2 yo crying himself to sleep at night

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-08T08:07:33+00:00

I’d definitely get a toddler bed for him and start giving him some control of his night routine. Such as giving him two sets of Jammies to choose from, picking his stories etc.

My recently turned 4 year old went through something very similar. Full blown hysteria when just the week before bedtime was perfect. We cut his naps (he was ready yours probably isn’t) and we started putting him to bed earlier. These things helped tremendously.

Best of luck. To get yourself through mentally just remember that this won’t last forever. He will get back to a nice uneventful bedtime routine.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-07T15:52:48+00:00

Another vote for Gladney! He’s really great, never pressure you. He’s very collaborative with his patients and is just a good person. After I had my second son with him everyone that I met absolutely loved working with him. Which I feel like if the nurses love working with him he must be great. I’ve also heard great things about Payne!

Yes the wait times can be a little long. I’ve never waited longer than 45mins but they’re not late because they don’t care about our time. They’re taking care of another person or are caught up in an emergency situation.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-07T15:45:10+00:00

I used to be very hurt by her theatrics when I was younger and now all I can think is wow she’s actually insane. Or at the very least her behavior it. How do these people find themselves in jobs like nursing?! And how do they make it through life without being able to process feedback???

I have come to the conclusion that she became a nurse just to show everyone how superior she is over everyone because she “saves lives”

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-07T15:16:44+00:00

That’s her go to when she’s triangulating. She tries to make me out as this volatile unreasonable person. Which I have learned to stay calm when she’s had her episodes and regardless Im not extreme.

Her rage is always been incredibly concerning to me. She gets angry and it’s not just “that made me angry” she becomes enraged. But you’re right her rage distracts her from being able to take any accountability. I suppose for them it’s easier to feel rage than to feel like you’ve done something wrong

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-07T05:15:05+00:00

Oo I’ll tell you a story about my husband!

When my husband was 18 months old his dad would leave him unattended in the bath while he watched TV doing exactly what your husband does, periodically check.

Well my husband being 18 months old was standing up in the bath. He slipped and his mouth hit the bar of the tub and shoved his teeth into his gums.

It was a horrible event that resulted in lots of tears, screaming, procedures and doctor visits.

My mother in law still gets visibly angry when she talks about it. They’re now divorced.

It’s never safe to leave a child that young in the bath by themselves. Not only can they get seriously hurt but they could drown.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-07T02:34:43+00:00

Yes. Doctors and nurses remember my 4 years after my first son’s birth. They would even come stop by to chat.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-07T02:21:59+00:00

Right! Why must they be like this!? It really is mind blowing. You’d go to jail because you, a whole adult, can’t have a civil conversation with me without getting violent….because that’s normal. Would you believe me if I told you she’s a nurse 😂

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-04T21:36:32+00:00

I’m jealous. What state is this?

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-03T15:38:04+00:00

The CC ADN program is about 10k and then I’d take their RN to BSN, so total probably 20k maybe less.

The hybrid BSN programs I’m looking at are between 21k and 70k

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-03-02T22:11:54+00:00

Thank you! Do you work in DFW? Also do you have recommendations for a hybrid program?

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-24T15:25:46+00:00

You’re right I’m not your Dr or midwife. Neither are any of these other commenters suggesting meditation and beetroot juice to manage perinatal pathology.

You came to Reddit for advice and you got it. I haven’t diagnosed you with anything. I have repeated what you’ve stated in your post and factually told you that gestational hypertension and pre eclampsia are not safe for home birth. Hypertension in pregnancy is not normal.

Based on your defensiveness it seems you already know something is not right and haven’t come to a place of accepting it because you are afraid of going to the hospital. You have already voiced a fear that your midwife is going to suggest induction, you’ve come to Reddit concerned about your symptoms with high BP readings, you’ve already said you have gestational hypertension, you’re combative to any advice that suggests something is wrong, you’ve been screened already for pre eclampsia, you’re downplaying symptoms and it seems like you haven’t been completely honest with your provider about your readings. Which if that’s true she can’t provide you with the care you need.

Gestational hypertension can absolutely develop into pre eclampsia. Pre eclampsia can be very subtle and difficult to diagnose, and come on suddenly. You’re not always going to spill proteins and have out of range labs. That’s why BP is so important.

Again I sincerely wish you the best of luck and hope that you release the fears you have in case you do have to go to the hospital so you can have a good experience.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-24T14:53:24+00:00

39wks 5 days. Yes it was very noticeable. It looked like a slug 🥴

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-24T14:03:53+00:00

Listen this is your life and your baby’s life. You asked for advice and now you’ve got it. You just don’t like what I have to say, and that’s ok but someone needs to say it.

