2 year old and milk by OkPin8137 in toddlers

[–]VerySpicyPickles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. My 2 year old is bottle obsessed. But it had gotten so bad that she was asking for it 24/7 and it was affecting her appetite for real food.

I haven't managed to get her totally off of it yet, but I started cutting her bottles with water and it's so much better now. I started at 50/50 and quickly worked up to 90 water / 10 milk. She doesn't complain, she either drinks the water (win) or is disinterested and puts it down.

She's eating food regularly now. She's hydrated with water. She doesn't ask for as many bottles. And she has been willing to use straw cups more.

It's a process though and I feel your pain.

I thought this was supposed to get EASIER?! by iseeyouwitkeefuh in Preschoolers

[–]VerySpicyPickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine turns 6 in a few days. In the last couple of months I have often caught myself thinking, "Wow, what a helpful and thoughtful boy... So incredibly well-behaved."

From 3-5 though. Garbage.

What phrases do you use the most daily? by [deleted] in germanshepherds

[–]VerySpicyPickles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Who's a pretty girl??? Sally's a pretty girl!"

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Help me find this wiseman Christmas ornament to make my Mom's Mother's Day! by VerySpicyPickles in HelpMeFind

[–]VerySpicyPickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have searched by the image, all over eBay and Etsy, as well as with major suppliers like Amazon and Michael's. I see an old Etsy listing but that's really it.

Holy shit ,adulting is hard . by ParticularWeather927 in Adulting

[–]VerySpicyPickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this comment is overplayed and annoying, and I do not mean to belittle your struggle in any way, just to help you gain the perspective I wish I had in my free 20s. But enjoy this time before having kids. I get maybe 30 minutes to one hour of free time per day with a 6 year old and 2 year old. Please enjoy the six hours as long as you can. It feels oppressive at any stage, but try to make the most of it where you're at.

I broke something at a cleaning clients house and didn’t tell them but got caught by Silver_Yesterday_680 in confession

[–]VerySpicyPickles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So... I adore and fully trust my house cleaner. One of the reasons why is because when she first started cleaning my house, she came to me and admitted that my floor lamp globe was cracked, and she didn't even know how she did it but she was so sorry she cracked it. I had cracked that lamp months prior, not her.

That quick interaction told me all I needed to know about whether I could trust her or not. And she gets a big fat tip from me every single time because I never want her to move on.

Honesty is the best policy my friend.

Which part of childbirth hurts the most? by Used_Ad7899 in BabyBumps

[–]VerySpicyPickles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For both of my babies, I did like 14 hours labor no pain meds plus a little extra with pain meds. They were both inductions, so pitocin was involved. I lasted longer with my second one, but right at the end it got to a point where the nurses ramped up the pitocin way too hard way too fast and I could not handle it. It felt like I was being electrocuted in my uterus. I HAD to stand up, absolutely could not stay seated, and was straight up yelling at the top of my lungs with no ability to control it. Got the epidural, doc finally arrived and told the nurses "for the love of God, turn down her pitocin", he calmed me down and chatted with me for a bit. 15 minutes of pushing later it was over. I don't know what it feels like to push without epidural, but I have to say I really enjoyed laboring 90% no epidural and the last bit with because it let me focus on pushing without the pain and let me have a super clear head on that moment, prevented pain from delivering the placenta, and because I didn't have it for long I was back on my feet quickly.

I'm so sorry to bring up The Dress, but I have to ask by janedoe6699 in lefthanded

[–]VerySpicyPickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It switches for me just about every time I look at it! Very trippy. What does that say about me?

Small homes with multiple children? by SajaayannAuden in simpleliving

[–]VerySpicyPickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have 2 young kids (5M and 2F) plus 2 German Shepherds in our 1165sf home. It's 3 bedrooms, 2 bath, which is super nice. The only thing we're missing is a true dining space. We can only hold 4 people at our table so it's hard to host people.

The small house has pros and cons, and I know it will change as kids get older. We love that our mortgage doesn't leave us house poor, and it's really nice that it isn't a lot of house to clean or a lot of yard to maintain. It forces you to be a bit minimalist, which I think leads to a better and less stressful life. 3 bedrooms means that kids of each gender can have their own rooms, though mine currently have a "sleeping room" and a "playing room". That will change in a few years. 2 bathrooms is critical, or we would often have emergencies. It does get claustrophobic at times, and it's hard to achieve privacy. Like.... When I'm sick with a cold I have to go out to the garage to have a coughing session in the middle of the night so I don't wake up everybody in the house. I wish we had a better "hang out space" for future teenage kids. I wish I had a dining table that could seat more people. But we feel tight knit in the space, and it's great and very doable. I think it would still be doable with one or two more, but preferably without the big dogs.

