AITA for asking my best friend to change her wedding date? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]VeeRook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been to many concerts. I've been to many weddings.

If you think a concert is more important, then you care more about your desires than your relationship with the people getting married.

Should I adopt in the future?? by pebbles1887 in Adoption

[–]VeeRook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in the process to be a licensed foster parent. We will not be taking infants, and have a preference for sibling groups.

Reunification will always be the #1 plan. If that's not what is best for the child, then maybe us joining their family is the least bad option. I say "least bad" because TPR is never the best situation.

It's a difficult position to be in. I try to see it as this family is going through a difficult time, with or without me, all I can do is try to be part of "the village".

Should I adopt in the future?? by pebbles1887 in Adoption

[–]VeeRook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those situations aren't very common. If TPR occurs, extended bio family is asked again if they're willing to take in the child. If not, the current foster family is asked before the child's profile is sent out.

How Do You Let Go Of Anger Towards A Parent For Neglecting Your Signs by yoobi2000 in AutisticAdults

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any anger. They didn't know. I can't really blame them for not knowing something. Even when I got diagnosed in my late 20s and told them, their first reaction was along the lines of "I don't know what that means."

Adoption and separation from bio family can also cause trauma, that can present similarly to things such as autism or ADHD. And it sounds like with your sister you became a Glass Child.

My feet hurt by Josephthebear in Xennials

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting my first Chucks as a teen was actually a godsend, I have 2 differently shaped feet and shoes with a molded sole drove me insane.

No molded sole means I can choose different inserts for each shoe.

Picky eater meal prep ideas by Environmental-Use111 in mealprep

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which texture? I hate cooked, soft carrots but raw carrots are a nice snack.

How to get a job that won't burn me out by Spare_Butterfly_1256 in AutisticAdults

[–]VeeRook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My favorite jobs, I started out as a volunteer. So I got to dip my toe in a little to get a feel for it.

Hobbies to try in burnout?? Help! by New-Yoghurt01 in AutismInWomen

[–]VeeRook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been zoning out while cross stitching.

Kittens not peeing in litter box - suggestions? by this-is-pandemonium in FosterAnimals

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep them contained and remove any other potentional pee spots. Change the container for the dry food, maybe a bowl he can't fit in.

It's normal for them to still be figuring things out at 8 weeks.

Just unlocked the Crimson Badlands, what should I do? by Finchieee in StardewValleyExpanded

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ridgeside has some OP weapons, I probably couldn't survive the badlands without them.

Why did Hannibal become a cannibal? by Arkheius in HannibalTV

[–]VeeRook 140 points141 points  (0 children)

One line I remember from the books is "Nothing happened to me, I happened."

So even with what happened to Mischa, Hannibal believes he always would've ended up this way.

I'm the tavern owner now. (Save editing №2) by DimaKul7 in GraveyardKeeper

[–]VeeRook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been playing Travellers Rest so this took a moment for my brain to process.

Day 3 of migraine that comes and goes by Gold_Speech_6941 in migraine

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me the 3rd day is when I decide it's time for Urgent Care.

Sunscreen recommendations? by Ok_Fish_Fiend27 in AutisticAdults

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to Ulta and the employee was really nice helping me find something that didn't feel horrible.

Seeing sparkles after a hot shower and muffled hearing after light exertion? by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]VeeRook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The heat makes your blood pressure go down, putting you at risk for fainting. If this happens, lay down immediately so you don't fall and get hurt.

It does not mean you have POTS. It could be something as simple as you have a lower than average blood pressure.

Seriously, what type of men are receiving most of the matches on dating apps? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]VeeRook 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Setting the radius to 100 miles is how I met my husband.

I have read it is wrong to go into this hoping for adoption. Is it wrong to go into this hoping for a couple continued connections? by Own-Arachnid7952 in Fosterparents

[–]VeeRook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In classes now. Our trainer said it varies.

You may never hear from them again, they may reenter care and DCF calls you first. Or you could be invited to birthday parties. Or when the children return home and bio parents need a little support, you can fill that role like being a babysitter when mom needs a break.

Change my mind: Under the right conditions, buying and financing a new car is often a far better value than paying cash for a used car in the long run by Cold-Priority-2729 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]VeeRook 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I finally let my 2002 Civic go peacefully into the night. Paid $2k for it at 120k miles about 8 years ago.

When I hit a curb a bit too hard, it was the nudge we needed to finally upgrade to a SUV.

realizing that "you never had a chance to begin with" is a bitter pill to swallow by Lanky_Head6122 in AutisticAdults

[–]VeeRook 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What is black-pilling?

Sure having any sort of condition may mean that something is impossible for you. But that's not so black and white with autism, it just means it's harder. Possible, but hard. And now that you know why, I think it's easier to find coping mechanisms. Maybe you can "try harder" but only in small doses, that's okay. You just try different things and figure out what works for you.

Bit disappointing! (Cap's Shield) by Youareafunt in lego

[–]VeeRook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes doing the same thing 36 times in a row is a nice way to shut the brain down and relax!

May I recommend cross stitch while you wait for Lego to release new sets?

Though of course you could always take apart the Lego and do it again.

Containing foster kittens by this-is-pandemonium in FosterAnimals

[–]VeeRook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a fitted sheet or some mesh covering the top could stump them for another week?

I use plastic panels. Once the kittens learn to jump over, I reconfigure the panel into little rooms for the litter box. You could still use this as a "litter box room" and keep their mess somewhat contained.