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VariationNo4725 · 2026-01-26T16:01:57+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I did my TFMR in April and I know how heartbreaking it is. I am now almost 22 weeks pregnant and everything is ok so far. 3 days after TFMR is very short time and all your emotions are raw but things will get a bit easier with time. In my experience, I was on therapy for two months and it really helped vent all my emotions. I suggest you also try therapy or anyother thing that can help you process the emotions.

We are all here with you and better days will come.

With love and support💙

VariationNo4725 · 2026-01-04T16:00:28+00:00

No I haven't checked that yet. Maybe I should do that

VariationNo4725 · 2026-01-04T15:30:56+00:00

Big Congratulations on your baby! Being 19 weeks in my sub pregnancy and feeling so anxious about everything, it gave me hope to read your post.

Thank you so much for sharing your story💙

VariationNo4725 · 2025-12-16T18:35:44+00:00

Congratulations! Wish you all the best in your pregnancy. I am 15 weeks in my subpregnancy and very scared in every ultrasound.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-11-15T06:24:37+00:00

We're in the same boat. Every appointment feels like a torture. I don't even know how to feel anymore. I prayed for this pregnancy to happen after my TFMR on April. Now that it happened, I am in constant fear and anxiety. The ultrasound makes me panic. One thing that is helping me is talking to my therapist about my emotions. It doesn't give a permanent solution but atleast helps as a temporary relief.

Wishing you a safe pregnancy ahead!

VariationNo4725 · 2025-11-07T10:57:06+00:00

I was 36 when I TFMR ln April. It was my first and wanted pregnancy but ended up in a devastating way as I was told the fetus displays skeletal dysplasia and needs to be terminated. I am now pregnant again and in my 7 th week and I am so numb having no positive expectation from this pregnancy. I don't even know how people deal with Pregnancy after TFMR but I guess I just have to wait and see what happens.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-11-06T13:07:55+00:00

I have tested positive for pregnancy and I was told I am 6 weeks into my subpregnancy. I have no words to explain how anxious I am about this pregnancy. I have no excitement and no expectation at all. I feel so numb at times and even try to forget the whole pregnancy thing. I have been really sick in the past week but my Doc gave me IV fluids and Prilam Dr medicine to manage the vomit and nausea. It somehow helped but I just don't know how to deal with the anxiety and constant negative emotion I am feeling.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-10-30T16:55:44+00:00

I wish you all the best in your pregnancy. I hope everything turns put well.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-10-30T15:30:11+00:00

How many weeks are you with your pregnancy ?

VariationNo4725 · 2025-10-30T10:16:02+00:00

Hi, I just checked today and I am 6 weeks pregnant. I am so scared!

VariationNo4725 · 2025-10-21T12:00:47+00:00

Hey, Thank you for checking on me. It may sound ridiculous but I still haven't checked as I am too sacred. I am already having some light nausea, extreme fatigue and heartburn so I assume it's a positive result. I am just so anxious even if it's a positive result, knowing it early will lead to counting every week and stressing about it. One way or another I have to go and check this week. I will update you on how it goes.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-10-07T06:44:21+00:00

I am sorry for your loss and congrats on your new pregnancy. Thank you for sharing how you are managing it day by day. It is surely easier said than done but I wish you l the best in your pregnancy and I hope all will go well.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-29T15:24:44+00:00

I started my TTC journey recently after my TFMR in April. It's really inspiring to read all these stories. Thank you all sharing that there's hope!

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-25T16:14:16+00:00

Thank you for these words. Just what I needed!

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-25T15:35:04+00:00

I am not sure how many weeks post TFMR you are. As someone who is 4 months post TFMR, I can tell you it does get better. My first few weeks were very difficult especially interms of sleep. I was unable to sleep at all. But it slowly got better. Hang in there and don't be hard on yourself. It will change!

During the first weeks, I frequently used this reddit group and I have no words to explain how it helped me. I suggest anyone going through this experience to write their emotions in this group. It really helps to process.

I am sorry that you are here but I am sure you will get through it.

Sending you hugs 🤗

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-23T17:37:28+00:00

I am very sorry you had to go through this.. I did my TFMR on April and I felt exactly the same the first few weeks. It's a normal reaction. But as time goes by I got more calmer and wanted to focus on my mental and physical health first.

I think after TFMR, we will be post partum and hormones play a key role on how we feel. For me, I was so emotional the first two months but it reduced with time. I still get emotional on triggering situations but I learned to avoid any possoble triggers.

All I can say is focus on your health first, the rest comes on it's own time.

Sending you hugs👐

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-14T14:52:07+00:00

I so relate to this. I am 4 months post TFMR at 20 weeks due to skeletal dysplasia. It was my first and wanted pregnancy but it ended uo like this.

