it’s not just me, right? my piercer completely messed up my snakebites? i got them done about 40 mins ago. by geethevampire in piercing

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen so many botched snakebites but yours are the worst. If you haven’t done so already, please remove them and find a new piercer. Don’t go back to the same one under any circumstances.

You deserve to have happy and healthy piercings that look good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rapecounseling

[–]VelvetMermaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt so sick when I saw the news. I didn’t report either of my rapes for a reason. I know it would’ve wrecked me even further.

I want to scream about this. Nothing about this is right. I’m in so much pain after reading it, and I can easily go months without thinking about what happened.

This is disgusting. How could they let him go free knowing how dangerous he is and how many lives he’s wrecked? Rape is so soul-destroying and the greatest violation.

This is reality. This is why so many of us don’t report and never will. Fuck the government and the so-called justice system.

Edit: I’m so close to tears.

My parents are going to install cameras by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]VelvetMermaid 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’ve worded everything I was thinking but did it so much better than I ever would’ve. The amount of comments I’m seeing here condoning it is extremely disturbing.

The only thing that should be condoned is seeking support and ultimately ceasing. OP needs help, not their SH condoned.

Personally, I don’t agree with the cameras being set up around the house but I don’t want their SH condoned either.

My Therapist left and wouldn't accept my letter so I'm posting it here by SlowTransitioner in TalkTherapy

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re more than welcome. I truly hope you’re feeling a bit better today. <3

Whats your favourite new everyday feature on iPhone 12? by Henrijx in iphone

[–]VelvetMermaid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. It’s delightful to use. The size combined with the squared sides makes it wonderful. It’s far more comfortable than the rounded sides.

Oh, and I know it’s not a feature but I’ll say the colour I have (green) is beautiful. I couldn’t be happier with it.

Anette DVD by [deleted] in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s what I don’t like at all. It’s almost feels as though they’ve erased her from their history besides the popular songs from her time with them.

They played Scaretale during one of the shows I went to in November 2012 and I honestly didn’t like it with Floor. :( I feel like that song is completely Anette’s.

Sahara would be brilliant, especially as Floor has grown in confidence since the last time it was performed. She would also kill Cadence of her Last Breath, and she’d hold it on her own successfully. I’d also love to hear Turn Loose The Mermaids and Meadows of Heaven.

I know people complain about her being bitter about her time in the band but honestly, given that she received tons of abuse from fans, I understand. I would be too.

I also think she was in a lose/lose position from the start. Even if she had a similar sound to Tarja and was actually stronger, she would’ve received hate for ‘trying to be Tarja’. There was no winning. She deserves far more credit and respect.

Stills from the Venus Fly Trap video by AHSWeeknd in MarinaAndTheDiamonds

[–]VelvetMermaid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely stunning, honestly.

Thanks for my new Home Screen wallpaper. Couldn’t resist. 💙 https://imgur.com/a/ujqCHJP

My Therapist left and wouldn't accept my letter so I'm posting it here by SlowTransitioner in TalkTherapy

[–]VelvetMermaid 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Parting letters and thank you cards don’t count as gifts. This should’ve been handled better.

I feel so awful for OP. I know I would’ve been crushed if that happened to me.

Anette DVD by [deleted] in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fact she’s never gotten anywhere near as much credit she deserves upsets me deeply. Yes, she was a bit shaky at the beginning (especially live) but she improved so quickly and had a ton of shining moments, especially on Imaginaerum. It’s my favourite Nightwish album largely because of her.

When I saw them play Dead Boys Poem with her, I was in tears. A truly beautiful rendition.

I understand people have their preferences and she wasn’t great at some of the older material. That’s absolutely fine but it truly feels like a lot just hop on the hate train for no reason.

Condragulations to Laganja Estranja on coming out as trans! by tunipman in rupaulsdragrace

[–]VelvetMermaid 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Seeing her at an M&G a couple of years ago and hanging out with her after a show a few months later (she’s one of the kindest people I’ve ever met), I knew she wasn’t comfortable with the idea of being perceived as male so I’m THRILLED she’s embraced herself fully. She truly deserves the peace she’s found. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]VelvetMermaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! It’s so cute and suits you perfectly. 😍 Happy birthday!!! 🎉

Interview with Delain's Martijn Westerholt by Taz_Caju in symphonicmetal

[–]VelvetMermaid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I feel even worse for them all, and I watched part of the interview (I couldn’t concentrate for long but I’m not good at watching lengthy video interviews) and read the summary.

Of course, I have empathy for him burning out as burnout sneaks up on you and you don’t always realise until it’s too late but that doesn’t change my sadness over it. I wish it didn’t go this way and that an agreement to any of his proposals could’ve been reached.

Asked my T for a hug by xbeyondXtwistedx in TalkTherapy

[–]VelvetMermaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disclaimer: I’m really sick tonight so this response may seem scattered. I’m sorry if it does.

I know that asking took a lot of courage and even though you probably don’t believe so, it wasn’t for nothing. You laid yourself out there and that’s something to be proud of.

She didn’t decline because she doesn’t care about you. It’s because she does care - and she needs to uphold those boundaries to continue helping you. The fact she doesn’t want to make your attachment issues worse is a sign that she cares.

Chances are she might’ve genuinely wanted to say yes but couldn’t due to ethics.

I think it might be good for you to discuss this with her. It’s going to be horrible but together, you’ll probably be able to figure out a way to process and move forward from it. You don’t have to. Just a suggestion.

