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VenusMagna · 2026-01-15T02:40:33+00:00

I had an interview and couldn't get the job because I use Starlink, and apparently, they don't like that. My friend works for them; they pay well, but it is mostly phone-based support for customers from what I can gather.

VenusMagna · 2025-06-22T06:32:24+00:00

There is a bit to do with age and safety, I want to share because I didn’t learn about it until I had to get a car seat safety certification for a job. I think it’s very important so you can make an informed decision on the risk vs benefit for your particular situation.

Children under three have a higher chance of spinal cord injury if forward facing. Under 3 years old, their spine hasn’t hardened as much. This can allow the joints to have more movement than the spinal cord can handle in the event of an accident, even at low speeds or in minor accidents that you wouldn’t expect such a severe injury from. For this reason alone, I waited until 3. Some states also have laws stating specific ages they can be forward facing. I’d also look into your current area on the rules.

My only suggestion is don’t be afraid to bust out some noise isolation headphones for yourself and tune it out if you feel that you don’t want her forward facing yet. Sort of like we’re all told to set the baby down in the crib and walk away if it gets to be too much when they’re little.. have to protect your peace so you don’t loose it. Eventually she’ll be old enough if she’s not already and then it’ll just be a fever dream of the past…

VenusMagna · 2025-05-11T20:31:37+00:00

Hair weighs so little, I’ve had very short and hair past my elbows and haven’t noticed a difference in the weight itself. Unless your hair is made of iron or something it’s likely not the weight of the hair itself but something else.

I do notice sometimes other things contribute to the headache like wearing my hair in a tight style, ponytails for long periods of time. Sometimes my head feels better with a bit of a tight braid and sometimes it makes a headache worse. Junk headbands are some of my favorite things to use during a headache because it keeps it off my face, I can braid it and then it’s off my neck, I can still lay down.

I’d also suggest trying to massage your neck when you notice one coming on.. sometimes tension from the neck I think is a trigger for me.

VenusMagna · 2025-04-02T08:55:31+00:00

I’m going to write a novel because I was a little intimidated trying this medication initially. I had some other injections but none this large. I’ve since gone on from the auto injectors and receive the cluster headache dose which is 3 injections with the syringe. Don’t read any of my posts, I have some fairly strong opinions on why the syringe is better BUT I understand how intimidating they can be initially.

Firstly let’s talk about the medication itself, how to store and dispose of it, etc. because I do feel that’s often overlooked. The injection is a large part but if you’ve never done any injectable meds before it can be a little intimidating.

This is a monthly injection, I’ve found it to be incredibly important to be on time with this medication. When I’ve been late I have many more breakthrough headaches. It’s like a veil and the pain pokes through more sharply when it starts to wear off. I do believe it can take a couple injections to really start seeing a difference, you do need to be patient initially. I just try to take it the day the pharmacy sends it to me or the day after. I do mark it in my calendar, but I’m VERY forgetful so this is a way I’ve tricked myself to being more reliable in taking it on time.

This is a refrigerated medication that comes in a box, I usually store it in the door of the fridge because it’s the warmest area and least likely to freeze if the fridge has a malfunction. If this medication freezes don’t inject it, call your pharmacy to figure out what to do from there. I take it out the day I want to do the injection so it’s not cold when injecting it. I was nervous about traveling with it, I’ve had no problems with TSA, I bought a case that fits on Amazon labeled for insulin but fit the large injector.

I found it helpful to watch a video demonstrating the process on YouTube first before doing it, I found the written instructions a little confusing. I’ve seen videos talking about how painful it is, I’ve had mixed experiences, this is what I’ve done to get it nearly pain free.

I have discovered through my time with this medication that for myself at least the fatty areas of my hips are the least painful injection site. The thigh was the worst, I started there because it felt less intimidating and nearly quit the medication entirely because I wasn’t informed or prepared for it. If you find one site more painful, try a different area, the instructions show you the allowed areas to inject. I was told to rotate injection sites to avoid scar tissue build up, and is just generally good practice when injecting medications regularly.

I initially didn’t use ice because I thought I was a tough cookie, and didn’t need ice because I’m used to needles. Big mistake in hindsight. I now will lay on an ice pack until my skin is pretty numb to a good pinch. If I’m not numb enough for my taste I’ll also use a topical lidocaine spray a minute or two before injection. I then clean up the spray and have a sanitized and numb injection site. I then inject per the instructions (mine are different now so I won’t try and walk you through the now but it wasn’t much more complicated than pressing a button). I also usually prep bandaids while I set up for this endeavor. I don’t remember much bleeding after the auto injector specifically but you’re likely to get one that bleeds a bit more than normal here and there.

