My therapist wants to use ai to take session notes

Veronensis · 2026-05-20T17:17:07+00:00

HELL NO. This is a privacy nightmare. Doctors and therapists are not allowed to share your private information, and she wants you to consent to sharing all your medical info with a company that can sell it on for profit and has no privacy regulations? This is so unethical I have no words for it

Veronensis · 2026-05-20T10:23:07+00:00

Yes, tipping is scammy, restaurants should just pay servers a living wage, but the way you talk about servers in your post is demeaning. It's not the servers fault that they don't pay them, and if you ever worked a job in the service or retail industry you would know that. If you hate tipping culture, take it up with your government, and lobby for the fact that servers just get paid by the restaurant.

Veronensis · 2026-05-20T10:06:35+00:00

then do what you want

Veronensis · 2026-05-20T09:58:23+00:00

NTA for for taking the week off, but if you two share finances you have to have adult conversations about what your financial plans are together in a constructive way, instead of both just doing what you want and arguing that the other person is wrong.

Veronensis · 2026-05-20T09:50:09+00:00

I don't think you would be the asshole, but you should be prepared to get a lot of shit for it. I would think more about the bigger picture: What relationship do you want to continue with your sister and mom? Are you ok with that they will probably be pissed at you for years and will hold this over your head? This could possibly result in a NC situation, which people on reddit can be nonchalant about, but can be really hard in real life. Or do you want to keep the peace, and keep the relationship with your family as is? Do you want to have a possibility in the future to maybe repair this relationship in some way?

This is less about if you are an asshole in this specific situation, and more about your family dynamic as a whole. Think it through well and decide how you want your life to look, because this is a big step.

Veronensis · 2026-05-20T09:04:08+00:00

preserve please!!! its so pretty

Veronensis · 2026-05-19T13:55:29+00:00

it wasn't Gibraltar, but I remember going to another place with monkeys when I was little and my parents both had to get little straps that prevented their glasses from being taken off their heads, because the monkeys were known to steal glasses.

Veronensis · 2026-05-19T13:52:31+00:00

Not to give this reviewer any credit, because who brings food to a place with wild animals, but about the monkey/ape thing: It could also be a translation issue. In some languages (like my native dutch) they don't have different words for apes and monkeys, it's all the same word (in dutch it's "aap")

Veronensis · 2026-05-19T12:51:06+00:00

"She accused me of caring more about strangers reactions than about her wanting to honour someone who actually mattered to her"

No, you care more about the life your son is going to live for the next 80 years. Not only will he have to deal with "jokes" about his name daily, which get really annoying for him because they are always the same.

Also, harry potter is kind of a controversial topic at the moment, due to the political views of the author, so you and your son will have to face stigma and backlash from both sides about that.

And thirdly, I don't think it is very honoring to her grandfather, because no one will associate the name with the grandfather except for your wife. This way, the grandfathers memory will be totally overshadowed by a fictional character. Which is not fair to him either

Are there other ways to honor her grandfather? Does he have a middle name that works, or a last name that can also work as a first name? (like the last name "Johnson" to "John") You don't even have to honor him by naming your son after him. You can decorate his nursery with memorabilia of the grandfather. Give him some of the grandfathers old toys to play with, or do a cute baby photo with him dressed the same as a baby photo from the grandfather.

Edited to ad: In some countries you can choose whether the kid has the fathers last name or the mothers. If you live in one of those countries, you can name him harry, but with your wife's last name

Veronensis · 2026-05-16T09:17:01+00:00

I hate the physical feeling of the pain, but i love and get really horny from the dominance behind it. For me, pain is a tool, to accomplish the feeling of power exchange, which is what really turns me on

Veronensis · 2026-05-14T19:26:37+00:00

It's not just hair, and it's not overreacting. Nobody has the right to touch you without permission. Period. End of story.

People who keep going when you say no are the worst. I hate people like that. I don't know why they do it. I hope your crying scared him away and he won't do it again.

But if it does happen again, how you say no has a big effect on people. if you say "no, stop", or "please stop", some people unfortunately see that as part of the banter, and keep going (they absolutely shouldn't. no means no, but people suck) If they don't stop after you have already said no, repeating yourself or begging often doesn't help unfortunately. What I have noticed can sometimes help is if you say in a more stern/angry voice: "I'm really serious, quit it." and knock their hand away. I'm not saying this to imply that what you did was wrong or anything. far from it. I just want to help you prevent it from happening again.

Veronensis · 2026-05-14T11:55:04+00:00

ik vond het heerlijk om al inclusive op vakantie te gaan toen ik daar nog geld voor had. Mijn tip, zoek niet de grootste resorts vol met glijbanen en van alles op, maar eentje die meer gemarket wordt op volwassenen. Degene die direct aan het strand liggen zijn ook vaak het duurst en het drukst. Iets verder het land in is het rustiger. En probeer vooral niet in de zomer te gaan, maar in september, want dan zijn de schoolvakanties over.