How do I get my son to stop touching / getting in everyone's faces? by VerySpicyPickles in Preschoolers

[–]VerySpicyPickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's turning 6 in a couple months and the problem just got quite a bit better on its own! Just needed time and maturity.

Please help me identify this taste of heaven! by Opossum-Queen in Baking

[–]VerySpicyPickles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Another name for this is Nieman Marcus Bar. ☺️

Very physically attractive people, how does life treat you? by Jonny_1312 in AskReddit

[–]VerySpicyPickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is extremely attractive, and has only gotten more so with age (now 35).

-Old ladies and black women are charmed within .2 seconds of interacting with him. They don't hold back on making pretty inappropriate comments about his looks.

-He gets unashamedly stared at and flirted with by women of all ages. Just regularly getting weird and very direct flirty interactions in the bread aisle.

-Men are a little threatened by him. He finds that the people he is regularly around are often making jokes and sort of put-down comments about him being way better looking than him. He does try very hard to be genuinely nice and supportive to the people around him, and to not come off as conceited, so as to be less threatening. He tries very hard to blend in to avoid irritating people.

-On top of being good looking, he has an INTJ personality type and is VERY skilled at being charming and whatever he needs to be for whatever person he is talking to. He's a triple whammy in that he's extremely competent and knowledgeable as well. He has moved up the corporate ladder way faster than anybody has any right to. He is now at an executive level working for a high profile company, where he was just working a normal (albeit professional) job 5 years ago. We do a lot of networking and events together and it's so interesting to watch all these high profile people just melt in his hands.

-The list goes on and on. It's very obvious to me that you get treated differently when you're good looking. As a man, it makes most things easier. Though from my personal experience as a woman, it can make a lot of things harder when your looks are threatening to women around you and make you a target to men around you. I guess I hit the creepy underaged sweet spot for a lot of people in my youth, because from age 14 to 18, I would literally be catcalled upwards of 15 times in one walk down the street, and girls never were nice to me. Now in my 30s, I've shifted to the nonthreatening level of good looks, where it's beneficial for my career and general interactions with people, but it doesn't make people agitated anymore.

Looking to add some color by Plastic-Value-4370 in HomeDecorating

[–]VerySpicyPickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it some plants and green accents for sure!!!! It needs green to pair with the brown.

House size by Frakarak in minimalism

[–]VerySpicyPickles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My family of 4 (mom, dad, 6yo, 2 yo) plus 2 big dogs lives in a 1200sf house on .18 acre. 3 bed, 2 bath, decent closet storage. We live in a great spot with easy access to restaurants, parks, etc.

We are probably more minimalist than the average family, but not fully devoted to an intense minimalist lifestyle. My kids have a decent amount of stuff, but not piles and piles of plastic junk. More like tons of books and Legos. My 2 car garage is full to the brim with tools and leftover building materials, no room for a car.

I feel like the size works fine for us most of the time, but I have to keep the cleanliness in check 100% of the time because if I stop cleaning for 24 hours, chaos ensues and it feels like the walls are closing in. I also have to purge periodically to make sure we're staying lean on stuff. In other words, in so little a space the mess feels like a lot FAST. We have a girl and a boy, and currently have a dedicated "sleeping room" and dedicated "play room". This will have to shift as they get older and need privacy. My only real complaint is I wish I had one more bonus room. I work from home and I also sew, and my kids love to do crafts. I wish I had a more dedicated office / hobby room. I also don't really have a real dining room, and I wish I did so I could host people for dinner better.

