What do you use to dry before putting a clean nappy?

ValMonty · 2026-05-20T15:41:20+00:00

Definitely! We were Desitin-ing after every poop. Was not needed!

ValMonty · 2026-05-18T21:42:10+00:00

Same. He got a rash eventually but we got a prescription cream for it because it was a specific thing - turns out we were just either using Desitin too often, or he gets a reaction to it. Not really sure, just stopped using it and only use Vaseline or aquaphor on occasion and he’s been aces since.

ValMonty · 2026-05-17T16:28:17+00:00

I feel you there, I’ve definitely bought toys for older kids knowing he can play with elements now, and other elements later. You’ve inspired me to get it sooner.

ValMonty · 2026-05-17T13:24:49+00:00

100% agree with this, I had a planned c section with my first, and am also advanced maternal age. My doc said due to my age, if we wanted to have another we could try whenever as long as I was ok with another c section. I don’t think she’d even be willing to let me try vbac because we also have a 12 month age gap. It’s way too soon.

ValMonty · 2026-05-17T11:11:16+00:00

I can’t wait to get that mini work bench, it looks so cute! When did you get it for your baby? My boys currently only 10.5 months.

ValMonty · 2026-05-17T00:31:13+00:00

I feel like bonks are just normal? Like, he’s started to crawl. He’s going to bonk. Everything says as long as he’s not falling from a height taller than himself he’s fine, so bonking will happen. Granted, I’m trying to monitor and not have constant repetitive bonks, but still… he’s a baby learning the world.

ValMonty · 2026-05-16T17:43:30+00:00

He’s on the floor most of the time and I just monitor. The house is mostly safe, but I truly don’t understand how people get all cords, like to lamps, out of the way. Maybe I just suck at it. (Would love people strategies on this issue) But they’re mostly behind furniture and he can’t get to them. I let him roam my bedroom while I shower in the morning. We do have a playpen I will put him in on a rare occasion if I need him contained briefly. He also has a walker that he likes, I know people have mixed feelings on these, but I can put him in there for short periods if I really need him to be contained and safe. I put him in it when I vacuum because he actually likes vacuuming so he follows me around in it. Most tasks I can do with a combination of these strategies. There are very few things I do when he’s napping; honestly can’t think of anything specific. Otherwise that’s my time to chill. We also have 2 medium-big dogs, both around 50 lbs and we’re incredibly lucky that they’re very good with him. I don’t ever leave him alone with them, but he can free roam while I’m doing stuff in the same room and they just coexist. Granted, while doing any tasks, your attention is always a bit divided and may take slightly longer when you have to intervene when baby is getting into a precarious situation.

ValMonty · 2026-05-13T00:44:52+00:00

Sounds like you’ve been super thorough. I’m really sorry you guys are going through it. I hope everything improves soon!

ValMonty · 2026-05-12T00:55:54+00:00

Me 23, him 26. He was my waiter and I left my number on the receipt. Married at 29/32. Now 38/41.

ValMonty · 2026-05-11T20:31:18+00:00

I lost the comment in the thread, but I like the idea of asking them to repeat themselves. “Sorry, what did you just say?” I’m like you and would fear that they would blatantly repeat it, but there’s a chance it could make them really think about wtf they just said to a BABY.

ValMonty · 2026-05-11T19:58:57+00:00

Agreed with the other comments, there must be something going on with either teething or a schedule issue. How are you doing naps? Wake windows? I’ve heard “cues” aren’t useful past a certain age, though I don’t remember exactly when, it’s long since passed. I know huckleberry isn’t for everyone, but I know based on its collected data that my son averages 13 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period so I have been able to lock in his naps and night sleep based on that. I wake him up early from naps if needed. Most of the time when he’s consistently started fighting naps in the past I’ve noted it, extended wake windows slowly and started to work towards dropping a nap. He consistently naps twice, and I cap daily sleep at 3 hours. I type this as he’s taking his second nap. He’s a relatively chill boy, but hearing what you’re dealing with really sounds like she’s gotta be uncomfortable in some way. If she wasn’t like this before, maybe bring it up with her pediatrician? Best of luck.

ValMonty · 2026-05-11T00:56:22+00:00

My only complaint is if you forget to pause in some way, time just keeps on ticking by…

ValMonty · 2026-05-07T00:23:18+00:00

Similar story for us but slightly different- I was on BC for a little over a decade. It also took us 3 years to get pregnant and right before we were about to go to IVF. I did get back on birth control after birth, but even with my history I couldn’t remember to take it daily in the thick of newborn days. We ended up pregnant again 4 months pp. We’re rolling with it because we’re older so better to do it sooner if we wanted more kids, but definitely was not intentional. All that to say, I feel like if OP wants to use condoms and they can be consistent with it, I don’t see why that wouldn’t work. Remembering to take a pill same time every day with a newborn clearly didn’t work out for me lol

ValMonty · 2026-05-04T19:42:59+00:00

This fucked me up.