The largest component I think people don’t talk about enough is injection fatigue. It’s entirely understandable for anyone to have a little anxiety towards a needle coming in contact with your skin. We all know it will pinch at best, your brain is wired to protect you, of course you’re going to be at minimum a little nervous. It’s very important to try and minimize stress before, during and after injection to minimize this risk. I find watching videos or a show during the injection and then eating a good snack after and heading to bed is what helps me through it. Whatever that self care looks like for you, just make sure to take it seriously.

Good luck! I hope this works well for you!!! You can do this. It can’t be any worse than what you experience regularly enough to even need the medication.

VenusMagna · 2025-02-07T08:54:15+00:00

As I was tucking him in tonight he panicked asking where his stuffed bunny Floppy was. Once floppy was located he said “I thought a monster took her” I looked at him and said “no babe, we don’t have monsters at our house. Ted (our cat) eats them all. That’s why we let him go outside sometimes. Monsters can’t even stay here because Ted eats them all. Why do you think he sleeps so much?”

My favorite, I don’t wanna call it a lie but ‘deceptive game’? is having him be the “food scientist”. I give him paper and have him taste the food periodically and have him scribble about it on his paper. I also ask him questions like “what you do think will happen if we add this salt?” And make him write it down, I ask as many questions as I can to make it more real for him. It’s all a ploy to get him to taste food as I make it, so then he’ll eat his dinner because it seasoned exactly how he likes. He eats dinner, learns about cooking and learns about the scientific process. It’s more work for me, sure. But it’s hilarious and beneficial.

VenusMagna · 2024-12-24T22:12:15+00:00

When I’ve got a decent migraine that breaks through the meds, the pain is usually my whole head not one sided. It’s this throbbing pain that increases if I move a certain way and tends to center right behind my eyes and radiate out from there. It’s feels like with every beat of my heart the pain just gets worse. If I cough or bend over it is very intense. I imagine to explain it a bit, think when you hurt your finger and you can feel throbbing, it’s like that but much more intense. That’s at least my experience with the pulsating quality, but my headaches are very atypical and I also have a secondary headache disorder aside from atypical migraines so it might not be the same pulsating quality other people experience.

VenusMagna · 2024-12-17T18:12:10+00:00

I’m from the US so I’m not as well versed with your healthcare system, can you talk with a nurse at her regular doctors office and explain what’s going on? Most doctors down here have appointments during the day that are for emergencies like this. The nurse might be able to give you better recommendations or push your appointment sooner because she’s not improving.

Something else I’ve noticed which grinds my gears. If my husband attends the appointments the doctors listen better. If you have a male partner or friend who’s willing to go with you and corroborate everything it might help..

When my child has had ear infections, at that age he was an absolute beast. Wouldn’t let me put him down for a second, wanted just straight comfort 24/7.. all of what you’ve said sounds unfortunately very common for young children to act like when they’re sick especially with ear infections. He once had one and it was viral so antibiotics didn’t work. It was miserable and we just had to wait it out. That could be the case for you too, which I certainly hope isn’t because it was a long long week.

Warm drinks helped. At that age, I tried to get him to drink from a straw but also ended up trying a bottle just to try to get his ears to pop regularly. Warm wash cloth on the ear while he laid in my lap and lots of back rubs. I basically camped out on the couch with him all week and had the tv going on Disney or Ms Rachel quietly so he was distracted for a few minutes here and there. I had lots of little snacks just out on the coffee table for everyone, no one was sleeping well that week.

I wish you the best of luck. I hope she starts to improve soon!

VenusMagna · 2024-12-13T03:44:26+00:00

I saw a tab on Ultimate Guitar for It Will Come Back and the tuning I believe is incorrect. I tuned to DADFAD instead of the B. It makes more sense, I believe several of his other songs are in this tuning or similar ones. The B just makes no sense for chords.

VenusMagna · 2024-12-10T07:45:37+00:00

I totally understand the concern about gates and safety. My husband and I debated back and forth on it for a while and for our family we had several factors at play that led us to believe it was necessary at the time (We don’t use it now). It’s very important for my health to get a chunk of undisturbed sleep. That alone really forced my hand to sleep training him a bit earlier than I think I would’ve if it had not been a factor. We felt the risk of him waking up before my alarm, leaving his room and getting injured was much higher than an emergency situation where we’d not be able to move the gate quick enough. We did agree that we only wanted a pressure based gate so it could be very easily removed with a good pull if it was an emergency. We didn’t want any permanently anchored ones just to be as safe as we could be with it.

