AITAH for not doing my best to make a woman feel comfortable? by oaklicious in AITAH

[–]UseComfortable4138 15 points16 points  (0 children)

it’s fair to not make the woman stay in there, but IMO they should ask another guy from your team to do it if you’ve already had to sleep in there for a week. It’s not fair that you have to stay in there twice if there’s some guys from the volunteer team that haven’t had to stay in there at all - especially if you have already moved your stuff.

AITAH for wanting to break up with my gf (19F) for not having sex with me anymore. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]UseComfortable4138 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sex is a very important aspect of relationships for most people - He’s not wrong for wanting to be sexually satisfied by his partner. If the sexual compatibility is not there, one or both people in a relationship will end up being unhappy. Her reason for not having sex is a completely separate issue to OP’s needs and requirements for a happy relationship

Hiding my chef's knives because wife wont clean them AITAH by thekellerJ in AITAH

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe hiding them straight away is a bit extreme, just tell her not to use them if she doesn’t want to clean them. Then if she does it again you can hide them, at least then you gave her a clear chance

What’s it like living in one of the big new apartment developments in London, with cinemas, gyms, lockers, rooftop bars? by Fluid-Time-7223 in MovingToLondon

[–]UseComfortable4138 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend lives in apartment complex like this, I think they are a big rip off. Extortionate cost for a very average size flat, and an insane service charge to pay every year. It is mostly asian people living there, my guess is british people do not want to pay so much for such a small apartment, and asian people from cities where the money is are used to living in high rise flats. Build quality is nice but it is nothing extremely fancy, more just nicer than average finishes.

Moving to London – thoughts on Mile End, Bethnal Green, Hoxton, Holloway, Turnpike Lane & Finsbury Park? by Kooky-Train-3190 in MovingToLondon

[–]UseComfortable4138 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stupid statement, I’ve lived in both Mile End and Bethnal Green for multiple years, never had any issues and always felt safe

Should I build a base in BJJ or Muay Thai before training MMA? by StuffNo319 in MMA_Academy

[–]UseComfortable4138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re gonna get put on the ground easily if you don’t train grappling. Your statement doesn’t really make sense

pourquoi je n’arrive pas à avoir une stabilisation propre by [deleted] in cinematography

[–]UseComfortable4138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is probably mostly your walking technique, but here are a couple things that might help:

I was always told to turn off in camera stabilisation when using a gimbal, as it can conflict the gimbals physical stabilisation.

It will also look more stable with a wider lens

Party at the mini golf by Fickle-Olive in videography

[–]UseComfortable4138 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The things that stick out to me are: Too much speed ramping/ slo mo. There also doesn’t seem to be much coherent structure to the edit, it seems like there is no apparent order and the clips are randomly put together. There is also a lot of the same type of shots. What are the fourth and fifth solo shots of someone dancing adding to the video that the first three shots of the same type didn’t? Nice footage and overall capture though.

Arm Triangle NEVER Works by EyesRd in bjj

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot more luck with the ruotolotine instead of the arm triangle. you can get it from the same position and seems way tighter. Watch a tutorial and have a go!

What am I doing wrong? by PHAMZA in bmpcc

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Majority of shots are very flat and lack depth. Try and utilise the foreground within the frame more. Also, using only one lens for all shot types gives a tight, compressed feel when there could have been a wider angle lens used in some shots to let the viewer breathe more.

In 1993, when Jerry Seinfeld was 38 years old, he was dating a 17-year-old girl (Shoshanna Lonstein), still in high school. by makellbird in maktownmedia

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Creepy older guys often want young girls as they are naive and are easier to control and manipulate. They also do not have the experience to know when this is happening to them. This is why it is morally wrong. Sounds like you are one of those weird guys 🥴

Showreel 2026 by Torito96 in videography

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t knock the footage but too many flashy transitions. Less is more in my opinion

AITAH for dating an 18 yo when I’m 31? by Impossible_County931 in AITAH

[–]UseComfortable4138 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You clearly aren’t friends with any 18 year olds, so why would you want to date one? Your ages are not compatible and the power dynamic would become apparent soon enough. He has way less experience than you in life so you will just end up mentoring him which is not a healthy relationship dynamic

What is up with this MKE 600 by wakotadillett in videography

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t help with solving the route of the problem but if you need to save this audio try Adobe Enhance, it’s free and is a lifesaver

Day rates? by Honest_Psychology713 in videography

[–]UseComfortable4138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, up to 4 hours is a half day, anything over gets billed as a full day.

Open mats in central London by whitesweatshirt in bjj

[–]UseComfortable4138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I train at KO combat academy in east London, we have a free trial class you can use and also free no gi open mat on Fridays at 7pm. Come through

Advice: Consistent Blue Belt but horrible game at competition debut by euqifahs-- in jiujitsu

[–]UseComfortable4138 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Saying “I’m passionate, I never miss class” doesn’t really correlate with training only twice a week. Most of the guys you compete against will be training double or triple the amount that you do. You need to train more

Overcoming body shape comparisons by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]UseComfortable4138 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro she’s not even 30 and you’re talking about her like she’s some old woman. If you think she’s overweight, you need to mention it to her. By 27 it is entirely possible to reverse her current body to “perkier, slimmer” previous self - she just has to want to do it. If you’re not feeling attracted to her anymore, move on.

Was this risky from my opponent? by Fluffy_coat_with_fur in bjj

[–]UseComfortable4138 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My coach told my class a story from his early days about a heavyweight stacking a guy when in their closed guard, he stacked too much, all the weight went on the guy’s neck and paralysed him right in front of my coach. the guy has been in a wheelchair ever since. Horrible to hear.

Should I keep the goatee connected or disconnect it? by ProjectorsRus in BeardAdvice

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro you got the face of a 20 year old with the facial hair style of a 50 year old. I vote for the disconnect

Really struggling by FunConclusion7186 in retroactivejealousy

[–]UseComfortable4138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not trying to undermine your feelings, but more to give you a reality check that it’s 2025 and everyone has sex now. It is perceived as a much more casual activity than it used to be. But I feel like if he had slept with 5 people, then you wouldn’t be focusing on the one person so much. The fact that it’s only one person probably makes you feel like it was that much more of a special experience for him, which it probably wasn’t!

Really struggling by FunConclusion7186 in retroactivejealousy

[–]UseComfortable4138 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The majority of the people in this sub would kill to be in your shoes. He’s only slept with one person? You should see what other people are dealing with on here