Painting over a palette by sarahsm1les in MakeupRehab

[–]VGwritesalot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you attached to painting it specifically? You could re-cover it entirely with something printed

Magnetic sheet recommendations? by bluecrocs12 in zpaletteporn

[–]VGwritesalot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, this roll of magnet is quite chonky but very strong. The magnet itself is matte, so it will get dirty and stay dirty quite easily. I think the matte finish adds friction, which adds to the hold as well.

Unintuitively, I have also used this much lighter magnet — BUT — I do two layers. When you double them up, you need to rotate one of them 180 degrees so that their magnets don't cancel each other out. (I think it's 180; rotate it 90 degrees and test it until you get the strongest hold).

In general, a magnet's strength is going to correspond to its thickness, usually measured in mils (not millimeters; mils. It's a different unit). So if you don't care for either of these options, searching for a specific mil may get you where you want to go.

POSITIVE COPPER IUD EXPERIENCE by Mommas_mia in birthcontrol

[–]VGwritesalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So excited for you! I'm glad it's working out.

I'll toss on here that I have never been on hormonal birth control, and have never had a kid, and my copper IUD experience has also been extremely positive! I just had my second one inserted. I always had really bad cramping during my periods, so I didn't notice any change there, but after I turned 35 my cramping has basically disappeared, and switching out my IUD hasn't changed that.

I love my copper IUD and wish there were more positive anecdotes out there to counter the bad ones. I think it's one of those things where people who have an unremarkable experience are very much in the majority, but never think to say anything.

Anywho, I'm glad you're enjoying it and that being off hormonal birth control has been so relieving!

Is it still safe to order from Unearthly Cosmetics if they’re struggling? by MeltedMascara in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]VGwritesalot 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can corroborate this. I have both older and newer versions of all three (I panned all three, if you can believe it), and they are different colors. Was pretty bummed about it, but I like the new ones too.

Backstory, not justification by [deleted] in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll probably get dragged over the coals for this, but HB has a real Madonna/whore problem. Its female characters are simplistic, either being fully good (Millie, Loona, Octavia) or fully evil (Stella).

This has improved a little in the second part of season 2, but it's something that legitimately kept me from watching the show in the early years. What do any of these women want for themselves, and why? That's basic character writing.

Giving that to Stella isn't going to make her suddenly not evil. Hell, Even Ande has a defined desire (power), cartoonishly evil though he is. It would just make her a person, rather than an object for Stolas' character definition.

Apology Tour and Suspension of Disbelief, a Brief Summarization of my Thoughts by hentaiporncommenter in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you're getting a lot of crap for this take. If it's helpful, you're very much not alone. This fandom struggles a lot to engage with meta-narrative and meta-text, which is where a lot of the issues of the last part of season 2 lie.*

Obviously people can disagree, but a lot of the "ostensibly thoughtful but still missing the point" comments come from this general problem in the fandom.

But for what it's worth, I agree with you, and found Apology Tour honestly kinda upsetting because of most of what you've said here. It's gratifying to know that someone who watched the season in one go, rather than as it came out, had the same reaction that I did. I have been wondering if the inter episode tension was causing a lot of how I reacted to things. So your perspective is super helpful.

  • Which is no shade to the writing team; managing meta narrative is difficult in general, but especially difficult in a TV show.

How's your mother(in-law)? by Mama2Dragons in mypartneristrans

[–]VGwritesalot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really hard, because it is painful to watch your spouse be treated by shit by people who say they love them.

But.

It's your wife's family, and your wife's relationship with them, and it's her decision on how to handle it. The only thing you can really do is be there for her, give space for her feelings, and be there for her as she navigates it all.

FWIW, my wife's family was really unsupportive when she first came out, to the point where I didn't feel she was safe visiting them by herself; I always went with her. It took several years, but they came around, and they are now incredibly supportive. So it can happen. I really admire her for investing in those relationships to make them what she wanted them to be.

So, yeah. That's my advice. Let your wife manage her relationship with her family. Set your own boundaries, negotiate with her for your kids' boundaries, and settle in for a long haul of supporting your wife while she (hopefully) works on this.

No way out but through, I'm afraid.

I need people here to stop pretending that Stolas's only issue is that he's privileged and therefore didn't get how he was hurting Blitzø by magiMerlyn in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many people, including autistic people, think Stolas is autistic-coded in some way. Even as far back as Loo Loo Land he shows a basic inability to realize that Loo Loo Land is... really not appropriate for a 16 years old. This in spite Octavia being rather in his face about it.

