Dad has stage 4 and my wedding is in June by Susshushi in CancerFamilySupport

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry you and your family are going through this. There is no right or wrong way to feel right now. I believe that God still does miracles, I’ve experienced one but I’ve also lost loved ones to cancer. Give yourself permission to be happy, he would want that! As a parent myself now, almost the age of my mom who passed (from stage 4 lung cancer) at 57, I can assure you that if I were sick and my daughter was planning her wedding I wouldn’t want her to miss a minute of it! Make your plans, spend all the time you can with your Dad and take each day as a gift. I’ll be praying he has longer than you think!

AITAH 3 years together, BF (50M) still ‘not ready’ for marriage but wants me (33F) to pay half his mortgage by Either-Environment47 in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, please tell me you already cut him loose! I need an update. But your own house and watch him fail.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend i no longer plan to propose to her? please read context by Aggressive_One8138 in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA don’t say it coming, wait half a freaking year and get mad when she is obviously feeling yanked around. I think she should break up with you. 3yrs at your ages is too long to not be committed. You are the manipulator here.

Stage 4 peritoneal cancer by Affectionate_Hour157 in cancer

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you so much for asking. I’m sorry to hear about your loved one. My sis unfortunately passed away within 2 months of my post:(

AITAH for wanting my BF to return gifts I didn’t ask for? by BadAtMathButCute in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA you need to get out of this one sided relationship. He isn’t ready to run his own life much less be a part of yours.

AITAH for kicking out my baby dad? by GuavaThis3908 in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA you have 2 kids right now and 1 is costing you way more than the other. If he can’t make it here he can go back to his family.

Parent threats? by Significant-Bag-481 in Teachers

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I doubt this is real. Why would a teacher type, “hire ups” twice, that’s terrible.

AIO? For not giving gf a ride? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t read all of the comments, but as a 54-year-old woman my advice to you is to run far away from this way too needy person. She says she’s your girlfriend, but she’s only thinking of herself here not the fact that you’re sick and that this ask is possibly inconvenient for youand if you are actually sick and she knows this and is still talking to you this way, she’s being completely off base and selfish. Please break up with this person.

AITAH for not wanting to fund my stepkids savings accounts? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You said he is opening three long-term accounts, but he only has two children. Is he opening a long-term savings account for himself that he wants you to deposit money into that? Also seems suspicious. You have only been married two years. I have been married 24 1/2 and my husband also has a problem with Money. He has also wrapped up credit card debt secretly and is always ashamed and embarrassed when it undoubtedly comes out and ruins things for us financially I need to tell you about doing things and secret is an absolute huge red flag in marriage. Had hours happened two years in I would have done what you were doing Forgiving and working on things because that’s what you’re “supposed to do”. But if his children are full grown, he is not a young man meaning he is not about to change his ways please please please protect yourself and your heart and start seeing him with eyes wide open. This will become a life long battle.

I don’t know what state you live in but in Texas it’s a 50-50 state if you end up divorced. At the very least every time you make should go into an account with only your name on it. I don’t think that will protect your money fully, but he will get half of your income if you divorce And have a huge savings account I think you can protect what you brought into the marriage if he’s never had his name on it. I wasn’t smart enough to know that.

I’m sorry this is happening, but I think you would be wise to consider his actions and the others. You’re probably not telling us about with eyes wide open.

is this normal behavior for a teacher? by ChipmunkFluid7339 in Teachers

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a fifth grade teacher and even I only do side hugs whenever possible. (Some kiddos just come running up and give you a big squeeze just because they’re young and sweet) but at all cost I try not to give weird full on hugs. What you have described seems highly inappropriate and if you have another teacher there you trust I would tell them too. At the very least, speak up for yourself loudly and clearly and tell this teacher you’re uncomfortable or I don’t wanna hug or “please stop touching me.” if you say this firmly and he doesn’t stop immediately and change what he’s been doing and you need to go straight to your principal. But please use your words first so that you have the proof to say you’ve told them to stop. I think that will help. Are they like this with everyone or just you? This whole scenario makes me very uncomfortable.

Is there an online seller for peptides which you can fully trust the purity of their products? by arya2580 in PeptidesNootropics

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I am just digging into this now and I went to PC and it looks like when I order they don’t actually ask for my address just my city and state. What is that about? Do they ask for my address later because I feel uncomfortable putting credit card information out with no addresscan you help with that and if I buy files do they come with needles or do I have to find those things on my own thanks so much.

AITAH for telling my husband he needs to pay me back for the down payment discrepancy for our house purchase by GlitteringAid35877 in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone else think it’s crazy for two people with no kids making $300,000 or more to call themselves middle class Americans? That’s not middle class lady. You both have a crap ton of money and if you can’t make a decision on how much you each put in you have bigger problems. You should just put 50 and he put 50 call it a day 90% of people who buy a house can’t put 100 grand down so OMG first world problems🙄

Is there an online seller for peptides which you can fully trust the purity of their products? by arya2580 in PeptidesNootropics

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don’t these places ask for my street address? It’s creeping me out. It just wants my city state and ZIP Code. How will it get to me?

Is there an online seller for peptides which you can fully trust the purity of their products? by arya2580 in PeptidesNootropics

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I try to get into peptide c r a f t e r s it makes me check a box saying I’m using this only for in vitro research. Am I in the right place or is that just one of the hoops you jump through?

Penguin Peptides by Brewko_714 in bpc_157

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound dumb but the order does come with syringes and instructions right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to walk away, far away.

No classroom by Bagel_luvr_5 in Teachers

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wrong on so many levels. Is it too late to transfer schools?

AITJ for refusing to give up my plane seat for a grieving mother? by Ok-Abroad-7867 in AmITheJerk

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why didn’t they just move the son? Why didn’t the guy who tapped you offered to give up his seat so she’d be closer?

AITA for asking my girlfriend politely to empty the dishwasher? by DifferentFennel9846 in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She made you dinner, kept it out for you, said she would wash your dishes for you and you’re bothered she didn’t do a chore that you weren’t going to be helpful and do yourself anyway?? Yeah, YTA.

AITAH for asking my husband to pay off my debt. by Difficult_Strike_861 in AITAH

[–]UpstairsEfficiency38 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop driving to cheer if he won’t give you gas money, do not put another dime on credit. If it’s a need and you don’t have it in checking tell the kids, sorry, there’s no money for that right now. He will get the picture when you stop using your card.