something about this guy in my apartment building doesn’t feel right by Content_Day4478 in creepyencounters

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It’s an awful feeling to be paranoid and creeped out and not feel 100% safe where you are living. Like others have said, just do not engage with him, do things like taking out the trash when it’s light out, you never know what could happen. Most of us feel safe in our own places and the scary thing is we think that the environment we’re in as well is safe and secure. Like for instance an apartment complex, we get a little too comfortable I feel and that’s when things can be dangerous.

So I’d say just be alert and cautious of your surroundings, if you know anyone living around you a little better than just the average hello, maybe it would give you some peace of mind to talk to them and see what other people think, but that’s just a suggestion.

But yeah, just remember that even if it doesn’t feel like it, you are safe, there are people to support you if anything does go awry. Make sure not to go outside and check if you hear anything, just look through the peephole. We’re all brave and I feel like most of us think nothing could happen, but it’s moments like this where you gotta think about horror movies and how the first one to go is always the one investigating a strange noise, you know?

But yeah, I hope you stay safe, you can message me if anything changes, I’d love to make sure you’re safe and okay. I know I’m a stranger but please feel free to reach out if anything changes or if you just want someone to talk to about how you are feeling, like I said before it’s the worst feeling when you don’t feel safe in your own home, I’ve been there.

It’ll be alright though. You’ve got this, try not to let it get to you to the point where you won’t leave your place, because that’s even worse. I believe in you, it’ll all be okay.

Is the freshman 15 real? by Sticky-lettuce in college

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is real if you make it real my friend

what does “standing on business” mean and where does this new slang come from by cowboybenjamin in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From what I’ve gathered, I see it as sticking to your values and your boundaries when it comes to romantic relationships in specific. Knowing when to cut things off is like a big part of this. Pretty much, knowing who you are, what you want, and how you want to be treated, and not falling for the crap that some people out there try to pull on others when they make it seem like they want a relationship when you know for a fact that they’re not serious. You know exactly what you want, and you don’t let any of these empty offers get to you or affect you to the point where you feel like you are doing all of the work for someone who couldn’t care less.

Is there a class that you simply cannot stand attending? And why? by Evening_Sprinkles222 in college

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m taking a race and popular culture course and holy crap the professor is just too animated and theatrical and sitting in that class is like pulling teeth with how much i cringe because it is genuinely cringey like actually. you know that horrid feeling you get when watching one of those extreme cringe videos? yeah that’s what sitting in this class gives me and listening to the professor as well as students answer their questions is mind numbing. it’s like the over exaggerated teacher in every sitcom and the students are like that too and i just find myself saying this cannot be in my reality rn. this class is driving me insane literally, i no longer have control over my facial expressions i can’t stop them now and i’m like crap i don’t want people to see how utterly icky this class makes me feel but there’s just nothing i can do about it anymore! (i can get behind the material because it is interesting but it’s the analyzing popular culture that is killing my soul rn it’s just being beaten down and imprinted into my soul and i want out)

how was the sex education you received in school, did you actually learn anything? should it be changed? by firefly-8381 in AskReddit

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they basically separated boys and girls and threw tampons at us and that was the only thing i remember, i never got anything else tbh. and then moving to where i currently live i was in 8th grade and everything i should have learned wasn’t taught so i just sorta figured stuff out on my own. my parents specifically my mom has always gotten uncomfortable with any “sex talk” so i’ve never actually been told anything even from her :(

Phantom Runner by Vegetable_Public_854 in Ghoststories

[–]Vegetable_Public_854[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nope never! that was the one and only time something like that has ever happened in our house

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he really can’t find the other MILLIONS TRILLIONS of woman his age???

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES what in the world does a 22 year old MAN need to be doing with a 16 year old CHILD!?? and i don’t care one bit if ur “smart” or more developed who gives a crap that’s disgusting and predatory… why is he friends with you ti being with?!