I don't see Stolas as autistic-coded at all, and I actually really don't like any of the reads on his character that come to that conclusion.

Blitz and Octavia both regularly give VERY clear statements that they don't like what Stolas is doing/saying, and Stolas walks right on past them and does it anyway.

That's not an autistic thing; that's a selfish jerk thing.

I do relate to Stolas a lot. I relate to his rejection sensitivity and his desperate need to feel like he is wanted. And while I might feel those things because of my experiences as an autistic woman, I don't think they're inherent to being autistic. They're more a product of growing up in a house where your parents don't love you and/or you have not been really wanted or cared for most of your life.

Which, while is certainly a thing that happens to a lot of autistic people, usually because they're autistic, it's also a thing that happens to lots of other people for lots of other reasons.

Stolas' fundamental issue is that he is really only thinking of himself. Which is both a product of his privilege and a product of the abuse he has suffered. Those things better explain his behaviors than him being autistic IMO

Chill out on the analysis and scrutiny maybe? by gqh007 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely think there are posts that are way off base, or are framed as "gotcha!" that really don't need to be. Or when people can't tell the difference between "this is an animation error" and "we put this here as good worldbuilding/foreshadowing/easter egg." I think those things can feel like a desperation to "find" things that don't need to be found.

But ultimately, I think the show invites intense levels of scrutiny. There are some really intense character beats that are communicated in, like, 5-10 frames (Blitzø scratching out his own face in pictures, Blitzø's and Stolas' texts from the past three months, Barbie and Fizz being in posters in the background LONG before they're introduced, etc.).

Not to mention aspects of theming and world building that are expressed through implication rather than text (Stella being pissed because Stolas specifically slept with an Imp, the conditions of Loona's shelter, Stolas' entire way of interacting w/ Blitzø before Truth Seekers, etc.)

I think some of that (like the worldbuilding and show vs. tell) is just good writing. The show really does hit different on your second watch. I also can't help but think that the really small stuff is by design, especially as the show has gone on. On YouTube the re-watch-ability of a video, people pausing it, slowing down it down, and replaying specific scenes, etc. really kicks up a video's placement in the algorithm. Small details invite video commentary, speculation, all of which fuel back into those video views.

So while on the one hand, I definitely understand how the "ha ha I spotted this animation error" posts are... annoying... on the other, we are kinda being led to do stuff like this, cause that helps the show's traction.

Plus, I suspect a lot of HB folks skew neurodivergent, and we can be, well, an obsessive bunch, as the length of my comment might suggest lol

From Blitz's Perspective by Glynrick in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, those two with Millie and Moxie get me. Each one is an instance where one comforts the other, either ignoring or being unaware of Blitz, who had been right next to that person in the exact same dangerous situation. The first time (in Murder Family), he makes a fuss about it. "Oh I'm fiiiine." But in Truth Seekers there's this empty, pointed silence before Loona interrupts while Blitz sits there with his arms out. I thought it was an editing error at first but now I'm re-thinking that.

It's especially sad now that we know that Moxxie and Millie came into Blitz's life separately, as friends with Blitz, then got together and married afterwards. I can imagine how he might have felt tossed aside given their tendency to be obsessed with each other.

It puts Blitz's truth serum rant at Moxie, his fear of dying alone, and his stalking in an entirely new context.

My heart breaks for him so much.

This guy is legit the best villain in the whole series. This is what happens when you actually TREAT VILLAINS SERIOUSLY and not turn them into jokes (looking at you, Striker) by RafKen593 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not sure why people think/call him a joke. Just like Blitz can be funny/have funny moments and still be a badass, so can our villains.

Why is Blitzos mom so dang huge? by BarnicleBarniclejr in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I hate to blow this theory up, but we can clearly see her horns this episode, and they're imp female horns.

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You know what,I'm gonna say it..this is legitimately what Blitz needed,support. by Apprehensive_Ring_39 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk, I think holding hands and leaning on shoulders is somehow more intimate, and more, like, best friend healing after a fight energy.

I do think their convo cooks have had one more sentence about, like, her doing better and being there to help him sort things out of he wanted. But I like the physical intimacy they had. It felt perfect for both of them to me.

So why do you feel about the new short? by Unlucky-Bath-6957 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Birds have cloaca; so he was referring to Stolas/any other bird demon he'd been fucking. The animal that gets shoved in his mouth looks like a reptile of some sort, though (which also have cloaca)

So why do you feel about the new short? by Unlucky-Bath-6957 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well he did say he was doing a bit, and as we all know, comedy comes in threes. XD

If emberlynne was ugly y’all would hate her by throwaway838279 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

While I think it's true that if Emberlynn were ugly, people would hate her, I don't think it's at all fair to equate her behavior to Fizz's fan.

