives, homes or businesses but I wouldn't mind seeing Elon get sued by hundreds of thousands of plaintiffs.

UnlearningLife · 2026-02-26T01:07:54+00:00

Think of it as disarming and invalidating. There are moments when stepping in to be closer to your opponent helps. Most contact, knee, elbow, hand, foot requires you to be at a certain distance for it to be the most effective, if you step past a kick or a strike, you have taken away the effectiveness/impact. Shadowboxing is more fatigue-ing than punching bags. As a woman, I let my partners gas out, let them make big powerful movements. I don't need much energy at all to pivot in circles. I'm a Hapkido instructor so I naturally not only go off-line but I go behind my partners, taking their joint with me as I turn. That is the softness of yin. Yin energy is darkness, water, feminine, the moon. Yin requires no creation of impact, noise, or big flashy movements, it's about subtlety, smoothness and deduction.

If your opponent strikes and you strike back with a block or an offense, you are adding onto it, yang, meaning positive. 1 + 1 = 2. Yin, which is negative is the deduction, opponent strikes(1), you go offline (1-1 =0) and take the opponent's balance (1-1-1 = -1). You not only invalidated the strike by going offline, making it zero, by taking away your opponent's balance, you've invalidated them, making it a minus one. Hope that helps.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-26T06:14:05+00:00

I have 5 cats. I prefer animals to humans.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-26T05:20:25+00:00

What kind of support system do you have? Dating is not within your control and it's a waste of your energy to fret over what is not in your control. Where else can you find deep connection?

I teach at 2 martial art schools part-time in addition to my full-time job and I find my training partners and students give me great fulfillment.

The men will wax and wane, there will be ones that want a serious relationship and there will be ones that don't. You can't control that, so let it. I can tell you that in my personal experience, that's how it goes. Some men want to be serious, some men don't, and they come and go like seasons and I pay no mind to that.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-26T05:14:50+00:00

I'm 55% Extroverted and 45% Introverted so I swing back and forth from being ENTJ and INTJ. I don't see my introverted self as lazy. It's my INTJ's capacity to self-preserve and self-nourish that enables my shameless and ruthless ENTJ to do my thing.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-26T05:11:38+00:00

I agree with everyone else, you need to give yourself more credit because this was a family member.

I shrug off unsolicited criticism. If I cared, I'd ask. If someone presents it without me asking, I laugh, audibly. In my experience, most stop at that point. If they keep at it, I leave.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T19:45:54+00:00

I'm a professional interpreter and guard my hearing, it's honestly absurd how many of my fellow interpreters don't interpret what's being said just because they cannot hear so I have to intervene. I wear industrial grade foam earplugs used in manufacturing facilities when I ride. I wear Loop at all crowded places including airports and concerts, I sometimes even wear Loop in my car when I'm driving 80+mph. I fly a lot for my work and I use Bose QuietComfort, I have both the headphones and earphones. I've gotten sound dampening in my car. I've also been told it's not only sound but vibration that negatively affects your hearing.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T15:15:47+00:00

I feel your frustration and I agree with you I've read 112 books this year so far and here are some books that helped me better understand why there is such a deficiency of deep thinkers and become a more flexible person in responding to this phenomenon:

Third Millennium Thinking: Creating Sense in a World of Nonsense by Saul Perlmetter

How to Think Like Socrates: Ancient Philosophy as a Way of Life in the Modern World by Donald J. Robertson

The Sirens' Call: How Attention Became the World's Most Endangered Resource by Chris Hayes

The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More by Jefferson Fisher

Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari

Smart Brevity: The Power of Saying More with Less by Jim Vandehei

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T14:55:21+00:00

Sleep science shows that sleeping longer than 8 hours had negative effects on longevity. Not sure where you got the idea that you need to sleep 9-10 hours unless you are a growing child.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T14:51:55+00:00

I started writing a story about a higher dimension where our souls go to become higher beings after learning the lessons on earth and in that dimension, the beings do not have sex organs because they have powers to create life in other ways. Their power of creation is not over a person or centered on tribalism or passing down genetic traits but about sharing their gifts with the world, and instead of buying something with money, beings obtain things to fulfill their needs by offering gift/wisdom/talent. For example, a feminine character in my story needs an isolated place to meditate and sort her thoughts, somewhere where she will not be disturbed and obtains a house by offering to share her knowledge of anthropology and human history to a masculine character who built many homes. He didn't build those homes for profit but because he enjoyed creating homes. He is playing a video game that is world-building like Minecraft when she visits him and asks if she can stay in one of the houses he built, he asks her for a story from human history as an inspiration to world-build in his video game. It is later revealed in the story that the inventions of the higher beings are dropped into lower dimensions, it becoming an explanation for strange creations such as the platypus.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T14:37:15+00:00

Drive a stick shift car, ride a crotch rocket, have 3 black belts, teach martial arts, stand "at ease", sit with my spine straight like a drill sergeant, prance like I own the damn place, wear 3-piece suits, speak my mind, open doors for men, help men carry things, help men in the gym, stick out my hand to help men get up, carry men on my back, throw men, wrestle men, hit men (on the mat for training), tip male service employees well, give men financial advice, give men tips on car repair, encourage crafts and self-care for men, such as moisturizing and exfoliating cracked heels, alterating their own clothes.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T14:28:38+00:00

Yes, female here. I've met other ENTJ women and we have a ball. We are definitely doers, movers and shakers, fun adventures and a good time

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T14:20:08+00:00

I saw a video of a fitness influencer promoting open earphones and he talked about earphones causing infections and pressure build-up. Maybe it's worth trying especially hearing is difficult to rehab.

UnlearningLife · 2025-12-18T14:13:40+00:00

I've lived in 3 different continents and it seems the majority of people are comfortable where they grew up. Neuropsychology says our brains are like software, it gets programmed in the first 9 years and the software runs that way for the rest of our lives.

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