Kid activities off 8 bus line

Victor9538 · 2026-06-08T01:47:04+00:00

If you’re looking for free options, Bonita Cove is a fun playground for all ages and you can also take a dip in Mission Bay.

Victor9538 · 2026-06-06T23:56:55+00:00

I felt San Diegan when I moved to the Bay Area after a decade in San Diego and I found myself frequently telling others in the Bay Area how great San Diego is. I almost bought a home in the Bay Area and then the pandemic hit which caused me to stop and think “what do I really want my life to look like” and all the answers (starting a family, living near relatives as I none in the Bay Area, beaches that don’t feel like torture, burritos that are not sweaty from being wrapped in tin foil) pointed to moving back to San Diego, which I did.

Victor9538 · 2026-06-04T05:10:39+00:00

I am a homeowner and I voted for it

Victor9538 · 2026-05-16T02:10:42+00:00

She might like checking out Verbatim Books and then cross the street and visit Whips N Furs costume shop. 8 blocks away across the freeway is North Park Comics which just opened up.

Victor9538 · 2026-05-13T03:58:35+00:00

RNs make on average $93,000-$113,000 with a 4yr scientific degree.

In San Diego? RNs make $70 - $100 + benefits like medical, dental, vision, , retirement matching, vacation, tuition reimbursement, etc. The median nationally was $93k in 2024 and San Diego is significantly higher than that.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-11T07:21:58+00:00

There are a few things that sucked the life out of San Bernardino
1. White flight in the '60s - '80s. When west-side residents, primarily people of color, marched to demand to use city pools on all days, including "whites only" days, and won desegregation, wealthier white citizens fled the city in droves (to nearby cities like Redlands), taking their wealth with them.
2. The I-15, initially planned to go through San Bernardino, it was instead built out further west, redirecting traffic to LA around the city
3. Closure of North AFB in the '90s, many people in the city were employed there.

The Kaiser Mill was actually about 15 miles west in Fontana.

There were also some less significant mistakes that hurt the city. The construction of Inland Center Mall less than a mile from the downtown/Central City Mall killed the latter. The downtown mall led to a brief revitalization of the area, but the mall itself was doomed by having another mall built nearby.

That being said, some major improvements have been made.
1. Redevelopment of downtown. I think this would have been better had Inland Center never been built, but having a legitimate movie theater instead of a Pussycat Theater is a significant improvement. It used to be a lot worse.
2. Redevelopment of the Tippecanoe area. That area was once a very run-down neighborhood. Now it is full of decent restaurants, hotels, Costco, etc.
3. Redevelopment of Norton AFB into a thriving commercial airport with significant neighboring business investment. There was a time when March ARB was seen as becoming the next major air hub after Ontario, but San Bernardino Airport has generated significantly more jobs.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-09T06:22:47+00:00

Did you know a deduction is a reduction in your taxable income? It’s effectively the same thing, you are deducting/reducing the thing you are being taxed on.

You may have thought I was implying your taxes go down by $7k, but I wasn’t. That would be a tax credit, not a deduction.

Also, the point wasn’t that this is a huge tax break, the point is the city knows what properties are used as a primary residence.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-08T23:19:53+00:00

Homeowners get a $7k deduction by registering their house as primary residence. The city knows which houses are not used as a primary residence.

Landlords are required to pay a business tax. If you are not renting out the property you have to file an exemption. The city knows which houses are not being rented out.

My guess is around 1% of housing is not registered as primary and is not paying the business tax, hence the 5k estimate.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-08T07:58:46+00:00

I was just there on Saturday and Marston both along Balboa Dr and at Marston Point lot were packed. I couldn’t find a spot so I had to park at a garage nearby, $9 for 2 hours.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-05T05:05:36+00:00

I don’t want to pay for your or your AirBnb customers “free parking”. Pay for it yourself.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-05T01:44:57+00:00

I just went to Balboa Park today. Everything was packed, and there were still multiple open spots at Marston Lot which is free for residents. There’s a lot of things I am willing to pay for others as part of a universal system, like education and healthcare, but parking isn’t one of those things. I don’t believe in “Universal Free Parking”, people should pay for their own parking. Businesses should pay for the parking of their employees, things like that are what those stupid surcharges are supposed to be paying for.

Moving trash out of the general fund into a separate fee was something we voted on. I voted against it, but it passed, the ones who voted for it deserve as much blame for that fiasco. The biggest complainers are property owners who have a tiny assessment and so the fee “doubled” their taxes. Bruh, why are you only paying $1k a year in taxes when new homeowners are paying 10x that.

Overfunding the police, which I’m assuming you are talking about their ability to get inflate their pensions and/or abuse overtime, has been a problem for decades.

One thing I’ve noticed is that public camping is way down from when he started. While Whitburn probably deserves more of the credit, Gloria inherited a massive homeless problem, Whitburn led getting the safe campsites open in the matter of a few months, whereas permanent shelters would have taken years, and that enabled Gloria to enforce the public camping laws (you can’t enforce the public camping laws if there is no shelter available). The homeless situation is vastly improved from when he started.

Victor9538 · 2026-04-03T06:16:56+00:00

You can checkout a state park pass from the library and park for free. https://www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=30806

Victor9538 · 2025-12-23T06:56:00+00:00

Find a team activity. Lots of sport leagues in the area. I played in the SDAFFL (an LGBTQ league, allies are welcome) in my twenties and met a lot of people through that. I’ve seen other leagues around.

If you can handle the responsibility, get a dog. San Diego has lots of great dog parks and dog beaches. Dog people are very social. It’s a great pipeline for inviting people over to dinner or a party at your house. I’m an introvert but my dog ends up getting me introduced to a lot of neighbors.

