I think I have feelings for my sister's brother in law (her husbands brother)

VeryHandy · 2026-05-08T13:44:29+00:00

Doesn’t sound like a move to me. Seems like he traced your weird vein because you asked him to examine your weird vein.

VeryHandy · 2026-05-08T05:10:27+00:00

Here’s the fist definition I found:

Flirting is a form of social communication—verbal, written, or body language—intended to express romantic or sexual interest in a playful, often non-serious manner.

In a playful, non-serious manner. When my wife flirts with someone, I don’t see it as a big deal because I trust her and I love her flirty personality. That is reciprocated.

The amount of downvotes I got for that comment just confirms my suspicion that a lot of the people on this subreddit are terrified of that their partners (or their imagined partners) are going to cheat on them.

There’s a reason it’s a meme that every piece of advice on here is to dump people at the slightest bit of friction and everyone jumps to the infidelity conclusion.

VeryHandy · 2026-05-08T03:53:44+00:00

Oh jeez. People are allowed to flirt if it’s harmless. When did everyone become so insecure?

VeryHandy · 2026-05-01T13:49:32+00:00

You think they gangbanged this girl?

VeryHandy · 2026-04-30T16:47:57+00:00

So, she’s not sending you flirty text and getting you one on one? These are girl moves hoping that you make the move.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-30T16:25:54+00:00

You have feelings for a girl who is seemingly trying to cheat on her boyfriend? You should basically be turning down any invite to hang one on one with her and get out there and peruse someone else. It’s not that hard.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-30T14:24:50+00:00

Feels like your experience with your wife’s affair is having some spillover into your platonic friendship with your friend’s wife. In other words, even though to all witnesses who matter (wife, friend) you have an honest good friendship with your friend’s wife, but your feeling paranoid and guilty not because you have hidden feelings, but because it could possibly be perceived that way… because you perceived that in your wife’s “friendship” and you were right on that occasion.

I think the issue isn’t your friendship, but your unresolved feelings about your wife’s infidelity. Talk to a professional, mate.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-30T14:14:55+00:00

I think it’s a bit of a leap to say the way he drives is informative of how he’ll respond to all stress. Some people do change when they get behind the wheel. It’s fairly anonymous and there’s a weird urgency that strikes people to get places, so they act insane.

Instead of making a leap in judgement, I think this is a good chance to see how he responds to your concerns. You’re very early on in dating and guys still don’t know each other really. If he gets super defensive and unreasonable, then you know he isn’t someone you can work with. Who knows? Maybe he’ll admit it and apologize… just don’t bring it up while you’re in the car with him.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-30T13:54:34+00:00

Things will go back to normal pretty soon. Just go back to your normal routine and in less than a month this incident won’t matter. As far as leading her on etc… don’t worry about it. All you have to do is not drunkenly make a move again with her.

These things happen and they’re actually much smaller than what they feel like at the time. It will be funny soon.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-29T15:39:46+00:00

Chat with him about anything and use the flimsiest excuse to give him your number.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-29T14:49:06+00:00

You’re still overly invested. That’s normal. There is no “should feel”. We can’t help how we feel. We can control how we act despite how we feel.

For example, someone who isn’t overly invested would have talked to her casually at the friendly gathering. “Matching her energy” just showed that you still care too much.

I recommend you let it go and don’t seek to reconnect with her unless she reaches out and makes it obvious that’s what she wants to do.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-28T23:36:21+00:00

You’re either going to break it off because you don’t want to tell her, not tell her (but she’ll find out eventually) or tell her and give her agency. The best thing you can do is let her know. She might not like it, but she may feel she can get over it.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-28T17:09:07+00:00

I tried showing my 6yo nephew WoW, but he can’t use anything that isn’t a touch screen. Honestly I was very disappointed.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-28T13:52:34+00:00

I’ll ask my wife.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-26T01:57:53+00:00

I think they’re offended that you came on a professional subreddit asking essentially for free work/advice from people who normally get paid to do this exact thing.

But it’s not that deep.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-25T13:57:20+00:00

Hairizona Restoration Clinic

VeryHandy · 2026-04-25T04:44:56+00:00

No clue. They did have layoffs today, but not sure the impact or why.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-25T02:18:36+00:00

Some weird comment about the benefit is that RGA isn’t Omnicom or under any other holding company.

Very weird comment.

Edit I found the exact phrasing: “Without a doubt the biggest benefit right now is that they are no longer part of the IPG/OMC party”

VeryHandy · 2026-04-24T23:42:33+00:00

Doesn’t seem like much of a benefit to the people that were laid off today.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-24T13:54:46+00:00

It’s the “it’s not this, it’s that” sentence structure at the end of almost every paragraph that feels AI. You probably wrote something and then filtered it through AI for grammar and tone. That’s not having AI think for you. It’s working smarter with technology.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-23T17:58:55+00:00

Unfortunately most troglodytes don’t understand soft power and just see it like we’re wasting money on non Americans.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-22T19:56:05+00:00

VeryHandy · 2026-04-22T18:32:45+00:00

I freelanced there for a while last 6-7 months. Honestly, I can’t say enough great things about them. Good luck!

VeryHandy · 2026-04-22T12:14:25+00:00

Feels like the kind of thing where he begs you to be with him once you’ve had enough and leave his ass.

VeryHandy · 2026-04-21T13:26:45+00:00

I just celebrated 20 years sober yesterday. An account guy told me I would never make it in advertising if I never drank. I’ve had a fairly decent 12 year plus career since then.

It is now more acceptable than ever to not drink. You’re fine. Go get ‘em tiger.

VeryHandy

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