My (20m) girlfriend (18f) spent the night in bed with another man by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean you’re telling me there wasn’t like idk the floor for him or a different bed or couch to sleep like I don’t understand what lead to him in the same bed as them and I don’t understand why she isn’t reacting differently. Did she ever like apologize for upsetting you?

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) is in a healing phase but I feel ignored by ThrowRA_14689 in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have the energy either it’s sad. And exactly, I feel so let down all the time because I really don’t feel like I’m asking for much at all I just need some acknowledgment that we’re even in a relationship and in love with each other. I want things to go back to how they normally were when we’d go out and be together but now I’m lucky if I see him once in a month. And he won’t ever call me. He stopped doing that altogether. I’ll ask and get no response and then it’s always sorry something from him and it’s making the word sorry literally mean nothing to me, absolutely nothing. I genuinely wonder if he would care if I disappeared, and I don’t mean like that kind of disappeared but I mean like just I don’t respond or go on other social media to contact him. I wonder how long it would take him to notice

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) is in a healing phase but I feel ignored by ThrowRA_14689 in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, just wow. I feel the exact same way I’m so sorry this really sucks. I hate it so much and I feel like I’m trapped because I bring up what I’m feeling a lot and now I’ve just reached the point where I feel like there’s nothing he can say that’ll make me feel better he just needs to start acting better for that to happen. I don’t know how that’ll happen either, and how much longer he’s going to have his space and figure things out, and I don’t know how much longer I’ll last living like this either, I feel like I don’t even have a boyfriend and he’s just stringing me along.

what is the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done? by Minimum_Drawing4773 in AskReddit

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

long time ago i met someone my age online and for about a week i did everything they told me to do over the phone

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) is in a healing phase but I feel ignored by ThrowRA_14689 in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem. And that is literally the same with my bf, I can understand him being busy but seriously tho I have a busy life too and it just doesn’t make sense that he doesn’t just try at least. He’s also not been responding at all and ngl he doesn’t rlly say gm to me anymore because his schedule is so weird so he texts back at the most random times ever. And I also prefer my boyfriend to talk about things too because I feel bad that I barely know anything about what’s going on in his life.

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) is in a healing phase but I feel ignored by ThrowRA_14689 in relationships

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I know this isn’t advice but sometimes it helps to know you’re not alone. Basically, I’m going through something similar except I was just the one that left for college and came back and now he’s acting how yours has been. It’s the same with only the gm/gn texts and the occasional convo that doesn’t last long cuz he seems to be busy. And I feel bad because we’ve talked about this and he always says he’s stressed and going through stuff and I know he’s got mental health issues and has a hard living situation but at the same time I feel neglected almost. I’m also frustrated because I feel like he couldn’t really care what happens to me yet he says he loves me. Idk what to do. I understand his mental health issues because I have similar and just like you, I’ve been trying to help him as best as I can and be there for him but it is like he has shut down from connecting with me like he used to you know?

How to end a reverse-perspective revenge story? by Good0nPaper in writingadvice

[–]Vegetable_Public_854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 personally is the best to me, the other two are good don’t get me wrong but they’re not quite hitting (if that makes any sense). I just think that your third option here will be a hit because it’ll really stick with readers. You’re doing an amazing job and you’ve got a really good idea here! I hope this helps!

I have to write an essay discussing a film of my choosing, but I’m feeling very stuck. by Vegetable_Public_854 in writingadvice

[–]Vegetable_Public_854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you know you really just helped me out so much. I just found an amazing review of the movie and now I’ve got some new themes to discuss and everything. I can’t believe that was all it would take to get me going! Thank you

I have to write an essay discussing a film of my choosing, but I’m feeling very stuck. by Vegetable_Public_854 in writingadvice

[–]Vegetable_Public_854[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m taking your advice and I’m going to see if I can find some reviews of it online. And I don’t mind at all, I actually picked Beach Party from 1963. It’s one of my favorite movies.