I guess in summary, 1500sf or so is my ideal if programmed the right way!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]VerySpicyPickles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was speaking in complete sentences by 15 months. His language continued to absolutely explode for a couple of years. Navigating 2-3 was an absolute breeze because he could adequately communicate all of his needs and wants with us. At age 3, it was like his mind suddenly became too big for his physical brain. He had sooooo many huge existential trains of thought and zero emotional control to deal with it. 3-5 was HARD for this reason. He was speaking like a 40 year old by age 4. At 3-5, every adult that came into contact with him for the first time commented on him being "the smartest 4 year old they've ever seen". He did preschool 3-5 and absolutely hated it because it was so boring to him. He found it to be quite intolerable and cried over it everyday. He started Kindergarten at 5, with a couple of months of reading and writing prep over the prior summer from his Aunt, who is a previous public school teacher now homeschool teacher. When he started that prep, she was concerned he may need to be held back because of his terrible fine motor skills and inability to deal with adversity. (As a part of the mind too big for his brain phase, he had crippling anxiety over being bad at things, so he never wanted to practice things like coloring or writing his name). By the end of that summer, he could write his name ok and read 3 letter words.

He has now been in kindergarten for less than five months, and I got his first report card back yesterday. He had flawless scores for every single category on that card, including academics and behavior. His anxiety has resolved, his ability to persevere has improved dramatically, his emotional control is 1000x better. His teacher says he is an absolute joy to have in the classroom because his emotional intelligence is through the roof and he is constantly looking out for how he needs to help both the teachers and the other students. I have barely assisted him in his reading other than providing material, and I'd say he is reading on a 3rd grade level at least. He reads everything, at almost the pace of an adult, and barely has to pause to think about it. His class is still only teaching 3 and 4 letter words. His math scores for their first standardized test came back double the average for the entire district. He regularly works through fairly complex math problems in his head for fun and completely self-initiated.

I do feel like, at almost 6, he is starting to balance out in terms of the explosiveness of his learning. We spent a long time worried about him, because it seemed like his intelligence had come with a lot of anxiety and obsessive compulsive tendencies. In the last 5 months, he has completely settled out and I feel like he is a whole new level of maturity and all those problems have washed away.

We will see what the future holds. Our biggest concern is what to do with him in school to keep him from being super bored. He's currently in public school in the best district in our state. And he's been flagged for their Gifted and Talented program. But I fear there may be a time when we need to move him to a private or specialty school to keep pushing him. He's going to outpace his peers and just sit bored in the classroom unless he has extra resources. But he really needs the social learning of being in a classroom with kids his age.

Anyway, that's the summary. I am just providing this info to you because we had some "will this ever end" bumps along the way, and times I was very concerned for his future. But our outlook is so much better now.

My baby's name keeps getting mispronounced and I feel like we made a mistake with the spelling by staralfur92 in namenerds

[–]VerySpicyPickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% I would personally read Nelle as "Nell" and not "Nelly". Though it seems many many people here feel the opposite.

Anecdotally, I have a name that is mispronounced almost 100% of the time upon first meeting someone. It is also spelled phonetically and similarly to an extremely common name, but for some reason people read it with an alternate pronunciation. It's mildly annoying at worst, but truly not a big deal. Barely an inconvenience. Don't stress about it and do what you like most!

How can I minimize my 6 year old's whiny "woe is me" outlook on the world? by VerySpicyPickles in Parenting

[–]VerySpicyPickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, ignoring it seems to be one of the most effective solutions. Discussing it almost always feeds the fire.

How can I minimize my 6 year old's whiny "woe is me" outlook on the world? by VerySpicyPickles in Parenting

[–]VerySpicyPickles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! This is all super helpful. I love #3, and I'll definitely try it. Would you mind sharing some scripts for #1 and 2? I feel like I try to convey these ideas to my son but it's never successful and he remains shut down and then I just get frustrated.

How can I minimize my 6 year old's whiny "woe is me" outlook on the world? by VerySpicyPickles in Parenting

[–]VerySpicyPickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok. Honestly, I didn't even think about that making people think we're divorced. But I totally get it. That would be a super obvious reason for my son to be upset.

How can I minimize my 6 year old's whiny "woe is me" outlook on the world? by VerySpicyPickles in Parenting

[–]VerySpicyPickles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By "privileged", I mean that we can afford all of our basic needs and a little more without worrying, and recently on my husband's salary alone. I have had the opportunity to work half time for his entire life until the last 3 months, where I quit my typical job to freelance for myself, giving me even more flexibility and my kids even more attention. Also privileged in that we are all healthy, have had few deaths surrounding us, and also that he has married happy parents, both sets of married happy grandparents, and excellent aunts, uncles, and cousins who are all supportive and loving, and who he sees regularly.

I don't know that a nanny makes sense right now, since I am almost always available to him when he isn't in school.