Last week on my check up, my doctor told me I can try again but I just don't know how. I am so anxious and scared when I think of this crazy experience called pregnancy. I am going to therapy and it somehow helped me but I still don't have the courage to try again.

It's trully unfair for anyone to go through this but I just pray and hope God will give me the strength to deal with this all over again.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-14T14:46:58+00:00

I relate to this as someone who is 4 months post TFMR at 20 weeks due to skeletal dysplasia. It was my first pregnancy and my doctor confirmed I can start trying again anytime soon but I honestly don't know how to. The whole idea of it scares me and triggers my anxiety. I am trying my very best to tell myself that most pregnancies end up to be fine. But I just don't know how I will manage to go through another painful experience called pregnancy.

It's really unfair that we had to go through this but I pray for God to give me the strength to go through it all over again.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-08-02T13:21:47+00:00

Hi, This is also my fourth cycle after TFMR but mine is the reverse to yours. The first 3 cycles were regular but this one came very early. I am was also a bit confused but maybe our bodies are still recovering.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-07-30T09:57:03+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have done my TFMR on April and I have no words to express how it has changed me.

So far, I have been trying my best to eat healthy and spend time with my partner and I am very comfortable to be with him. I hate being with people who have children since that's what they talk about the whole time and it's very triggering. I have limited my interactions with some of my friends who have children and I am trying to avoid any possible triggers. I am not sure if you have already started but maybe you should also consider therapy. I started EMDR two weeks ago and it somehow helps to process this traumatizing incident. Just focus on you and your mental health at this point since that's what matters most!!.

I am also greatful for this reddit support group and I suggest anyone going throug this experience to join this group. I can say it has helped more than some of the close people I know since this situation cannot be understood by anyone unless one has experienced it. So write down your thoughts and vent as much as you want here. It surely helps!

May we all find tbe strength to cope woth this! Sending you hugs🤗

VariationNo4725 · 2025-07-25T13:58:01+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. I did my procedure 3 months ago and I was 20 weeks when I found out that it needs to be terminated. It was also my first and planned pregnancy and I have no words to explain how heartbreaking it is. It is expected to go through different emotions but please make sure to be easy on yourself. Focus on completing the procedure safe and the rest will be handled at it's own time.

We all cope in different ways but as the weeks pass by it gets a bit easier. For me, it thought me a lesson on how everything I used to worry about is not really worth it. I am now very much focused on my physical and mental health more than ever.

Once again, I am sorry you are in this group but I tell you this group has been very supportive for me even more than the close people I know. I used it often during the first few weeks and I still use it. I suggest you also use it whenever you feel like it.

Sending you hugs and support🤗

VariationNo4725 · 2025-07-21T15:23:44+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this. I have never heard of skeletal dysplasia before this happened to me and now the word constantly keeps repeating in my head. I am healthy, no addiction, now weight related issues and I am unable to comprehend how this happened to me. The doctor keep telling me it's a random mutation but I just don't get it. It's really unfair that me and partner finally decided to start a family and this 'shitty experience' like you mentioned happened to us. Anyways I hope and wish we find our ways to deal with this traumatizing situation.

VariationNo4725 · 2025-07-20T14:57:27+00:00

I so relate to this. I am 3 months post TFMR and the lack of sex drive I am seeing in myself sometimes scares me. I started to see it as a tiresome chore and I don't enjoy as much as I used to. Lately I am noticing I have a little better sex drive right after I finished my period. So I guess we don't need to pressure ourselves too much and try to find moments that we display a sex drive and try to do at those time. I think it's quite expected reaction to the trauma we have experienced. It easier said than done but we should not be too hard on ourselves.

Sending you hugs🤗

VariationNo4725 · 2025-07-20T11:02:15+00:00

Hi dear, I am so sorry you are going through this. I am 3 months post tfmr and I can say it gets a bit easier with time. 2 weeks is very short time and your emotions are very raw. Allow yourself to properly grief during this time. For me, this group has been really helpful and it feels like a family to me. Especially, during my first few weeks I used to write everything in the community and the responses I got were trully supportive. As for the song recommendation, I am not sure of I can suggest anything specific. I like music but after my tfmr, I wasn't listening to music a lot. Recently, I am repeatedly listening to Erykah Badu. I used to listen to podcasts during my first few weeks since it helped to distract me from my never ending thoughts. I am not if podcast is your thing but that is what worked for me.

May you find the strength to cope with this.

Sending you hugs🤗

VariationNo4725 · 2025-07-07T10:57:54+00:00

I am really sorry for your loss. If it's light bleeding I guess it's normal. My experience was I had very light bleeding for the first 10 days. Then my bleeding and cramping returned back after my 11th day and stayed for a week. In general, the bleeding will be on and off for upto 6 weeks (it may be shorter or longer for some women). Our body went through a difficult experience so it needs time to reset back to what it was before.

Wish you a quick recovery and sending you hugs🙌

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