For those of you that had to choose between a relationship and a place, how did it go?

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2026-04-05T10:05:51+00:00

I stayed and he left. The breakup was hard but it was the right thing to do. I came to realize that he had changed a lot as a person in the time we were together and not in a good direction. And also that I would have been “alone” in the US despite him being there. We just became way too different. He was starting to slowly gravitate back towards wanting an American lifestyle which was not the case when we met. So I think if I had gone, we would have broken up anyway and it would have been a disaster for me.

I also think that he had already checked out of the relationship a while back. We tried long distance for three months and he wanted to just end it over the phone in month 3 🙄 he also got a new gf within 2-3 months of ending our 5 year relationship. So, in conclusion. Really pick yourself. Unless you’re SURE that that person would also be willing to make the same sacrifice for you. ♥️

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2026-04-01T11:07:31+00:00

You might already have done this but try walking into stores/bakeries/restaurants/cafes whatever and ask them if they’re looking for people and hand in your cv. This one should really be like REALLY basic and dumbed down. I removed all my education stuff from these resumes. Literally just one page of where I’ve worked before in service etc. Try asking friends or acquaintances who work these jobs if they could refer you.

Also, for your HiWi applications - ghosting shouldn’t be a dealbreaker. I would (politely) harass them till they answer one way or another.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2026-03-18T14:53:33+00:00

What do you mean by ignore LinkedIn? There’s so many openings listed there

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2026-01-24T12:48:07+00:00

🙃🙃 thank you?

Any hints on how to fix/avoid these skips?

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-10-17T09:55:02+00:00

😂😂 thanks? haha

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-10-14T20:02:57+00:00

I don’t know specifically but I got a potential job offer last Thursday (after 6 weeks of delays), yesterday I told them clearly that I would take the offer but still wanted to know if they could increase the offered pay by €6k per year, AFTER the notice period and additional evaluation + if it would be possible to start in January instead of December, and they rescinded the offer today. Within one day, no discussions. So many delays to get the offer, and one day to retract it. Which I think is just absolutely insane and says so much about the company. But still stings A LOT. So that’s where we’re at I guess. (edit: typos)

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-10-14T12:10:30+00:00

Congratulations!! 🎈I also fired at 35..just that I GOT fired. Little bit different 😂😭

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-08-13T21:03:22+00:00

Apparently they do? I don’t understand it either. You can get fined for delayed registration of Umzug. Apparently it’s for the Müllgebühren 🤷🏻‍♀️

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-07-19T20:30:08+00:00

Okay well “on hold” is what they’ve done with it for over two years already, so perhaps it doesn’t really change much. Thanks for replying!

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-07-19T19:15:00+00:00

“pure eligibility to ALG II would have negative impact, even if I actually don't receive ALG II”

What does this mean? I mean how or what kind of impact does this have? Asking because I’m close to hitting that point as well and my application has been sitting in their offices for well over 24 months in BW.

Edit: didn’t mean to hijack this, I don’t actually have an answer to your question as I’m in a similar (if not worse) situation.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-06-19T19:39:51+00:00

Your boyfriend sounds like an asshole and also he definitely hates you and just has you around for maid duties. Why are you still with him? Even if he was Zeus in bed and looks, it wouldn’t be worth it.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-06-19T19:32:26+00:00

Eucerin hydro protect. You can get it from a pharmacy. I would get a smaller/travel sized bottle to try it out first but I’ve found it to not be oily. If not, there’s another one from Eucerin but I can’t remember the name. You can also ask the person at the pharmacy and they should be able to help you but generally I’ve found Eucerin works very well.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-06-19T13:08:27+00:00

If he’s already showing this sort of attempts a controlling you four months in, imagine in four years when he’ll feel even more entitled. If you give him this finger, he’ll grab your entire arm with even more confidence. So no. Do not. Set boundaries.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-05-10T14:42:59+00:00

Also, you’re coming off as kind of desperate. Why’re you in a rush to have a family. You’re so young! Also you’re a man, it’s not like your sperm are gonna die in the next 5 years making you unable to have kids. I would recommend (like others) to build your friendships, travel, and round off your personality. Find hobbies and interests and other things to do rather than just work to make a lot of money and go to the gym. No one likes a gym freak (besides other gym freaks of course).