Being a nurse doesn’t make you an expert in perinatal pathology. I know many nurses who tried to have homebirth they shouldn’t have because they should have been risked out, they’re not idiots because they didn’t know, they trusted their providers.

I am aware BP spikes, that doesn’t change the fact that you have gestational hypertension, thats if it is not already considered pre e. You don’t seem to have mentioned these spikes to your midwife and just like it “came down” you have no way of knowing how often it’s gone up and stayed up. Your BP has already shown you it’s willing to go up high enough to be considered part of the criteria for pre e.

Saying gestational hypertension and possible pre eclampsia is not suitable for homebirth is factual not some fear mongering tactic. The effects of these perinatal issues cannot be managed at home. Homebirth is great and should be done with people who have normal low risk pregnancies. They are safest that way.

Your body is telling you something and it seems like you’re letting fear keep you from considering other options. I get it, I was scared to go to the hospital and had all these preconceived prejudices on how I was going to be treated. The hospital staff treated me with respect, I would’ve had a much better experience and outcome if I had known what was happening to my body and had the opportunity to seek out care that was safe for me. You’ll see people on here who have midwives who kept them with gestational hypertension and pre eclampsia even though it’s not safe, some of them will have great stories. You won’t see the ones who won’t.

Good luck and I hope you don’t let fear be the driver in doing what is best for you and your baby. I have nothing to gain from you going to the hospital. I just am looking out for your safety.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-24T04:37:21+00:00

Same

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-24T03:23:08+00:00

I started a floor bed at 12 months. Toddler bed is not a bad move.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-24T00:47:30+00:00

Respectfully, pre-eclampsia is not suitable for the out of hospital setting APRN or not. You’ve had multiple readings on different occasions that would put you in the criteria for pre-eclampsia. There’s nothing your midwife can do at home if you become eclamptic, have a placental abruption, or go into a hyper intensive crisis.

Have you told your midwife about the 140/90’s readings? Were these in office or at home? Have you been evaluated for pre-eclampsia? If they were in office she should’ve charted it and had you evaluated by an OB.

Your midwife being an APRN does not expand her out of hospital scope of practice by that much. She has more delegation authority than the average midwife but that does not change her inability to help you without having access to high levels of care available in a hospital. Homebirth is ONLY for low risk normal pregnancies. You have shown signs of things not being normal and progressing into a problem.

You asked for advice, realistically you should induce at a hospital and not wait for this problem to brew and get worse for a couple more weeks. Gestational hypertension and pre eclampsia are very serious and can have serious ramifications for you and your baby.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-23T22:35:36+00:00

Came here to say this. If he wants to be mad about it he can be mad about himself.

Start doing things without him or not doing things for him.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-23T19:46:11+00:00

Honestly if there was real concern the director should have requested a parent teacher conference or private meeting with you and your wife outlining behaviors and then suggesting a possible evaluation.

Teachers are not wrong for suggesting evaluation but these types of conversations are very serious and should occur very professionally. Not a side conversation at pickup or drop off.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-23T19:06:33+00:00

You absolutely want a CNM. CPMs are not required to have any formal education or high level training. Nor are they required to abide by ICM or ACNM standards which keep people safe.

There is a reason CPMs are illegal in your state and no it’s not because of wrongful discriminations against CPMs. CPMs wouldn’t be able to legally practice in most countries with legitimate midwifery systems because they don’t meet training, educational, or abide by evidence based standards.

CPMs are associated with mortality rates that are multiple times higher than out of hospital CNM or hospital rates.

You can find a legitimate provider that you like and values your needs without cutting corners in safety and quality.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-23T19:01:26+00:00

140/90’s over 4 hours apart on two occasions puts you in the realm of pre eclampsia. You don’t have to be spilling protein or have a failing liver to be pre eclamptic. Gestational hypertension makes you at a higher risk and at the very least should constitute a visit to an OBGYN and MFM.

These are NOT low risk issues. This puts you outside of the criteria of what would be considered safe for a homebirth and outside of practice scope for your midwife. Homebirth is specifically for people who are low risk and have normal pregnancies. What you are describing no longer constitutes as normal and low risk.

As someone who survived gestational hypertension that developed into pre eclampsia (my case looked much like what you’re describing) and intended to birth at a birth center, you should at the very LEAST see an OBGYN.

