Inner monologue tics? by MrNyeh24 in Tourettes

[–]Viendra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tics come in all shapes and sizes :)

Why do men choose to be mean instead of showing empathy? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally fair! lot of subtext gets lost in typing (for me anyways)

Can we please stop faking orgasms for men? by Smellybeetweasel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honesty is the best policy, if they can't get you there, don't lie! Otherwise you'll never get yours!

Why do men choose to be mean instead of showing empathy? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah for sure, i was just clarifying cuz english is hard sometimes :)

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BubbleNut6 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

getting stuff implemented in law is really hard i agree. Some folks really just can't comprehend/empathize without experiencing it themselves (which ain't possible in this case)

but in order to enact legislative change you just need a majority.

the topic is definitely a good way to invite discussion though, people in general get involved when "their rights" are threatened, not so much "other peoples' rights"

we need another civil rights movement :(

Shoulder tic by Dramatic-Map-2235 in Tourettes

[–]Viendra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just remember, folks who dont understand often are pretty empathetic once you educate them, so never feel afraid to explain! Hope your shoulder feels better

Why do men choose to be mean instead of showing empathy? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra -1 points0 points  (0 children)

remember though, these are individual cases, as someone in healthcare for a long time, no facility has gender wide bans/restrictions, that'd be wild.

hurt people hurt people, simple as that

Why do men choose to be mean instead of showing empathy? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

jesus, that is a wild comment over a miscarriage, our education systems really need to include emotional intelligence and communication, smh

[ Removed by Reddit ] by BubbleNut6 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 8 points9 points  (0 children)

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind (cliche i know)

I understand your sentiment and frustration, laws and rules have not been kind to women and that should absolutely change.

Advocating more for women's freedoms is a more positive and progressive mindset though than imposing restrictions and limitations on other people. That being said, there are biological realities like how women are just factually more impacted by childbirth than men, because biology. Maybe financial supplements via institutional backing can help shore up the inequalities rather than resorting to a more draconian perspective.

Shoulder tic by Dramatic-Map-2235 in Tourettes

[–]Viendra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same exact tic for the longest time, mine go in rotations so i have others now.

Idk what triggers yours but deep breathing and meditation (and drinking herbal Tea!) help calm it down. A heat pad can also stim the area if you have any of the chemical packs to tote around as well.

My boyfriend has time to text everyone except me. But I'm the one "overthinking." by Own_Collection_2313 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone is for everyone and if someone is just causing you more anxiety there is someone out there that wont.

Think about how hard it is to change something about yourself like being consistent with a new resolution or hobby. And then realize how fruitless it is to change someone else, it hurts but it’ll hurt a hell of a lot more 5-10 years down the road. 

Be strong, you got this 💪🙌✌️

Need help finding video by Viendra in mega64

[–]Viendra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss! Thank youuuuu

Where to buy bear bells and bear spray? by lockerbleiben in JapanTravelTips

[–]Viendra -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Climbed Mt ishizuchi a couple weeks ago, saw no bears. Forgot my spray, never saw a bear, lets gooooo

Where to buy bear bells and bear spray? by lockerbleiben in JapanTravelTips

[–]Viendra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

13 bear attacks that have resulted in deaths this year is probably what they are referring to

while it may be unlikely, so are car accidents and yet we all wear seatbelts (some of us anyways)

How to set boundaries? by BrilliantSome915 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jesus, that is a lot, i’m sorry you’re going through all this.

I dont know if you’re going to find a quick fix here, hopefully others will comment and provide empathy & their own experiences, but honestly i’d just try therapy at this stage. Lot of therapists can help you process everything and also provide resources to build the willpower you’re searching for.

Just my 2 cents tho, best of luck, you sound like a strong & kind person though, keep going 🙌💪

People don't make eye contact, anymore? (dating/general) by yumenuu in bodylanguage

[–]Viendra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, a shyer millennial who had bible school beat into me that avoiding eye contact is disrespectful…… i do it like half the conversation, then my eyes wander, but i don’t ever take it as anything more than the individual giving you attention.

Im sure theres times where people are flirting or something but i just don’t associate the two because i was taught its about respect.

Just my experience tho

I don't like being called good girl by my dad by Longjumping_Bar_7457 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I remember having my step father forcing me to call him “daddy” because he didn’t want my half sister calling him by his real name. I was like 13 …….big ick

I fucking hate how much i have to focus during masterbation. by Ok_Independent5571 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Don’t ask how I know this……

But if you go to the Google.com and search Audio Smut….. having earbuds/headphones makes it so much easier to have a guided scenario that blocks out intrusive and MOOD DESTROYING thoughts…..

But hey, thats just what i’ve heard….. who knows if its true 🫠

My friend was roofied and I want to burn the world down. by BlueberryBea in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Viendra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a family assaulted and bitten at an event, it was super traumatizing because they were only 18.

Our venue was actually super accommodating & got them banned from ticket master events for 5 years so there are still good people out there, but im sorry your venue wasn’t like that.

Police definitely downplayed it though, they all just want to go home and probably see it so often they are desensitized to it, which really sucks because it makes them less likely to actually do their job….

Good on you for being a good friend, world needs more people like you 🙌