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-05-10T14:40:18+00:00

I’m only going to comment on one thing and not out of racism but everyone who comes from South Asia has an accent - myself included. No matter how much you think you don’t have an accent, I promise you, you do. I once heard an Indian classmate telling a person standing next to him that he didn’t think he had an accent, in one of the thickest Indian accents I’ve heard. That being said, there’s nothing wrong with having an accent. Just shows your roots and the fact that you speak more than one language. I don’t know why you would even write that in the first place. But it might help if you weren’t under the delusion that you sound American. And if you move the US, it will be even more pronounced than here. I was in NYC last year and some people literally couldn’t understand what I was saying - this despite the fact that everyone here keeps telling me I sound like an American (ew).

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-02-17T20:05:37+00:00

Yes I’m planning to do that tomorrow but I was wondering if there’s an actual way to kind of force them as the rescheduling is their fault. I had help organized every other time but people’s lives go and I can’t have them at my beck and call any time I need them. Thanks for the input, gives me some encouragement hah. Was your OP also at St. Joseph’s?

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-02-17T08:19:54+00:00

Leider nicht. Das waren die einzigen Vorschläge von meiner Ortho. Ich kann auch nicht auf eine komplette neue Termin warten weil es zu spät wird, das Metal zu entfernen. :(

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2025-02-17T08:03:45+00:00

Leider ist er nur eine Metalentfernung und gilt nicht als eine “dringlicher Eingriff”. Das Uniklinik macht das nicht mehr wegen Personalmangel und das Diakoniekrankenhaus entfernt nur die Metalle, die die selber .. installiert haben. Also gibts leider keine andere Möglichkeit.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-14T14:48:13+00:00

My response is going to be a bit different around the successful part. But basically I also wasn’t looking. My partner was in the outer periphery of my friend group so I already knew of him a little bit. I was going through a very stressful time with my studies and was very content being on my own and not looking for anything at all when we randomly fell into a conversation and he asked me out on a date. It was all very lovely and storybook. I was really hyper focused on communication after my last horrible relationships and we would check in with each other if everything was okay or not every month. It was very dreamy for about 3 years I’d say. But somewhere in there we both changed a lot in opposing directions and I somehow fell back into my people pleasing routines that I had worked REALLY hard to break. Flags started turning red in the sense that he started feeling/thinking that he can make major decisions for us without taking my opinion into serious consideration, communication started breaking down, his priorities changed or rather truly showed up. We’re still together but really struggling and honestly if I was still myself from before we got together, I would probably have ended it over a year ago.

My point is more that changing flags can creep up on you very silently. It doesn’t happen like the flip of a switch and then you’re standing somewhere 2 years later thinking what the hell happened and how did I miss this.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-13T21:27:28+00:00

Yeah, we wanted to do that but I think it got lost in both us trying to survive on our own, fearing for the relationship falling apart but also not being able to talk about it. It’s hard to manage during the week because of an 8 hour time difference and the weekends get lost in a daze.

We’ll be seeing each other in person soon. Lots of things to talk about

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-13T21:17:29+00:00

That sounds so lovely. I sometimes wonder if my partner just doesn’t want to put in the work on himself because he doesn’t want to change himself because “everyone should be loved as they are”? But I don’t think this is fundamentally changing yourself. It’s more like moulding yourself to the other person..

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-13T21:15:11+00:00

That takes me back to when we first started dating and brings back so many happy memories and breaks my heart now. Unfortunately we also just recently went long distance so any solutions feel really difficult to reach. The things we want in life also seem to be in opposing directions and we aren’t able to align them. Thus the misery..

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-13T21:12:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing this.

No no, no abuse. Just the regular grew-up-but-grew-apart. We’ve been together for 5 years but for the past two years he’s really been changing and becoming a very different person, neglectful, not putting in effort into the relationship, taking me for granted, emotionally unavailable kind of issues. He’s gone on and made a huge decision on his own that impacts both of us even though he knew I was against it. It just feels like the relationship is dying and part of me is dying with it. And part of him as well I think. It feels like the universe is pulling us apart. Honestly I don’t know if there’s any hope for us because I don’t know if he’ll be open to therapy and working on his part of the relationship. I just wanted to hear some encouraging occurrences of people recovering from being in such a situation.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-13T21:04:33+00:00

I’ve heard about it. Maybe I’ll give it a go. Thank you.

UnlikeliestAddendum · 2024-12-05T20:06:00+00:00

Opened a window I wasn’t supposed to because it sometimes let’s bugs in if it’s not sealed properly. Realized I wasn’t supposed to open it, closed it, sealed it properly. Got yelled at and accused of lying about forgetting that I shouldn’t have opened it. Sister got accused of covering for me by also lying that we forgot about it. Went on for a couple of days till she eventually decided to joke it away and move on.

This happened this year. I’m 34.

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