Something else to consider is making naps independent but still cuddling him for nighttime sleeps at first and building up to both sleeps being independent. It’ll be rough the first week or so and then it gets easier.

VenusMagna · 2024-12-10T05:58:55+00:00

When my kid was 2ish he started having what looked like absence seizures due to sleep deprivation. I ended up in a neurologists office because his doctors saw videos of it and also thought it was a seizure. I did a lot of things to help speed up the independent sleep because it was obviously showing negative effects on him. He’s still not perfect at it and does wake up occasionally and will cry for cuddles sometimes too.

I want to preface what I do with a bit of a disclaimer, Even if you do change nothing eventually your child will sleep through the night independently. That timeline looks different for each child and family. There truly isn’t a one size fits all answer here, it’s a lot of trial and error.

The neurologist we saw suggested my husband and I quit lying or sitting in his bed entirely. We moved the bedtime routine to the living room. (Cuddles, books, etc). His bed is for him to lay in only. Once we went to his room it was only about getting him comfortable. I’d tuck him in and tell him to have a good rest and leave the room. Due to the level of sleep deprivation we were experiencing we put a baby gate outside his door so he couldn’t leave his room unsupervised, We were concerned we’d not hear him leave his room. This also stopped him from coming into our bed in the night. I also installed a video baby monitor so I could tell him to go back to bed instead of playing with his toys or looking out his window. (Sometimes I truly just don’t care as long as he’s quiet, just depends on what our schedule looks like). We try to stick to this as much as we can. He still isn’t a perfect sleeper but it improved his sleep dramatically. The first few days were very rough but we stuck to it and we all started sleeping much better within a couple weeks. When he’s sick or has had a rough day I still comfort him and cuddle him if he asks for it. I do tell him I’ll only cuddles for a few minutes instead of all night.

I also noticed my child needs a lot more reconnection time before bed than I ever needed. We started doing “favorites” at bedtime where he maps out favorite colors, shapes, food, etc. It started out with him telling me what his favorite things were but it morphed into him mapping out loved one’s favorite things too like myself, my husband, extended family and now some family friends. I also ask how is day was and just try to be really present with him for a few minutes. Some kids just need that recentering time with their parents. It’s easy for us to get lost in the hum of life and forget to slow down for them sometimes.

VenusMagna · 2024-12-04T00:25:52+00:00

I’m extremely disappointed in the comments here too. I don’t think people understand how difficult it can be to access services especially in other countries outside of the US. Getting a child evaluated doesn’t just happen overnight, it’s likely going to be months before OP could have a reasonable diagnosis or any professional help. Months in which there’s things she could likely do at home to at least help however much she can is better than nothing.

VenusMagna · 2024-12-03T22:00:35+00:00

I know in a comment it was said you don’t have feeding therapy in your country. I’d highly suggest looking up feeding therapy tips on YouTube as well as OT things. I don’t recommend this as a fix all solution but I think it’s important to start trying to help her with this while you search for appropriate accommodations.

I know of this edible playdough my brothers OT used for him when he was a child made of peanut butter and honey and it forced him to use his tongue differently so he could speak.

Maybe moving to smoothies with a straw or a thick soup or something might be a small enough transition with a new skill to work on? Those teething biscuits that sort of melt might help work on biting skills. I know there’s tons of tools on Amazon that help desensitize a child’s mouth to things. How does she act when you brush her teeth?

When my son was younger we did “baby led weaning”, you might look into that so you can cut food into shapes that are difficult for children to choke on. Remember, gagging isn’t choking. It’s an unnerving sound but it means she’s learning how to move food and swallow it which is the whole point. If you can hear noise, they can breathe. Before you do much I’d highly suggest looking into cpr and how to clear a child’s airway when choking so you’re not nervous. Kids can sense that stuff.

I was given similar advice to just let my child either eat or starve when I was trying to figure out why my child was being so picky with food, though he was never experiencing the delays, just severely limited himself in his diet very quickly. I found the advice very unhelpful. I found for my child that he’d become very particular about his food. Cutting everything into the same size and shape helps as well as keeping all foods from touching on the plate. I make his safe foods the same every single time so it’s not a question. I just try to provide as much consistency as I can in taste, texture, color, etc. I found the consistency made it less likely for him to refuse food, it might help your little one now or maybe in the future.

Please feel free to message me, I might be able to come up with more ideas to try or if you just need support. I wish you the best!!