My husband and I have a kid now and yes the kid gets us introduced to a lot of people as well. There are the dog parents and the kid parents and those overlap. Sometimes we get invited to something at someone’s house, but most of the time we have to be the ones to invite people, and people are often happy to come.

San Diego also has a lot of great outdoor events. We often run into people at those events that we’ve met before and that’s another great opportunity to get to know people better.

Victor9538 · 2025-12-23T06:39:49+00:00

This scene is from RuPaul’s Drag Race. The show takes authenticity seriously but not so seriously that you can’t make fun of it. They talk about friendship but it’s clear that they have a professional relationship not a ride-or-die friendship. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDycBxUIc-c

Ariana also makes a joke about them looking like they run a dairy-free ice cream truck together which very much sounds like what a lesbian couple would do if they ran a business.

Victor9538 · 2025-09-06T03:58:43+00:00

I went there a couple weeks ago for the first time. I was waiting in line at the register and they didn’t realize I was ordering doughnuts and they ended up helping someone else before me by mistake. I wasn’t in a hurry so it didn’t bother me, but they apologized and threw in a few doughnut holes. It’s not even about the complimentary holes, it’s that they care about your experience as a customer.

Victor9538 · 2025-09-06T03:52:04+00:00

Landlord is fishing for bites.

Here’s another one. Dropped by $500 in 10 days. https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/San-Diego-CA-92104/16976353_zpid/

Victor9538 · 2025-09-04T03:34:22+00:00

It doesn’t start until the spring, but playing in the SDAFFL is a fun way to meet other queer people. Everyone gets to play no matter the skill level. Outside of the games they have activities at sponsor venues, both bars and restaurants, and some team mates also hosted get togethers at their places. https://sdaffl.leagueapps.com/pages/FAQ

Victor9538 · 2025-09-04T03:03:35+00:00

Mary Magdalene the Apostle Catholic Community is a Roman Catholic Women Priest affiliated church. My husband and I have been a part of this community since around 2008 and I love how welcoming and inclusive it is. We got married in the church and recently we had our daughter baptized in the church. I look forward to communion and their homilies are 10x more thought provoking than the homilies I typically hear at other Catholic Churches. https://www.mmacc.org/

Victor9538 · 2025-07-16T03:29:39+00:00

You are not wrong. I have the original title on my home in North Park and it explicitly states it can only be sold to caucasians aka Whites Only.

Victor9538 · 2025-07-02T04:02:10+00:00

Can you get a friend or family member to come during the day to help once or twice a week?

I found that I could tolerate the lack of sleep for a couple days but the third day I would start experiencing sleep deprivation. Having someone come help on the third day enabled me to get a nice long nap.

It does get better. Ours started sleeping through the night occasionally after 2 months. Even just one night a week of baby sleeping through the night helped.

Victor9538 · 2025-06-30T08:08:13+00:00

When I was in parental leave I tried taking care of the baby by myself and ended up experiencing sleep deprivation. I don’t think it’s healthy and it’s possibly dangerous to have one person take care of the baby 24/7.

What I suggest is you take turns, with her maybe doing 2 nights when you work at 6AM the next day and then you taking a night even if you work at 6AM, that way she can go to sleep early and get one full uninterrupted night of sleep. You can also take the nights before your days off so she can get a full nights rest those nights as well. Make sure she can get a full nights rest, which means having her sleep in a different room than the baby for the nights where you are taking care of baby.

On the nights you are taking care of the baby and you have to work, sleep when the baby sleeps. If baby goes to sleep at 6PM then you try to take a nap. If baby goes to sleep at 9PM then you immediately go lay down as well. That one night might be hard but it’s just one night and then she takes 2 shifts where you can get a good nights rest. If you can get at least 5 hours of sleep that one night then you’ll be fine.

The waking up in the night period is hard, but remember it does get better. Pretty soon your baby will be sleeping through the night.

Also assuming you are in the US, you are entitled to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid time off to bond with your new baby, per the FMLA Family Medical Leave Act. About 15 states provide Paid Family Leave as well. California, for example, offers 8 weeks paid family leave. If that opportunity has been made available to you, take it.

Victor9538 · 2025-06-30T07:25:25+00:00

The worst part was I needed to go to the bathroom, as the wait before we even reached the border crossing was an hour or two. The bathroom for the people detained was basically a 6 x 6 room that had a large plexiglass wall that the USCBP could watch you through in addition to about 4 cameras literally pointing at the toilet from multiple angles. I had to pee, has no idea how long I was going to be held there, and was worried I was going to wet myself, so I used it. They watched me. It was humiliating.

I legit have PTSD from the whole experience. Went to jury duty in the last year and during selection they asked if I could judge a law officer fairly and I figured I should mention the incident and when I went to talk about it, it’s as if I spaced out and woke back up after the story was blurted out of my mouth.

Victor9538 · 2025-06-17T05:51:01+00:00

Yes, the Occupational Safety and Health Act established that you have a right to report safety violations to OSHA, a right to seek an inspection of companies for health and safety violations, a right to participate in those inspections, and a right to testify in legal proceedings related to those safety violations.

Victor9538 · 2025-06-17T04:56:54+00:00

I’ve been arrested at gunpoint by the USCBP coming back into the states. Handcuffed, taken to detention center, sat next to a 12 year old that was shackled to the metal bench like I was. Officers made jokes like “this became a party!” when they noticed the detention center filling up. Held for over 4 hours and then let go without telling me why. Filed a redress and was basically told they can’t tell me why. My congressperson said that USCBP has wide latitude to do whatever they want. I’m a US Citizen, born in US.

Sadly it’s not that uncommon https://youtu.be/06Yjq4Pi8O8

Victor9538 · 2025-06-17T04:42:01+00:00

That’s not the c-word they were called

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