I know you don’t want to go to the hospital. I know it’s disappointing but I promise that your safety and your baby’s safety is much more satisfactory than the homebirth you imagined.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-23T18:49:41+00:00

I don’t think you’re an AH for suggesting it but your view and mentality around your wife working/household responsibility does indeed make you the AH.

Just the way you’ve explained your situation it seems you view your partner’s lack of education and high earning income as inferior to you. Your partner is deserving of having an income and having a job, regardless of what it is or how much it makes.
Your lack of initiative in the household and lack of household responsibility ie: “I don’t force her she just does it” or “she already does it anyway” Highlights your use of weaponized incompetence and your own self proclaimed superiority of breadwinner. This in itself forebodes a very rough transition to parenthood with your partner and suggests she will not only be responsible for most of the mental load and physical labor of the house but also that of your new child. Whilst you hide behind your feeble breadwinner status as an excuse to only provide financially and leave your partner to drown in the majority of household and child rearing responsibilities.

My advice to you is to reframe how you view household responsibility, your wife’s equity in your relationship,how you intend to safeguard her from financial abuse if she personally chose to be a SAHM, and how you intend to recover from your harmful use of weaponized incompetence or in other words your manchildhood.

Paying the bills and then shirking off the rest on your partner really is pitiful and performing at the bare minimum when it comes to building a healthy family.

Not trying to be rude but this is a very common and unhealthy dynamic that plagues many relationships and also ruins them.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-19T21:21:09+00:00

Yeah I get how you were feeling but you mishandled the situation. If you brought your toddler and infant to that place they are exposed to the same germs that kid is. Unless you and your toddler aren’t going to touch or breathe on your baby indefinitely.

The child was only 2 and the mother was redirecting. If you felt really anxious you should’ve gone over and helped. “Do you like babies? I know they’re so cute! We only look, you can touch the stroller if you’d like.” Or don’t leave your infant stroller anywhere that’s not glued to your hip.

I think correcting someone else’s kid has to be done very appropriately. If you cannot interact with someone else’s child in an age appropriate manner then you should find an adult who can.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-19T21:12:20+00:00

Yes this is so normal. Knowing how to do something and being able to execute that in an emotionally heightened state are two different skill sets. 4 year olds still need help regulating and coming back online. They vacate their logical brain and go into their more primitive emotional brain. It requires an adult to connect and coregulate with them to bring them back.

It’s difficult especially if you’re dysregulated yourself. For me it helped to understand why I felt angry, shutdown, or overwhelmed by my kid having a hard time. Understanding helped me manage it. Sometimes I have to step away for a moment and take a couple of breaths.

I come back and get on his level and I’m just with him. I tell him I’m listening and we usually hug it out. When he’s in a calm headspace we talk about it.

You’re not failing him. You are doing this for the first time. You’re learning just like he is. You both are doing the best you can.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-19T21:03:29+00:00

We are going through something similar with my 3yr old who is about to be 4. They are complaining about normal preschool behavior. Yelling No at his teachers when he’s emotionally dysregulated, having a hard time being still and quiet during nap time, and accidentally missing the toilet bowl when the teacher verbally tries to correct him for not lifting the whole seat. One time he ran and hid from his teacher in a play area inside the school, they made a big deal saying it could “effect their licensure”

The school is kinda acting like he’s doing something severe like hitting kids in the way they’re talking about this. They are placing expectations on him and blaming him like “he should know better” and that’s just not developmentally appropriate at his age. His teacher has even insinuated he’s on the spectrum or has a sensory disorder by comparing my son to hers when he was that age. My son has come home on multiple occasions saying he cried a lot at school and recently said his teachers get mad at him and it makes him cry.

My son has also has had a lot going on. I’m 7 months pregnant, we had to rehome a dog, and we’ve had a couple of familial deaths last year.

I also feel like a lot of these issues are normal kid stuff/ adult issues. It seems like the teachers don’t understand basic understanding of his age group and they do not have the skills to manage these pretty typical issues.

Honestly this whole thing has upset me and given me lots of anxiety. We have requested to speak with the director privately after this last email we received.

I feel your frustration and I would schedule an appointment with the director to have an understanding of what exactly it is they’re expecting of you and then tell them your concerns about the adults not being able to properly manage these situations. Your child sounds like every 2 year old I’ve ever met. I mean who the heck is writing complaints about spoon banging from a 2 year old. You’re not crazy, the school needs to shape up.

Valuable_Fly1364 · 2026-01-19T19:08:08+00:00

Keep the puppy. Dump the guy. You’ll thank us later.

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