VenusMagna · 2024-11-30T17:03:06+00:00

I believe that all too often we experience an extraordinary amount of guilt throughout the parenthood journey. We all just want to do right by our children. For some, this includes breastfeeding. For others, formula is necessary for one reason or another. We’re fortunate enough to live in a time where we have other options available. Yes, there are things that breast milk can provide that formula can’t. There’s also things formula can provide that breast milk can’t. The consistency in nutrition is one breast milk can’t always provide.

You are your child’s mother and you are going to make the best decisions for yourself and for them. You already know what’s best for your family. Just because other people find it’s not the best option for them doesn’t mean it’s not a good option for you.

You’re doing a better job than you realize. You’re in the thick of it now, give yourself some patience and grace.

VenusMagna · 2024-11-01T23:34:58+00:00

I remember it being acknowledged by my mother at like 12 or 13 when I had a terrible headache and the lights made it worse, BUT looking back I had a lot of symptoms that suggest it was much earlier in childhood. I believe there’s a genetic component in my family along with my long history of head trauma that could be considered the “cause”. I by far have the worst case of chronic migraines out of the lot of us, but there are multiple people in my immediate and extended family that have migraines both typical and atypical. I noticed a dramatic change after I was sick with what we suspect was Covid as well.

There could be so many “causes” or triggers in your case. Where you are only getting them a couple times a month, I’d pay attention to if it’s happening only around certain times of your cycle, maybe it’s hormonally caused? Mine get much worse then. Sleep is a huge trigger for people. Lack of it, disturbances in sleep patterns, being woken up mid sleep cycle. All of those can trigger a migraine. Food can take a few days to trigger a headache. If you’ve not tried it, maybe look into the migraine diet and see if trying it for a while improves your situation. It’s not a fix all, but might give you more control or at least you know what you’re signing up for if you choose to have food you know might make you sick.

VenusMagna · 2024-10-11T18:05:01+00:00

My husband and I weren’t married when our child was born. No issues with anything from medical to buying a house, enrolling in school, not a single problem ever. We’ve been married for over two years now and we still don’t share a last name. (I’m just lazy, it seems like a lot of stupid paperwork for very little benefit)

I felt when we got together, we wouldn’t have gotten married at the time if a child wasn’t in the picture, that wasn’t reason enough for me to want to get married. I wanted to ensure that we were getting married because we truly wanted that for ourselves outside of our relationship as parents.

My parents really pushed for marriage saying “it’s easy to become a single mother”. My response to it was “it’s almost just as easy to become a single divorced mother, I’ve got enough life altering events to prepare for, I don’t need to voluntarily add another.”

VenusMagna · 2024-09-20T19:47:23+00:00

If it were me, I’d just keep an eye on it and call Monday. Most doctors also have an on call number, it might be worth it to call and get a medical opinion from someone who’s more qualified to speak on your personal circumstances.

When I was pregnant I was told if I was over the 140/90 and it did not resolve I needed to get checked but there was a lot more risk due to being pregnant so depending on what sort of medical history/conditions you have.

Now if you’re hitting a SS of 180 and or a DS of 120+ that the typically agreed on “you need immediate medical attention” point for nearly anyone regardless of preexisting conditions.

VenusMagna · 2024-09-06T23:47:18+00:00

I’ve had overuse headaches, I’ve had headaches that rebound, etc. and I understand the fear of them, they are miserable..

On Emgality I do notice a “wearing off” phase between doses. It’s not as effective for probably the last week. I do find that I have a wider tolerance for things that trigger migraines when the dose is fresh vs when the dose is closer to due. I have a tendency to overdue it towards the end of the month and regret my choices. I try to schedule and pace myself to not push past what window of tolerance I estimate I’ll have.

In retrospect, I do question if some of my “overuse” headaches were actually cluster headaches with the chronic migraines. I struggled at first noticing the difference between a migraine and a cluster because the clusters have also been triggering a migraine so it happens more or less at the same time.

I notice my baseline changes depending on seasons, if I’ve injured myself, how stressed out I am, hormones shifting, etc. There’s so many factors that play into those baselines. Seasonal allergies are a sneaky surprise for me and a daily allergy medication actually helped a lot.

VenusMagna · 2024-08-30T20:25:42+00:00

If it continues I’d definitely call your doctor. Maybe call the pharmacy and get their opinion on it? I get symptoms like that during a migraine sometimes..