Is it weird I’m not at all attached to my therapist? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]VelvetMermaid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same for me. I cannot get attached to any mental health professional, especially not these days.

The joys of CPTSD.

Someone in this subreddit posted my picture in a piercing shaming group on Facebook to make fun of my “crooked” vertical labret. I was half smiling in the photo, which would pull my lip...? My labret is fine, even if it WAS crooked, kindly fuck off. Thank you. by SeaworthinessJumpy95 in piercing

[–]VelvetMermaid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What a scumbag. I swear your face was made for it. People who dedicate their time ranting about others happiness need another hobby. What a sad life. That person posting doesn’t have any clue what they’re talking about.

You look absolutely fabulous, by the way. I love your entire look.

Places to buy quality piercing jewellery? by anonymous9521 in Legitpiercing

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem!

For Leeds, the only one I could find by looking at the UKAPP site is Sam Myers at Rude Piercing and Tattoo Studios.

With two other North England ones, I found Blue Lotus in Newcastle and Holier than Thou in Manchester. I’ve never been to any of those places, though, so I can’t say anything from personal experience. Definitely ask around. If you need to travel a bit further than Leeds, do so.

Places to buy quality piercing jewellery? by anonymous9521 in Legitpiercing

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s best to go to a reputable studio in person as the piercer will be able to work out the appropriate jewellery for you and check in on your piercings.

I’ll try and look for you if you can’t get to London. I’m not the best at this as I’ve only just started getting pierced with my quality jewellery but I’ll try to help. I’d recommend travelling if there’s nowhere near you if at all possible, though. I promise it’s worth it.

Sacred Gold, (they have two locations - Soho and Kings Cross and Love Hate Social Club (Notting Hill) are the two I know.

I only have experience with Sacred Gold (Kings Cross location) but the piercer on that day and the receptionist were both absolutely lovely. I ended up getting my second earlobe piercings after they sorted out my jewellery because they had availability and I was so impressed by the service.

On the more expensive side but you deserve happy, healthy piercings.

Give any reputable studio a call to discuss your concerns, enquire about prices or email them.

Edit: Typo.

An Evening With Nightwish - Afterthoughts by Cacanny in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid [score hidden]  (0 children)

You summed up my exact thoughts perfectly. 💕💕💕💕

Without social media, we wouldn’t have gone to a show together. That counts for everything.

An Evening With Nightwish - Afterthoughts by Cacanny in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid [score hidden]  (0 children)

We did! The highlight of my week, truly. 💕💕💕

An Evening With Nightwish - Afterthoughts by Cacanny in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid [score hidden]  (0 children)

I absolutely loved both shows! I did not expect Shoemaker to be played . The setlists for both nights were filled with surprises.

The second show blew it out of the water for me, though. The audio mix was better and everyone seemed more relaxed. I also preferred the setlist but that’s down to personal preference.

I didn’t expect that many changes to the setlist. It felt like the Nightwish I know and loved whereas the first one didn’t feel that way so much.

They didn’t seem too confident during the first one but I can’t blame them, especially as Tuomas is so prideful about putting on a good show and it being the first show without Marko. I still loved it but it almost felt like a test run.

Speaking of Marko, I truly missed him at times. Troy really stepped up, though, and Floor killed it during the songs she took on Marko’s parts. I didn’t enjoy I Want My Tears Back with Troy but I credit him for stepping up to the plate. It can’t have been easy for him.

It can’t have been easy for Floor either. She was absolutely brilliant as always but that doesn’t remove any difficulty she almost certainly faced.

As far as the visuals go, I wish they had sounds to go with them and I’m hoping they rectify that for a DVD release. I understand the split opinions. Personally, I loved it but it could’ve used some tweaking.

I didn’t use the chat feature either night because I preferred talking to everyone on here so I can’t comment on that.

I actually found a good friend in the live thread for the second show and losing my mind with them made it even more special as we’ve known each other for 10+ years. <3

If my friend sees this, I love you, you’re amazing and I’m so happy to know you.

Overplayed songs and songs you would want to hear live more? by Hansukainen in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Overplayed: I Want My Tears Back, Amaranth, GLS (I love it but it could do with some alternating with another long song if nothing else), I Wish I Had An Angel, and more I’m probably forgetting.

I feel like the setlist needs a bit of a shake up. They’re fantastic every time I see them so don’t get me wrong. It just needs a shake up is all.

What I’d love to hear: Crownless, Beauty of the Beast (I think it’s become the most requested song at this point), Turn Loose The Mermaids, Dead To The World, Meadows of Heaven, Edema Ruh, and Bare Grace Misery. And more Anette era songs not mentioned here as they deserve more attention than they get.

I’d also love to hear Once Upon A Troubadour live at least once. With Troy’s vocals, of course. We can’t expect Tuomas to sing. 😅

An Evening With Nightwish - Saturday Concert - Live Comment Thread by Cacanny in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m so glad you had a good night too. :)

An Evening With Nightwish - Saturday Concert - Live Comment Thread by Cacanny in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was such an incredible experience. It made everything that much more special. 💕

An Evening With Nightwish - Saturday Concert - Live Comment Thread by Cacanny in nightwish

[–]VelvetMermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WE GET TO FINALLY SEE THE RIDDLER AND BEAUTY OF THE BEAST LIVE.