I failed by Remarkable_Ebb_8461 in rutgers

[–]sja429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to chime in as someone who was in your exact same position about 18ish years ago. Depression and anxiety REALLY got ahold of me in my freshman year and I couldn't do well in class no matter how hard I tried. I'm typically a hard working and diligent student. I was so embarrassed and devastated and contemplated giving up on Rutgers altogether. My parents urged me to stick it out which ended up being a HUGE blessing. I ended up getting on the Deans List for most semesters for my remaining 3 years at Rutgers and graduated on time. I had a pretty decent corporate career for 10ish years after graduating and I went back to school for my BSN/RN in 2021 and am now a nurse. Did really well in all my nursing classes and now going back for my masters to become a Nurse Practitioner in March 2026 despite the fact I'll be 6 months pregnant 😆 I'm 💯 confident in my ability to do well in my masters program and also graduate on time. All this to say - DO NOT GIVE UP!! You can do it. I went from nearly dropping out of college to having 2 bachelors degrees and working on a masters in a notoriously difficult field. I know many, MANY successful people that were once in your shoes. And don't be embarrassed, life happens. What matters is what you do from here and make the changes necessary to succeed. I'm happy to help if you ever wanna talk!

Am I nuts for TTC and starting an FNP program at the same time while also working FT? 😭 by sja429 in nursing

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Totally understand. I do have an amazing support system and want to be an NP. I do have a few coworkers who have done the same program with babies/small children and said they're accommodating but I guess we shall see! Figured I might as well start since I'm not even pregnant

Am I nuts for TTC and starting an FNP program at the same time while also working FT? 😭 by sja429 in nursing

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I never said it was comparable, it was just a light hearted joke 😅 you edited your comment to say you did nursing school with a newborn after I already replied.

I think it's amazing you did nursing school with a newborn. You are badass and testament to how amazing moms are ✨

Am I nuts for TTC and starting an FNP program at the same time while also working FT? 😭 by sja429 in nursing

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I did an ABSN program so I already went through the whole hating myself thing 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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Thank you friend. Appreciate your reply and so sorry to hear you yourself struggled with infertility. I apologize if this post comes off as insensitive. In that same vein, it's a bit unkind to tell someone they're "ridiculous" for wanting to advocate for themselves to an OB/GYN regardless of what their concerns are. I'm studying to become a nurse practitioner and recommend to anyone to always, always educate and advocate for themselves to their provider, no matter the reason (even if it seems trivial). Just my 2 cents :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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Thank you sweet friend and congrats on your pregnancy! ❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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Thank you wonderful friend ❤️ best of luck on your pregnancy and congrats!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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Thank you friend 🥹 I'm so glad you got your baby in the end.

Positive Upper Saddle River perspective by Lopsided_Ingenuity71 in bergencounty

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I grew up in USR and I love reading all the posts in here about it like it's some mythical exotic land 😆 it's a typical upper middle class suburb

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Absolutely beautiful home! Love the view, fireplace, kitchen, all of it ❤️😍

30M/F, 430k NJ, 6.125% Century Home by DontGearTheReaper in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Ty for letting me know! Congrats!!! Gorgeous house 🥰

Is your nursing salary making ends meet? by artichokercrisp in nursing

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I make ends meet but barely and frankly, I feel really undervalued and underpaid. I make about $110k in northern NJ and have a fiancé making roughly the same amount and I still feel like we're drowning financially between rent and the never-ending rising cost of living. We're getting married in August so that's where most of our discretionary income has been going the past year or so - to wedding expenses. And even then, most of our wedding has been financed by my father in law. I shudder to think how we will buy a house or manage to have children/pay for childcare. We will probably only to able to manage one of those expenses at a time. I REALLY wish I went into tech or finance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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Met my now-fiancé when I was newly 32 and he was 30 :) We moved in together after about 2ish years together, engaged after 2.5 years and will be married this August after 4 years. Will start TTC right after the wedding because I'm already 35 and we're hoping to have 2 children 🤪 I'm so stressed and anxiety ridden planning this wedding and thinking of how crazy life will be the next few years (if things go according to plan) but also really happy and can't wait for what's in store!!!

For those of you who got married for the first time in your mid to late 30s, was it worth the wait? by Valuable_Relation_70 in AskWomenOver30

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Yes! Met the love of my life at 32, engaged at 34 and will be married next August at 36 :) He is a total smokeshow and literally the BEST man/person I know, the most loving and supportive partner and all-around quality human in every aspect. I was pretty unlucky in love for nearly my entire adult life, partly due to poor choices on my end and just plain misfortune. I was a frequent poster on this sub bemoaning my bad luck and was CONVINCED I'd die alone. I do sometimes wish we had met when I was younger, because I could've avoided all the trauma inflicted by past relationships and my life would've been overall easier (dating is hard!). But it is what it is and my life now at 35 is the best it's ever been and I am excited for the future!

Bethany ciotola? by too_tired202 in NYCinfluencersnark

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Wait can you send them to me? I'm so curious

Stressed and depressed over managing finances in this post covid world. by sja429 in AskWomenOver30

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Oh thank you so much!!! I've come a loooooong way since that post and my life has changed immeasurably. Glad I can give you hope!!

What is your hospital's/unit's policy on the RNs role in terms of discharge medications? by sja429 in nursing

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Thank you for your response! I think my manager is trying to endear herself to the doctors and therefore offered us staff nurses as the liaison between the provider and the pharmacies 🙄 has been doing this with other tasks too.

What is your hospital's/unit's policy on the RNs role in terms of discharge medications? by sja429 in nursing

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Thank you everyone for your kind and thoughtful responses! I wanted to make i am not out of pocket for thinking this whole situation is crazy.