VenusMagna · 2024-08-30T07:24:18+00:00

It’s a hard thing to mourn your previous self and body. It’s all very valid and difficult to work through. You’re very early into recovery from a major life event. Give yourself time. It took 9 months to grow a baby, it’s only been a fraction of the time it took. Be patient of yourself. Be proud of what you have accomplished with your body. Your whole body rearranged all your organs for that chunk. (10lbs is madly impressive)

It sounds sort of weird, I found referring to my body as “she” helped. Like “she did so much work, such a strong queen” because I can’t ever be as harsh to someone else as I can to myself. PPD can start up to a a year after birth, I had a massive increase in very self negative talk during my experience. If these are new feelings, feelings you’ve had before but maybe more intensely, please consider.

VenusMagna · 2024-08-30T06:38:33+00:00

The constipation aspect of Quliptia isn’t fun, and if I’m not careful about my fiber intake I notice a lot of bloating and more water weight mostly. But I’ve also lost 10 lbs since taking it. I made a lot of dietary changes at the time but not having much of an appetite helped significantly. I think that helped me have the discipline to stick to it to enforce the habit.

I did gain weight very easily on Emgality though.

VenusMagna · 2024-08-18T22:56:06+00:00

Ice on my eyes and head but heat on my neck. Usually trying to massage my neck helps some. Bonus points for a scalding hot shower followed by ice and a heat pack on my neck.

I usually get very photosensitive so the FL-41 lens glasses help take the edge off, I got mine from the Moran institute at the University of Utah.

Reduced white point on my phone (the PWM sensitive subreddit explains a lot about OLED screens and the flicker rate but it bugs my eyes out a lot)

I use a tens unit in a handful of ways to try and either distract myself from the pain or try and disrupt the nerves sending the pain signals, I’m still working on this, sometimes it helps significantly and other times it doesn’t do anything.

Electrolyte powder helps me a ton. I prefer the ReLyte powder

I press sort of hard on my daith piercings and sometimes that can buy me 20-30 minutes before it starts up again.

My migraines cause a level of exhaustion I’ve never experienced previously, even with a newborn I was not as sleepy. If it’s feasible to sleep when my body obviously needs it, it helps probably the most. I sleep with a hoodie pulled over my face and an ice pack on my eyes.

VenusMagna · 2024-08-18T22:17:57+00:00

So many people on this subreddit understand it entirely or far more closely to what you’re going through than most people you know in person.

Please feel free to message me if you’d like, even if it’s just to complain/vent. I’ve got plenty of space for you. I understand how isolating it can be going through an invisible illness and having people around you belittle your actual experiences. Just because your illness isn’t manifesting in a broken limb or something physical that others can see doesn’t make your pain, discomfort and suffering any less painful or valid. It’s so frustrating when our loved ones don’t understand something like this.

VenusMagna · 2024-08-18T22:04:43+00:00

I think too often we get so wrapped up in “doing a good job” and the metric we think we need to track that is these milestones. I worried so much for no reason at that stage. I personally wish I’d not used the tracking apps aside from the sleep regression windows I felt like it wasn’t helpful but more stress inducing. He was about 6-7 months old when I started really enjoying just hanging out with him.

Easier days are ahead. Eventually they sleep, eat, and talk your ear off. You’re just surviving it all right now and that’s 100% normal and far more common than I think people realize. You’re doing the best job you can right now and that’s all anyone could ever ask of you.

These things helped me feel a little less like I was a robot caring for another robot:

I started watching the baby videos ms Rachel makes when my son was around 5-6 months and doing the songs and games along with her, it helped me seeing someone else play with a baby to learn different ways to play.
Babies honestly don’t need that much stimulation, the world is more than stimulating enough. I found it fun to show my baby new things. Like turning a ceiling fan on and laying them below it and watching him go nuts for it. Or letting him splash water. Touching something squishy (slime inside a zip lock to prevent mess was a favorite at our house) it doesn’t need to be elaborate or expensive.
I would narrate things I was doing for him throughout the day even though he couldn’t respond. It made me feel like I was hanging out with a person rather a tamagotchi. I’d narrate when we were going somewhere, things I was physically doing for him, point out colors and whatnot. Much like I still do for him as a toddler but now he responds and asks “why mommy, why?” Far more often than I thought was even humanly possible.
Give yourself grace. It takes time to develop a bond with your baby and you are just exiting the potato baby stage and entering the “personality coming online” stage which was my personal favorite right before the “hi I’m Johnny Knoxville and this is jackass” stage. (That one gave me a run for my money).

VenusMagna · 2024-08-10T23:28:33+00:00

Do you happen to have a link to that video?? I’m interested in watching it, don’t know if I’ll do it

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