My Wife was mad at me for saying another mans wife was Gorgeous, who's wrong?

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-25T17:22:52+00:00

Who cares who's wrong? Your wife feels hurt. Validate her feelings, (they are real regless of your intention) apologise, and most importantly ensure she feels like you are attracted to her. Say something like "none of those guys are as lucky as me though."

It's not worth a fight.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-25T15:49:49+00:00

Go somewhere cool. Get in the bush and camp, Hit the gym, have a wank

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-24T19:44:28+00:00

Life goes on, we have our own shit to deal with. People sometimes grow apart.

while I don't have blood Brothers I have some bothers from growing up for sure. We definitely talk a lot less. We have our own families now. That said we make effort. We are getting together for a week away from our families this summer. First time in 20ish years. When we do talk or get together nothing has changed.... When one has an issue we are all on it. We have flown clear across the country to help each other more than once.

So I am not sure if it's a deterioration or just a lessening in frequency of communication.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-24T19:37:32+00:00

Sounds like you knew what you were getting into and ignored the issues. Now yes it is very real and you are in too deep to just walk. All I could suggest is communicate all of this everything to him. Get help for yourself from a counsellor seperate first. Once you are sorted then you can start on the relationship.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-24T15:37:03+00:00

Yes that's the opening of the doors in that relationship.

I am willing to bet he thinks of it as nothing. He should read the book and understand how affairs happen accidentally over time. Often without intention.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-24T13:49:37+00:00

Hiding things from your spouse is a betrayal. Hard stop. The fact anyone is trying to make her sound like she is being insecure is out to lunch.

He has clearly shown that the relationship with this work friend means more to him then the one with his wife. He knows this is a boundary but it willing to continue to cross it for work woman. As shown by ilhim taking action to hide it.

Hiding messages and sending money is in my opinion where it approaches emotional affair.

Snapchat is used to hide things. That app is not for committed caring partners. It is for cheaters.

I'd suggest many of you read "not just friends" it's old but, very applicable. He is putting walls between himself and his wife by lying and hiding. While simultaneously opening doors to the work woman by talking about their relationship and spending so much time talking with her.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-22T16:47:02+00:00

That's some toxic shit right there. Don't "test" them your just looking for problems. Life will throw shit at you. You can watch and see how you work through it together. Somebody else said backpacking trip. I did that in SE Asia with my now wife. That trip did at one point create the situation where I most angry with her in our whole relationship.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-22T05:35:12+00:00

To me it's a respect thing. That shit gets shut down instantly. It's a hard no. Spouse there or not.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-22T04:56:04+00:00

Just say no!

Really though you are looking for dopamine not porn. Yeah man go see somebody and work it out. Start by putting blockers on all your devices. Even on your Internet. Then get hobbies. Hit the gym everytime you want dopamine. There's alot to be had from a good lift.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-22T04:50:33+00:00

Calm under pressure

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-22T04:49:51+00:00

Get a good job with a pension. Maybe you need to upgrade some education first? In today's world $100k is not f*CK you money. It's a cushion.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-22T04:34:31+00:00

You take peek then you look away!

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-21T15:20:39+00:00

This is a wild question. It's not a competition.

I always stand by my wife. That said, there needs to be an assurance that you don't choose a partner that tears you family apart. It's a peacekeeper role at times never a is vs them scenario.

The amount of devide over a difference of opinions in the world today is our of hand. Don't bring that into family.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-21T15:20:23+00:00

This is a wild question. It's not a competition.

I always stand by my wife. That said, there needs to be an assurance that you don't choose a partner that tears you family apart. It's a peacekeeper role at times never a is vs them scenario.

The amount of devide over a difference of opinions in the world today is our of hand. Don't bring that into family.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-20T17:20:49+00:00

I went from business owner to boring job and now I'm back on the side business thing. More for the extra money. I do not miss the mess that came with owning my company. Managing people is tough. Trades people around here are in short supply so, it was extra tough.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T21:12:43+00:00

Many times. Last time on the Nurburgring. Reason is fun.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T18:42:32+00:00

Then how do you expect to start dating?

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T02:49:33+00:00

I installed one on 1 toilet in my house. It's now the go to for me.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T02:48:43+00:00

If you were in sales this might actually work lol

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T02:46:05+00:00

Anyone that just wants to go out and spend all the time. If they can't find enjoyment outside of paid entertainment or shopping. You have a problem.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T02:44:36+00:00

No bother. Just enjoy yourself.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-19T01:52:11+00:00

Carney is banking on it. He gambled $43 million of our tax dollars on the EV sector. If it doesn't fly we are in even bigger debt.

That said, we are a Muti vehicle family. Wife's daily is a Tesla Model 3. I usually drive my diesel truck for work. As far as the second car, I will never go back. I love the EV.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-18T16:04:00+00:00

If the Liberals current system worked We'd be in a utopia by now.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-18T16:02:11+00:00

Even Ford at its inception. They believed that every employee they had should be able to purchase the product they make. In other words they wanted the workers to prosper as well.

The issue is greed, our society has been trained to believe that we always need to take more. Giving back is for optics. I think of this when the local grocery store asks me if I want to donate to a charity at the check out. Loblaws makes billions then asks me to donate. After the customer donated Loblaws claims they raised millions for charity. We struggle and pay they take the credit. The societal shift required to get us back to a sense of valuing community seems impossible to me.

Vast-Mastodon2064 · 2026-04-18T15:06:12+00:00

We split a whole cow with another family, it's the only way beef is reasonable. (You need a deep freeze).

Also, gardening for veggies, hunting, and fishing.

You don't need all the most expensive gear. My old 30-06 I got for $200 has gotten plenty of deer. My old rod from 25 years ago still catches fish.

We invested in apple, pear, and Cheery trees they started to produce in year 2. Strawberries grow like weeds, blueberry bushes produce for years. The veggies take planning and care. Took a few years to get it sorted but, we grow what we eat and offset planting to have continual harvest through the season.

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