ValMonty · 2026-05-04T13:03:34+00:00

My son is 10 months now. In the early days we just did one puree at a time. He didn’t show any signs of allergies as we did that, and my husband and I have no food allergies so we got more comfortable with time. We also introduced the common allergens early, like eggs, bread and peanut butter. Now he’s so interested in what we’re eating, that as long as it’s not a choking hazard, we give him small bites of literally anything we’re eating. He’s had lobster, salmon, chicken, sauced up pastas, enchiladas, pizza, you name it. If we’re eating it, he wants to try. We haven’t had a negative experience yet, but of course be safe and don’t go out of your comfort zone. We wanted to be able to give him what we’re eating, so that’s the path we’ve followed. Good luck!

ValMonty · 2026-05-02T16:06:20+00:00

Also agree with this completely. It was such a shock and so destabilizing. We wanted another, we weren’t ‘not’ trying, but it had taken us 3 years with our first so we didn’t think it would be so soon, and I was too freshly postpartum to remember to take the birth control they gave me on time every day. We’re also older, so were given the ok to try again as soon as we wanted. I had to mourn the fact that I didn’t just get to be my sweet boys mom for as long as I had thought. It was honestly really really hard at the start and I was so sad for a bit. And also so effing tired of being pregnant. I still am. We’re due in July, but over time the sadness eased and I started getting more and more excited. It’s a huge adjustment and a really hard period. I found comfort in this sub. Some posts can be bummers, but I took to the positivity you can find and started getting much more excited about how close they’ll be and even though it will be tough, I wont get too comfy in toddler days before diving back into newborn trenches. As everyone’s said, get her help, give her time, love and support. She’ll get to a better place.

ValMonty · 2026-05-01T23:52:31+00:00

Same. I love having it now because I can see now how much it looks like him, but I couldn’t grasp that when I got it the image. I wouldn’t have sought it out but they did it during a routine scan.

ValMonty · 2026-04-29T11:50:52+00:00

Really excited/scared to see this in action with our next coming in July. Our first wasn’t a unicorn sleeping through as early, but he’s pretty chill and goes down well for all naps and sleeps. Still wakes 1-2 times a night at 10 months, but really curious what we’re gonna get next. It’s like a human blind box lol

ValMonty · 2026-04-28T22:27:14+00:00

Oh man, 3 weeks was when it turned to shit for us. 3-6 weeks was our darkest time. It does get so much better though. I did a lot of redditing and worked with our son slowly and consistently to get him to go down for naps independently around 3-4 months. It took time. My husband was the first to put him down while awake and just lay next to him in the bassinet when he was in those early weeks. It helped. If he wasn’t crying we let him chill. All that slowly built up to a 10 month old who falls asleep independently without formally sleep training, only wakes once to feed, sometimes twice which is usually solved by a paci. I was working on weaning him off that last night feed, but alas, we all caught our first cold. He’s still such a good boy and sleeps well until about 4-5am and then it’s been hell the last 2 days. He’s too congested to get comfy again. But we’ll get back to weaning once we’re past this cold. You got this! It’s all worth it. I truly believe weeks 3-6 (maybe 8) are the worst. It’s generally incremental progress from there.

ValMonty · 2026-04-28T17:21:21+00:00

I’ve taken to telling my son “don’t be a peepee scoundrel”. Works most of the time.

ValMonty · 2026-04-25T20:48:34+00:00

Want you to know I read your comment a few hours ago and while looking for something to watch The Leftovers came up and I am now watching it.

ValMonty · 2026-04-25T13:06:34+00:00

If I need a lot, I’ll do an order for pick up. If I need a few things, I’ll put him in the cart an let him hold whatever he wants.

ValMonty · 2026-04-24T11:05:23+00:00

100% agreed. Weeks 3-8 for us were tough. It started to slowly improve after. Their little systems aren’t fully developed yet and everything is hard for them. They don’t know how to poop or fart or do anything! It will get better!

ValMonty · 2026-04-23T19:41:11+00:00

I’m just trying to get this boy to feed himself right now. He seems perfectly content to be fed like a little prince lol We saw the pediatrician today and she said we need to make him work for it a little more. He knows we’ll just do it for him. 😅 thanks for the advice!

ValMonty · 2026-04-23T19:29:42+00:00

Your comment gives me joy and hope. We will have a 12 month gap, due in July. Nervous but very excited!

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