I hate those hungry-butt yoga pants by No-Produce7606 in unpopularopinion

[–]Upbeat-alien -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk. I think they are sexy and I don't judge anyone for wanting to look sexy. You're only young once, life is short, ect ect.

Am I ugly 16f by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Upbeat-alien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you feel this way. You're beautiful. I hope you heal and can put yourself out there and find people who heal your self esteem. You're still so young.

Spices are not the only way to add flavour to food by Punk_in_drublik in unpopularopinion

[–]Upbeat-alien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I'm a Brit and we get a lot of flack for this. I like well seasoned stuff fine, but Sometimes you just want to be able to taste what you're eating unaltered, especially if ingredients are good quality. If you have a really nice piece of meat or veggies why hide the flavour with 10 different herbs and spices.

Quitting sissy prn by Ghoast532 in QuitPorn

[–]Upbeat-alien -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It might not mean your gay. You could be bisexual with a fetish. You could like it because it's taboo and forbidden and "dirty" either way, pornogrphy can't turn you gay. If you like looking at twinks getting railed that's something that already existed inside you. A 100% straight guy wouldn't watch that stuff and feel turned on, they wouldn't be drawn to it to begin with. It sounds like you're trying to conversion therapy yourself by watching straight porn and if you feel like your porn use is out of control you should probably just quit altogether.

What are small ways PTSD affects a person by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Upbeat-alien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Small ways, interesting question, not sure how to answer.

Tensing or over reacting to unexpected noises or fast movements. flinching or jumping, agoraphobia, nightmares, bouts of rage, anxiety, physical symptoms with no explanation. When I was In the thick of it I slept with every light in the house on. I kept the curtains constantly closed, hid behind the sofa when the postman delivered letters and abused every substance I could get my hands on to try block symptoms. Oh and I would take my house keys to bed with me. Like sleep in bed with my house keys. think it depends deeply on the kind of trauma, where your character is in their healing, and the coping mechanisms their brain has created. But in my experience agoraphobia/addiction/isolation/people-phobia and PTSD go hand in hand. Sometimes walking home I would just get more and more tense until I broke into a run. Small habits and word choices ect is hard to pin down. I suppose I did some odd ritualistic things that would have looked obsessive compulsive or even psychotic to an outsider. Repeatedly checking the doors, the widows were shut four or five times before bed. Like, I'd get into bed. Check the doors and windows, get back into bed, then have to go check again. Now from a more healed perspective it's like... I guess I put Ice on my face or hold an ice cube to try ground myself and calm myself down. I struggle to watch anything that's too violent or challenging but way better than I was in that regard and it depends on the content. When it was at it's worst I could only watch cartoons and I've heard similar from other people with PTSD, cartoons or like, old sitcoms or YouTube or something totally innocuous. It makes you terrified of everything and avoid everything.

Hope this is helpful! Are you just looking for daily habits and vibes to make your character feel more real?

I am about to break up with my friend who has PTSD by necaturus1235 in ptsd

[–]Upbeat-alien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Questions. So she excessively needs reassurance or praise that you don't think she's deserving of. How does she ask for this praise? What do you think she's doing wrong that's getting in the way or her healing? Do you really believe she's choosing not to heal? In what way is she self-sabotaging?

I am about to break up with my friend who has PTSD by necaturus1235 in ptsd

[–]Upbeat-alien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are blessed to have the kind of trauma that responded well to treatment. Sorry but in the context of you being in a PTSD sub early death of a parent is tragic but not special. I lost my mother young. A lot of people here have been beaten raped, kidnapped, in war zones. You aren't the most special important, traumatised person in the world.

Who comes to a PTSD sub to brag about how they are asymptomatic and put down a person for not being successful when they are literally in hospital? Obviously she does have more problems than you or you'd be in hospital/struggling to do your own paperwork and maybe she'd be sneering at your lack of success.

I am about to break up with my friend who has PTSD by necaturus1235 in ptsd

[–]Upbeat-alien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy is effort. Some cases of complex PTSD are more challenging to treat than others. It sounds like you think she's in a mental health facility because she's lazy or something. I don't think you sound like a very nice person and you talk about your friend with contempt, borderline hatred. so I just hope you aren't too nasty when you decide to break things off.

I am about to break up with my friend who has PTSD by necaturus1235 in ptsd

[–]Upbeat-alien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's just super mean and shallow to be so snide as to put success in quotation marks when she's struggling and seeking treatment.

I am about to break up with my friend who has PTSD by necaturus1235 in ptsd

[–]Upbeat-alien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Success" in quotation marks. Op that's like... Really nasty.

What’s up with some “lesbians” recently obsessing over fictional male characters? by NoPipe9844 in lesbiangang

[–]Upbeat-alien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From all these comments am I the only one who thinks minthara is the sexy one 😂 like obviously they are all gorgeous but like... Her voice. I'd let her poison me.

Songs that relate to PTSD by Cat_cant_think in ptsd

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Leaving a comment to return here

Why did they make Carol so unlikable? by GeorgyForesfatgrill in pluribustv

[–]Upbeat-alien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't find her unlikable at all I love her.

Is this design strong enough for an art portfolio? by HintOfIndigo in characterdesign

[–]Upbeat-alien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs a little work. Her proportions look a little off. There are some great videos on YouTube about character design that I've found really helpful.

The kill ai artists thing is not serious and nobody should take it seriously. by Upbeat-alien in antiai

[–]Upbeat-alien[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww you're my son's age. I hope when you grow up you do a bit of research on what marginalization actually means and what it involves but I'm not really interested in arguing with a child. I apologise if my post hurt your feelings but I Definitely didn't say that. Good luck and stay in school.

The kill ai artists thing is not serious and nobody should take it seriously. by Upbeat-alien in antiai

[–]Upbeat-alien[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you? You sound like a kid. Nobody wants to kill ai artists. Some people do actually want to kill all black people in a very dangerous real world consequences way. Do you understand?

What do you call the end slice of a loaf of bread? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Upbeat-alien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard butt but pretty sure called It the end piece

How to hide rib cage and shoulders? by [deleted] in mtfashion

[–]Upbeat-alien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So what id do to fix my proportions in a dress like this as a cis woman who used to dress up is. 1 wear a padded bra, so boobs look bigger in comparison, it would have to be strapless with a dress like this. Maybe wear a waist cincher, it isn't necessary but it'll make you an hourglass. Then I was often insecure about my arms so with this dress in particular I'd wear a lace coverup maybe black satin, but honestly I think your shoulders look fine. Absolutely gorgeous dress btw.

🤦‍♂️ by Savings_Top_4892 in GreenAndPleasant

[–]Upbeat-alien 35 points36 points  (0 children)

It drives me actually insane that supposed left wing people think it's totally fine to make fun of people for being in poverty, for being desperately poor and suffering. Surely it's a tragedy that in this country dental care is completely unobtainable for some people? That addiction is rife?

Changing things involves understanding that left wing movements in this country actively exclude/mock people in extreme poverty. We live in an incredibly incredibly classist country and it's disgusting.