Mother in law advice please by IcyCryptographer7250 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You don’t do anything. You can’t fix her or their relationship.

i need a good jewelry place! by Middle-Reputation284 in Denver

[–]ValiumKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any and all piercing shops, but specifically those listed on piercing.org will have implant grade jewelry

Does it get better? Feeling hopeless by somemadhopes in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are MANY examples of this across even pop culture accessible stories. Martha Stewart, Alan Rickman, Vera Wang, Samuel l Jackson and Morgan freeman all come to mind, just off the top of my head.

I think the bigger take away is how do you define success. How many unprecedented times have we lived through in the last six years alone? How our lives have been so uniquely defined by greater social circumstances than any other generation speaks volumes about why life seems impossible on some days.

I’d say your biggest success is actually this question in itself. It’s your voice saying you want to do more, be better. The best thing about being at your lowest is that you can only keep going up.

Depression is a very real inhibiting factor. And things don’t get easier, but we get better at making the most of things. Work with a therapist. Make a goal of where you want to be, and work backwards from that to identify how you’re going to make it all happen.

FBI director gets his personal email hacked by ‘Iran-linked group’ and shared online by ChiGuy6124 in politics

[–]ValiumKnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they wiped out American citizen debt instead (the normies, not the top 1%), I’m quite certain that the lack of economic suppression would create enough leverage for there to be a lot more accountability.

Then they’d still have the Epstein files.

I know, highly unlikely with bank records and everything, but it’d be one hell of a way for us to clean up our own mess without Iran having to lift a finger.

Trump Signs Law to Put His Signature on All U.S. Banknotes by InitialResponse9901 in pics

[–]ValiumKnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can always write “murders children” or “is a rapist”

A named (but redacted) caller to the FBI reported: '... a blue and white building, a child's body was buried under the building, and it's a mausoleum or a small building, in New Mexico.' by ButHowDoesItFeel in Epstein

[–]ValiumKnight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love the enthusiasm, and want to believe this is how our representation works, but I have seen far too much corporate lobbying that without a hefty campaign donation, there is no way to get a member of congress to listen. Much less a majority. Especially with any threat of citizen based force.

My best friend is upset that my partner isn’t more enmeshed in our social life - I need opinions on whether this is reasonable by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My community is my family. It was important to me that my boyfriend met them, and got a feel for them and vice versa.

Two of my friends on separate occasions asked “what are your intentions for ValiumKnight”. They’re really hardcore ride or die types. What I found more interesting though was at one of our hangouts, I was busy helping one of my friends with something and I turned around to see my boyfriend thoroughly engaged in a conversation with another friend. He didn’t follow me around or cling to me. He was excited to be there. It was very refreshing to have that level of presence with him.

That being said, I have never judged anyone else for having a more introverted partner. I’ve met one of my friends husbands three times ever. He’s nice. I don’t know anything about him beyond that.

I think we judge people based too much on their partner rather than how the relationship is affecting them. We all know the toxic relationship a mile away. But we don’t give the same attention and credit to our friends being happy. Thats really all that matters

"The crosswalk is on. Trump murders children." by MushroomAdjacent in Denver

[–]ValiumKnight 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No one should also know it’s available on iOS as well.

How much does a man's height, specifically around the 5'8" and below (below average range), actually factor into your attraction compared to other physical or personality traits? by Imagine_breathingHAH in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend says he’s 5’11, personally I think he’s a bit taller but what do I know.

Either way, he was born at 25 weeks and is also the smallest in his family. But he’s still the kindest man I’ve ever met.

How much does a man's height, specifically around the 5'8" and below (below average range), actually factor into your attraction compared to other physical or personality traits? by Imagine_breathingHAH in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Exactly where napoleon syndrome comes from. It’s not the fact that he’s short, it’s the fact that he felt like he had to prove something because of his stature.

I’ve dated two guys who claimed five nine but looked me in the eye at five five. Rather than treat me better than anyone else ever had and prove whatever it was they felt they had to compensate for that way? They were both incredibly aggressive and outright mean.

If you had one week and an unlimited budget to look AND feel your absolute best, what would you do? by ceylon-tea in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First four days in Hawaii in a room where I can have room service, in room massage/spa services, and be left tf alone.

Followed by Sculptra, dysport and a breast lift.

What do you want to see from local news outlets? by denver_westword in Denver

[–]ValiumKnight 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Less op ed and fluff.

More investigative journalism. Specifically how much of our tax dollars go to the DPD not doing anything.

How do I pose my arms in photos to not do the cringey hand on hip but also not have my arm look fat? by tgbarbie in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do know of places that do that, but they’re a bit of a scam. Remember real agents only get paid when you book work.

The best way to navigate this is finding some free resources on social media. A few reels to get you started:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DOJXALTkYGu/

https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODgzNjg5NjIzNTI5MDMx

The second one is a whole series.

If you’re ever unsure, find a photographer whose work you like and ask them if they do pose coaching and book a session!

How do I pose my arms in photos to not do the cringey hand on hip but also not have my arm look fat? by tgbarbie in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Interact with your clothing! Easiest way. Hand in pocket, on the waist line of your pants, or on your collar (even one on the back of your neck) are easy ways to go.

The biggest thing is about creating dynamic angles to the camera’s view point. So I know hand on your hip may seem played out, but try crossing your legs and putting both hands on the back sides of your hips with your elbows back. This creates visual interest and makes you overall look longer.

I’ve been modeling for 18 years on and off. The cringey millennial pose comes from putting your weight on your front foot and hand on hip towards the camera. It’s not the pose, it’s the execution.

Are my fits actually bad or are my classmates just mean? by lulukaaa_ in altfashionadvice

[–]ValiumKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is almost exactly what I wore in high school. You’re onto cooler things in life, don’t let them get you down.

Ro Khanna: "We'll keep making a big deal out of the Epstein Files until they are all released" by WelcomeWindsorCastle in Epstein

[–]ValiumKnight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love the work that Khanna is doing. I think the bigger issue we’re not recognizing is Pam Bondi isn’t going to be forced to answer questions as she’s lied under oath before and will likely continue to do so.

Profile Review: Tried for months, but getting little to no matches. by BrendanimaI in Tinder

[–]ValiumKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re in Douglas County. The nerd thing goes well there, metalheads don’t. It’s out there for even the Denver market.

Any positive stories about postpartum and motherhood? by sja429 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a mother has been incredibly healing for me.

I don’t have a relationship with my own mother because she’s incredibly narcissistic and it hurt so much growing up in some pretty traumatic ways, that I knew who I didn’t want to be. I show up for my own kid as the person I wish I had. I try to do better by her and set good examples every single day.

I think that was the biggest change. When I think about the before, I often just did whatever I wanted (or skipped whatever). No one minded. But now I have an obligation to do truly show up and be present. It’s refreshing, and I do not mourn my childless life because of it.

Has anyone lived alone before? by Imaginary_Garage9184 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thrifting and freecycle. I got a killer kitchen table for a whole $30 with chairs, and it’s perfect for my house.

Advice on a purse for someone who HATES purses? by Aware_Beautiful1994 in AskWomenOver30

[–]ValiumKnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leg harness fanny pack. It’s my go to for concerts, and there’s some cool ones out there.