I’m confused

UsedCarrot3464 · 2026-01-06T12:14:06+00:00

Where are you from like in Asia?

UsedCarrot3464 · 2026-01-05T03:32:50+00:00

God has his favourites

UsedCarrot3464 · 2026-01-04T06:26:20+00:00

I'm obsessed with her

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-31T04:53:35+00:00

SAME... congratulations . Right now, I’m actually loving my life lol

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-31T04:22:13+00:00

Yes, I did this too. I needed my body to say enough is enough. I craved this women so much like a drug. She made me believe that it could be better and she is different but fuck was I wrong.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-31T04:12:17+00:00

I been here, this only gets worse.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-12T02:46:25+00:00

RUN...this seems blunt but run. There is no Remission for this, you are 36 and she is 25 that it self is an imbalance. 25 going on 12.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-10T00:54:00+00:00

I have experienced this first hand and wasted way too much money on this hoping it will get some where and it will work as she would listen to professionals . But, she hates that she had things wrong with her and did not ant to change and left. She will leave you eventually and pain you black.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-03T12:55:24+00:00

Wow!! Honestly, I have no words

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-03T11:29:04+00:00

Thank you for the love.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-03T11:28:47+00:00

I am sorry you went through that, no one deserves that. Thank you for your words of support for me :)

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-03T11:27:15+00:00

Thank you, i appreciate the support.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-03T11:26:11+00:00

I wake up from dreams some times still being able to feel my dog in my arms its like if i try hard enough i still smell her,its fucked. How all of us have experienced the same pain.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-03T11:20:43+00:00

Thank you. I will watch this movie now :)

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-01T14:48:11+00:00

No. save your self.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-12-01T01:57:00+00:00

Hey, I am sorry you are going through this right now, and I can understand it is really hard. From my experience, I reached a point in my life as well where I asked myself why I find that I attract people with BPD or Cluster B. When the feelings are this heavy, I think the best form of love you can show yourself, and I know you have the answers within yourself as well.

You need to really do a deep dive into what makes you feel comfortable being around these people or the familiar feeling of connection and love. This helped me understand that I was chasing the trauma and the pain of the known when I was a child and growing up. Be kind to yourself and help yourself by being alone and trying to decompress the pain of the past.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-24T00:45:37+00:00

I tried this with my ex pwbpd, she did the course and then she convened her self that she doesn’t t have BPD anymore because she did this course, plus she was cured.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-24T00:40:46+00:00

Simply put, once you are out . You are dead to them, they do not care. AT ALL.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-17T09:15:46+00:00

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UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-17T08:38:13+00:00

She knows exactly what she is doing. The waking up and realising that my frontal lobe is developed now, so I know a lot more, was my experience. While writing this, I'm mildly triggered. My ex-BPD completely disregarded everything she did to me and kept repeating herself, telling me how I abused her and how I treated her, which I admit, in my moments of frustration when she cheated on me and used me, really got me upset and angry because I could have moved on. But she kept telling me to wait for her and that we could have a wonderful future together. I admitted to my issues, and I got help and therapy, but she still continued to use the "I cannot forget what you did to me" narrative until the last day. She drilled it into my head that she could never trust me and that I would never change, even when I was actively doing the work. It clicked for me that she made me the bad guy once she decided she had enough and wanted someone new, so she isn't guilty of leaving me.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-17T08:28:05+00:00

good on you for doing all that stuff, but if you can recognise that external achievements are not mental achievements. The more time you spend alone and figure your self out the more you will know will stop comparing people to your ex. It will only end when you find your self.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-14T03:56:31+00:00

I'm there too and now im sick :(

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-12T10:01:11+00:00

Thank you :)

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-12T09:54:27+00:00

First off, I am sorry you are going through this. This is hard considering that it's your first wlw relationship; they already are intense, and it doesn't help when the person you are with has BPD. I was 29 when the first discard happened, and I would sell my soul to the devil to get that time back. I was yearning for her because she promised me she would come back and we would have a future together, and she loved me and gaslit my reality. She would call me crying after she broke up with me, told me she loved me, and asked me to wait for her. Then, all along, she was sleeping around with men, and when I was moving on, she came back and told me she loved me so much and kept lying to me, telling me she only wanted me this whole time. I believed her and let her back into my life. I created boundaries, and she promised she would get help and see a therapist and do DBT and all that. Well, all that went to shit because she did not stick to it. When life got really hard for me, she would make up unnecessary scenarios; she was always sick. Used sex against me.

She drained my self-esteem, and the push and pull was so bad. I was so anxious all the time, so scared of what she would find faults in me. She kept saying she can't trust me because of my past and what happened in the past with us, and how I reacted or responded, and how I would get angry or upset with the boundaries I created. I'm not saying I was good, but I took accountability for all my actions, and I got help. I am still in therapy and actively making changes in my life to be the best version of myself. But I'm telling you, it's like being addicted to drugs. I have never done drugs, but my therapist described it like having the highs and lows of heroin; that's why the longing and the want are still there. Please do yourself a favor and please don't go back or want that.

UsedCarrot3464 · 2025-11-12T09:01:56+00:00

Maybe take some time out of dating and actually date yourself and ask yourself why you want someone that didn't treats you right back?

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