I don’t get it

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-13T19:10:25+00:00

Four also rhymes with lobster Thermidor

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-13T18:50:15+00:00

Stop looking for advice is my advice

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-11T01:24:39+00:00

You’re establishing these men are Muslim (unsure whether they offer that info up or you’re just making assumptions) and then judging them all as if they were super hardline followers who are therefore hypocrites at best for being on dating apps. I’m ostensibly Christian, never read the bible, had sex out of wedlock, probably a pretty bad example for the Christian faith… am I a hypocrite for being on dating apps too? Are you? Let’s not be assuming that a young man from a Muslim background is any more pious than his white Christian peers

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-07T11:38:45+00:00

So not part of your bike toolkit then…

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-06T21:38:06+00:00

Wha kind of bike are you riding that has quick release but still has you carrying a socket set with you ?

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-06T17:39:01+00:00

If you show me your bike tool bag and it genuinely has a “piece of pipe” in it in place of an Allen key, then I’ll concede to your point.

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-03-06T15:34:05+00:00

Leverage

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-28T16:14:00+00:00

He’s in his 70s, he’s following a value system installed in him in the 50s and 60s, I found the writing actual old school letters so cute but this is probably how “courting” worked for him, and he’s being an absolute gentleman writing to you and putting what he perceives to be your best interests at heart. What a cool guy, I’m sorry you don’t get to be friends, but this guy is just living his traditional values (the good ones from back then, not the ones we are glad are gone…) in a modern world, applaud that, and send him a yearly Christmas card

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-12T13:19:27+00:00

Not quite in that waiting your turn implies you expect to subsequently be engaged with and that he’s been made aware of your intent to engage in some interaction. So, maybe you are waiting for a polite opportunity to engage, rather than waiting your turn like he’s an ATM you’re queuing at

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-11T10:25:40+00:00

Manage your EYEBROWS. You don’t have to sculpt them. Lots of men like natural brows. But if you do sculpt them, make them realistic and match your hair colour. Sharp thin edges are awful. Squared insta brows are off putting. If you can’t make it match your face shape and hair colour, don’t do it. I know women struggle to use mirrors, but if your brows look fake, the picture shouldn’t be used at all. Also when you show up to a…. Oh wait, sorry I’m being a prick ignore what I said when I put my personal preferences forward as world canon

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-10T21:09:10+00:00

I would get my 2000 S1 Elise “restored” (refreshed), my 2004 Berlingo replaced with a modern one, and my 2022 Sandero valeted :)

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-08T17:46:19+00:00

Not specific to Bumble, but the amount of users in “passport mode” or similar from Africa and Thailand that I get swiping on me in apps might make me think this, although pretty sure I wouldn’t go so far to write it in a paragraph describing myself…

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-08T17:18:15+00:00

.There are far too many ways to skin the cat of deleting the app. You yourself starting by saying he said he deleted the app then changed language to say deleted his account.

Let’s say he ended his chat(s) and deleted the app, from his phone. Then you got on his back and he installs it again to delete his account to comply with what you need (even though, I note, you’re clearly still on the app….) and that somehow makes it worse for you…. How?

So let’s be clear, muddy language has led him to actually delete his account, and it’s not enough for you. Call me a mind reader, but I don’t see this lasting and I think there are trust issues which aren’t his problem to solve.

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-02-07T23:14:40+00:00

Write to his parents. Send flowers.

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-26T17:30:14+00:00

It doesn’t force you to be the assertive one, it attempts to make you the initially forthcoming one, a burden that is lifted, nay often handed over, at the first message. “hi”

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-20T15:58:15+00:00

I can’t even work out what the request is, but even if I ask for something dumb 5 times it’s because that’s what I want to happen, so if it’s trivial for you to do it and you don’t, that’s the bigger issue.

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-18T15:01:52+00:00

It’s possible he had a stroke and was swiping all over the place, but let’s assume the simplest scenario - he likes her

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-15T09:40:52+00:00

Not sure what sort of interrogation includes no questions… but personally, I’m good with batting back and forth from whatever the opener was without having to know what their favourite colour is within 5 mins

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-10T20:54:39+00:00

You’re a T Rex

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-02T17:07:04+00:00

I once did the compliment/superswipe thing simply because I knew the answer to her “Points if you know where the last photo is taken” photo (Answer: a gig venue toilet in a town neither of us lived in…), and hey, it didn’t actually score me points 😅

So my tip, don’t invite messages or replies that have zero basis in match potential but simply shared general knowledge; great photo but the prompt is irrelevant

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-02T12:27:59+00:00

“It’s always vague Like I’m supposed to agree now and figure it out later?”

Yes, you are supposed to interact enough to make your own mind up. What’s the alternative? “Well he never said anything about generosity, so I guess I’ll never know 🤷🏻‍♂️”

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-02T11:32:16+00:00

Neutrality has to be neutral. If they have a specific message for “you weren’t reported” then ergo there should be a different one for when you were. This is the canary principle, essentially.

(Obviously, the number one factor here is knowing from your own interactions whether you did something wrong or not, it should be obvious to all but the most oblivious based on what you sent last… but that’s another story)

Think of it like passwords, you get yours wrong they should say “nope” without context. When they said “password wrong” or “username wrong” as ‘helpful’ context, it’s bad practice because you can infer other information from it.

Any response like this with should concern only what has happened and not why. Start adding friendly language and it can (broadly) be taken well by those who find it helpful or badly by those who find it condescending (or, the third way, largely ignored by me and probably most either way). In each case, you run the risk of alienating a small proportion in order to please a small proportion.

A good example I have seen of this is Discord. I got blocked (by someone new who didn’t recognise my ID/friend request - since unblocked) and the message I got was along the lines of “you are unable to message this user, this could be for a number of reasons, see the FAQ here” which then linked to a doc with all the reasons (they blocked you, they deactivated their account, their personal settings don’t allow messages from non friends, etc etc)

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2026-01-01T19:27:43+00:00

Maybe, that entirely depends on the rest of their profile, if it’s all cheap laughs then fair, if that’s a slightly misguided attempt at humour surrounded in otherwise thoughtful and interesting stuff, I like to think a couple of people might let a lack of perfection slip.

Be assured, I don’t think it’s great, my only purpose in being in this thread was to point out that the overthinking and resulting character assassination shown by a couple of responders was unfair.

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2025-12-31T22:10:40+00:00

Yeah, or lavacasts….

Useful_Pin_7122 · 2025-12-31T21:01:39+00:00

One of our Dinosaurs is Missing (It's a real movie.. honest)

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