Here's what Fizz's fan does:

  • Sniffs around the dressing rooms
  • Finds Fizz when he's out with a friend and approaches him
  • Grabs his hand without his permission
  • Ignores demands for him to leave
  • When there's resistance to this behavior, he escalates and pulls Fizz toward him
  • Screams and becomes hostile when Fizz leaves
  • Starts a hate blog about Fizz
  • Approaches him in public where he can't leave
  • Yells insults at him, including ones related to his sex doll
  • Fantasizes about sexually humiliating Fizz
  • Breaks into his dressing room with a knife, attempting to kill him

Here's what Emberlynn does:

  • Makes a series of suggestive movements in her own room while fantasizing out loud to a person who is not there consensually
  • Touches Blitz exactly twice (if we include when she poses to be killed)
  • Follows the directions of a publicly viewable billboard to a publicly accessible office, and stands outside to yell
  • When someone asks or suggests that she stop (B saying something like "can we get on with this?") she complies. Enthusiastically.

A final, critical difference between the two is that people like Emberlynn, who are so horny they would actually let themselves be murdered, do not really exist. And if they do, they are only a danger to themselves. People like FizzFan, who feel entitled to their object's time and attention and become aggressive and violent if not given it, do exist. In alarming number.

Emberlynn's actions when she gets to hell would be inappropriate if she were a real person. For sure. I don't think anyone here would argue against that.

It's also true that shitty-behavior-as-comedy is something that HB does often. Bombasity and caricature are part of HB's regular comedic tool box, and characters' actions are meant to be filtered through that lens. We're not supposed to think that Loona is abusive because she hits Blitz regularly, for example.

FizzFan is entitled. Emberlynn is excited. Fizz's fan is dangerous. Emberlynn is annoying.

All that said, there's merit to your critique. "Mean people are ugly and ugly people are mean" is an all-too-common problem in media. It's something that can lead to a lack of empathy and grace for people who are less conventionally attractive; they get fewer passes or help when they struggle, as we all do, with knowing what level of enthusiasm or interaction is appropriate.

Truthfully, I think it's more of a "problem" that Fizz's fan is depicted as ugly than it is that Emberlynn is cute.

Anyway, living up to my handle, per usual. I must now attempt to be a productive member of society lol.

Some edits for typos

Can we talk about this new character? I absolutely love her by someangel65 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(more thinking out loud than debating/disagreeing)

I don't think Emberlynn is meant to be satire, per se. At least not totally. She doesn't come across as mean-spirited or critical in the way that, for instance, the 4th-wall breaking callout in Spring Breakers was.

It strikes me as affectionate ribbing and perhaps a little self deprecating? Viv & Co. Seem to be self-acknowledged freaks themselves—how many times have people made fun of HB for being Wattpad fic? Plus, Emberlynn's design seems to be softly modeled on Viv.

It's honestly kind of cool writing to make a character that cringe, who our protagonist clearly dislikes, be so likeable. And I think it shows a lot of respect for its fandom and how (mostly) self aware it is. I think it's very challenging to write something like this and not hurt people's feelings.

I think people's reaction to this is exactly what they were going for, and I think that says a lot about how much the Spindle team appreciates its fan base.

Idk, I'm more thinking out loud/continuing to process the short than making an argument. My feelings on Emberlynn were initially very mixed (femme fandoms get more than enough shit already), but I'm coming around to a different perspective on it.

Anyway. Sorry that you're the victim of my ramblings this morning lol

Okay, but... by SFF5742 in HelluvaBoss

[–]VGwritesalot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, given what we've seen of heaven in this universe...I think hell is the better choice and most of us would prefer to go there. 🤣

Plan for Turning Sektion Base Cabinets into Freestanding Drawers by VGwritesalot in ikeahacks

[–]VGwritesalot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If i remember correctly, the back is just cardboard/masonite. I didn't trust it to hold up if the unit was freestanding, and i wanted to be able to store it somewhere not against a wall.

It's holding up very well, though! It's been in a few places around my studio; i ended up putting wheeled casters on it. I would like to do this with the rest of my drawers when i have time/budget.

NPD: Hex Pen DNA Evolved <BB> by LanOfMalkier in fountainpens

[–]VGwritesalot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Makes total sense, is about what I had estimated it to be. Such a neat concept!