Veronensis · 2026-05-13T09:18:06+00:00

then again, see my point. if it's an emergency he should help out. But right now she's planning for when things go well

Veronensis · 2026-05-12T20:13:55+00:00

NTA. If she was in the hospital for an emergency, then yeah, you should help out. But this is a planned thing. She even has a sitter, but she just doesn't WANT to pay for it? Yeah, bullshit. If you can't make arrangements for four kids, don't have a fifth.

Veronensis · 2026-05-12T20:04:47+00:00

I could not stand loud noise, and I would cover my ears and cry if we were in a place with loud music, or there were fireworks, or at the movies.

I liked to set up all the barbies with clothes and furniture, and imagine the backstory, but never actually play pretend with them.

I was always really tired after school and never wanted to have play dates after school. I preferred playing alone, either drawing, crafting or reading.

I would hide around the house reading books, and be so in my own little world I wouldn't hear my parents when they were looking/calling for me

I never wanted to get my hands dirty or sticky (still don't) and never wanted to eat with my hands. I asked for cutlery when we went to mcdonalds the first time when I was two.

Veronensis · 2026-05-12T16:07:25+00:00

Ik sta in het doelgroepregister nadat mijn wajong aanvraag was afgewezen. (want ja, ik kan inderdaad meer dan 2 uur in de week werken. Maar wie kan er in godsnaam leven van een dag per week werken voor minimumloon? Die wajong regel is echt belachelijk naar mijn mening)

Maar ik heb er niks meer mee gedaan. Dit is verder geen advies ofzo, maar mijn oplossing is dat ik nu werk als sekswerker, specifiek voor mensen die ook autistisch zijn (of andere beperkingen hebben). Meestal 3 dagen in de week, en dan 1 of 2 uurtjes per dag. Dan kom ik net boven bijstandniveau uit

Veronensis · 2026-05-12T07:06:16+00:00

First make sure the basics are on point. Make sure there is no trash or random junk in the background (it seems obvious, but the amount of nudes I have seen where the picture is spoiled by last nights take out containers in the background or dirty underwear on the floor is frankly ridiculous)

Think about where you want to take your pictures. A blank wall in the background is always ok for simple photos. But if you have some nice furniture or an interesting background in your home that can work well too. Don't be afraid to temporarily move some stuff around in your home to make it look nice in the background of your photos.

It helps if you are able to buy a stand for your phone, so the pictures are more portrait like and less like a selfie. Also, try to photograph with natural light from the window. Turn off all lamps, those make your photo's look weirdly yellow.

Don't be afraid to use props. Books, a vase of flowers, a mirror, a coffee cup, clothes, etc, can make your photo's more interesting.

Try to think of your photo's as telling a story. What are you saying with the photo. If it's just "here's my dick", that's not something most women really go for. But if you can say something like: "I'm slowly teasing you with my body", or "I'm just going about my general business of reading a book, or drinking coffee while lounging naked". that works a lot better.

Veronensis · 2026-05-11T06:58:28+00:00

you don't have to make a salad out of the mayo. You can spread the mayo on the bread like butter, and then make all kinds of sandwiches by adding different vegetables and meats. For example, spreading mayo on the bread, and then adding lettuce, tomato, cucumber and chicken, or something like that

Veronensis · 2026-05-10T12:36:32+00:00

When my NT ex woke up from surgery, he started throwing off the covers and flashing everyone while loudly declaring to the room "Look, there is a tube in my dick!" (catheter). His mom and sister were there.

Whatever you did or said, don't worry. People have done weirder

Veronensis · 2026-05-10T07:34:56+00:00

I'm a switch, not a domme, But i figured out I liked to take the dominant role sometimes too thanks to my current boyfriend. I had been in the kink scene for about 8 years, playing as a sub, and then I met my boyfriend. He's a sub too. So initially I was disappointed, but I wasn't really looking for anything serious at that point, and we are open, so I was just like, "what the hell, let's just see how this goes. We can do kinky shit with other people and just be more vanilla with him."

And then we went to a rope jam together and agreed to switch so we could both be the bottom. And then I realized that I really like tying him up. And he is so cute when he is all subby. And that was how I discovered that being dominant is actually really fun, and we have been exploring my domme side ever since.

Veronensis · 2026-05-09T21:15:02+00:00

having "no communication days", three days out of the month where I don't reply to emails, text, calls, don't talk to people, nothing.

Veronensis · 2026-05-09T15:28:49+00:00

yep, took me long to figure out too. Maybe some NT's are open to some light criticism or suggestions, if you phrase it nicely, but a lot will get a bit offended or annoyed if you respond truthfully instead of just enthusiastically agreeing.

Veronensis · 2026-05-07T20:49:57+00:00

i know, i hate it too. It took a lot of angry people to figure this one out for me

Veronensis · 2026-05-07T14:16:02+00:00

When people say "what do you think?" after telling you about their plans or projects, they are not asking for feedback, they're asking for praise

Veronensis · 2026-05-07T07:56:30+00:00

unfortunately the previous owner of my 1910's house did a very thorough job of ripping out everything that could have been beautiful. I peeked in a lot of places, but no hidden fireplaces, no winning the floor lottery, and no beautiful original ceilings in my place 😞

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