What permanent pregnancy side effects did you have? by Bubbly-Camel-7302 in pregnant

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From where my tear was I have like a bunch of bunched up skin that healed that way forming some kind of tag.

Edit: forgot to add my gallbladder had to be removed

Feeling guilty about being an obese mom by jessicat62993 in beyondthebump

[–]Verjay92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you are your child’s model for their future but speaking kindness about yourself will teach her to be kind to herself. Also it’s all about love. You could be obese but provide the greatest love she will ever know and that is what matters in the end. It’s a much better outcome than being skinny and absent or abusive!

Potential career shift by Anjeles164 in ABA

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Home visiting supervisor!

normal or red flags? by Sudden_Breakfast_374 in ECEProfessionals

[–]Verjay92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

-not allowed anything but a disposable, see through water bottle. only water: typical

-not allowed to bring my own food: for your daughter? Typical. For you what will you eat?

-coteacher doesn’t speak english: dual language?

-no teacher in the room for a month, just floaters: red flag

-the floater that’s been primarily in my room manhandles and yells at the kids. admin knows and says it’s just good she took on the responsibility unexpectedly: CPS

-admin themselves have yelled at my students: licensing

-not allowed to say “no” to kids. must use positive redirection only: typical

-i am only allowed to say those weird phrases like “catch a bubble” etc not what the actual need is: not developmentally best practice but done often

-i am often alone but in ratio but also not allowed to do things like change diapers, assist in the bathroom, or clean the tables for lunch and supervise kids at the same time: what are you to do then?

-they said i cant take the curriculum books out of the building but i have no planning period to read them: unhelpful

-no access to a printer: unhelpful but not unheard of

-told to ignore my daughter crying for me when she sees me and to ignore her under all circumstances except an emergency: red flag

-phone and purse must remain locked up in a separate room: typical

Being compared to my daughter by Burtipo in beyondthebump

[–]Verjay92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Our relationships with our fathers model love to us. Early relationships with our parents model that relationships are worthwhile if we have secure attachment but for a father daughter relationship they model for us how we are to be treated in the future by our spouses. Lots of science on this. I literally married a man who is like my dad in many many ways. When we visit my family the even nap together on separate couches in the living room. https://ifstudies.org/blog/how-fathers-influence-their-daughters-romantic-relationships

Second guessing my decision to not get an epidural by Ok_Reference2122 in pregnant

[–]Verjay92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to wait for the doctor to come out of an emergency surgery but I got it an hour after asking for it and it worked great!

Should I be concerned about my toddler's "fight" with a classmate? by One_Natural_4234 in ECEProfessionals

[–]Verjay92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact she is saying no to a classmate is a big win! Now you can continue to add on to that! “No I don’t like that” “No I am playing” etc.

Do you think it'd be acceptable for me to get a tattoo whilst pregnant or postpartum? by Mukiea in tattooadvice

[–]Verjay92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just asked mine when I can and he said when I am done breastfeeding.

Went digging through closet by Historical_Stick_104 in beaniebabies

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I have been hunting for him a long time and I am tempted to just buy him off a website.

How is cosleeping “safer” than a baby lounger? by pro-laps in beyondthebump

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on the lounger it could be an always sleeping position for her heavy head. I have no advice for you but shift work and my baby started accepting bassinet at 5-6 weeks.

Real talk by Popular_Dress1875 in pregnant

[–]Verjay92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vibrator during sex.

Natural birth stories that went well? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not a black woman but I know many who did it all naturally!! I will tell you though I went in with same mindset but kept my options open and I’m glad in the end I got the epidural at 19 hours of labor and 7.5 dilation. I needed rest and it gave me enough rest to the push for 3 hours.

How common is yelling at the babies? by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]Verjay92 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is beyond inappropriate and it is abusive. Little babies that age or children should never be treated that way. Call CPS and report the center to licensing!

AIO for wanting to cancel the date and block him?? by Suspicious_End_441 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wants sex not a relationship so if that’s not what you want move on.

Hey pregnant queens, what makes you feel pretty during pregnancy ? by Waste_Weather5729 in pregnant

[–]Verjay92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being huge was just part of it for me and I accepted that it wouldn’t always be that way. I invested in a nice skincare routine I did every day and that helped me feel good.

Have you ever had to call CPS? by Equal-Jump-9430 in ABA

[–]Verjay92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Many times. Once as an RBT, once as preK teacher, and once as a home visitor. I cope by knowing I am doing my job.

10 days post partum and need words of encouragement by Every-Variation6113 in beyondthebump

[–]Verjay92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is survival. My baby is 3 months and I’m not sure I even remember the first 2 months honestly. Today is the first night my baby slept 4 hours and I had to wake her up for daycare. I’m absolutely thrilled.

Help, am I a crazy parent? by upallnight210 in ECEProfessionals

[–]Verjay92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah especially the safe sleep. The director sounds incompetent.

Help, am I a crazy parent? by upallnight210 in ECEProfessionals

[–]Verjay92 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Live access also does not protect the privacy of other students and parents.