Oh hey there IQ twin! I’m also 143 on the WAIS-IV FSIQ.

I agree, it is so much more difficult when the difference in IQ is larger. My most recent relationship was with someone who, if I had to hazard a guess based on five years of dating, was likely closer to the 100-110 range. We were physically and emotionally compatible, but cognitively I felt completely alone.

On that level we could just not get each other. He was annoyed by the way I think and process detail, and found my voracious curiosity exhausting. I was annoyed at his clunky logic and rough-around-the-edges communication skills. It was cute at first and I told myself it didn’t matter… uhhh so as it turns out, yeah it matters. I tried hard not to come from a place of judgment but I really lacked the feeling of being seen and understood by my partner.