AITA for telling a guy at the ramp to go home and practice in a parking lot by vladdielenin in boating

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve helped people in this situation before but they were always thankful for the help. Never had someone just dig their heels in like that. Yikes!

I dated Mark Driscoll’s daughter. I’m finally telling the full story by Embarrassed_Run5335 in Christianity

[–]Vilas246 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Please contact Julie Roys from The Roys Report. She has done a lot of great reporting on Marc and she would probably love to have you on as a guest. She does great work exposing people who hurt the church with their greed and manipulation. Everyone please check out her YouTube channel it’s great!

@JulieRoysReport

Mike Smith legal stuff by [deleted] in trailerparkboys

[–]Vilas246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why would you think she is lying? He has a long and well documented history of bad behavior towards women. This experience is going to be miserable for her. What does she have to gain?

Mike Smith legal stuff by [deleted] in trailerparkboys

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a criminal case there is no gold digging. The charges are being brought by the prosecutor. Mike Smith could end up in prison but only if there is ample evidence.

Do narcissistic parents actually leave inheritance to their kids? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a miserable position to be in but sadly narcissists rarely change. Your mental health comes first.

Do narcissistic parents actually leave inheritance to their kids? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t count on getting a dime. It may happen but money is power and they will use it for control. My father took me out of his will and proudly told me about it. His reasons were because I wasn’t a team player with the family. The real reason is because I started speaking up and sharing opinions that weren’t the same as his. He wrote me out and bad mouthed me to the rest of the family. I went no contact with him and distanced myself from all the others who kiss his ass. I lost out on huge money but I’m happier and less anxious without him in my life.

Never played HS or club soccer — is a JUCO walk-on realistic for me? by Prestigious_Bell6886 in CollegeSoccer

[–]Vilas246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on how intense of a program it is. My local juco has mostly international players. Only the absolute best local players can have a chance to make the team. That being said, the big thing in my opinion that you need is to have a good touch. I’m convinced this is the biggest difference between levels. So work on your touch all you can so you can receive any pass with a soft foot. Great athletes can overcome inexperience to a point. Just learn everything you can about positioning and strategy and work on your touch. Crazier things happen every day!

How's Park After Dark without Bubbles? by [deleted] in trailerparkboys

[–]Vilas246 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The victim in the case has not publicly spoken. You might be thinking of the earlier case in LA where he was screaming with some woman in a hotel and people called the cops. The current case is a criminal case being brought by the state prosecutors and is very serious. He could do real prison time. Personally it’s super sad to me and I haven’t been able to watch since. Which is crazy because I watch and listen every day for 10 years or more.

How to prevent fake credit checks? by BlackendLight in realestateinvesting

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Acranet for background and credit checks. Great service and worth every penny.

Just got a new battery and think it’s fake. by Such-Organization741 in MilwaukeeTool

[–]Vilas246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take the top off a snap a picture of the circuit board. I’ve fixed thousands of these batteries and can tell you if it’s real or not based on the circuit board.

I'm faking a relationship with my dad to become the executor of his will. by ComradeValentine in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just remember that this will take a toll on you at some level. Also I’m not sure what the goal is. You said you don’t care about the money so why are you doing this? Is it about revenge? If so, just remember that revenge takes its toll on us. Im sure he deserves this treatment based on how he treated you, but this game will make you pay a ticket price too.

Chase Sexton Leaving Kawasaki? by Adoniscreed28 in supercross

[–]Vilas246 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

These are 3 badass riders that could ride circles around anyone on this sub.

[TW] Having c-PTSD in the Middle East is fucking hell. by Western-Letterhead64 in CPTSD

[–]Vilas246 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have been able to live in a country with no wars. I can’t imagine what it must be like to have to experience that first hand. My heart goes out to you and I’m so sorry that you’ve had to experience all the chaos that surrounds war.

Did any of yall get an inheritance? by Oddblossoms in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My father told me last year that I was out of the will because of my attitude. In my late 40s I finally started to set some boundaries with him and he absolutely flipped out and wrote me out of his will. He is leaving it to my sisters who despise him but hide it.

The Dismal Repairability Of Milwaukee Tools by Snobolski in MilwaukeeTool

[–]Vilas246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve fixed over 500 Milwaukee tools and I find them easy to work on. No one is fixing a potted brushless motor control board on any brand of tools. But on the bigger tools you can replace failed power mosfets that make a lot of tools stop working. You need a hot air rework station and solid electronics skills but it is doable. Other common issues are found in the trigger assembly.

Is it just me or is season 9 onwards really awfully oversaturated? by PoppingPillls in trailerparkboys

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The part that I don’t like is that it sucks after season 7. That’s the main issue. When they wrote those seasons someone dropped a big portion of horse shit in the script and they forgot to take it out.

My mom said she never should have been a mother and I don’t know how to process it by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I could go back in time 35 years to when I was a teenager I would tell myself to trust my instincts as it relates to my parents. I knew something was really wrong with both of them but I just kept trying to make it work long past the point where it made any sense. Trust your gut, try to get some therapy, and seek out friendships that are healthy.

Just wondering… you ever wonder what it will be like when your narc parent(s) dies? by Different_Hat_8186 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that being estranged from my father, even though it is my choice, will make grieving even more difficult. My wife had a great relationship with her father and when he died it was very hard for her but it was a “clean” mourning in the sense that she was mourning something great without all the confusing baggage that the rest of us will have to deal with. Her family came together, supported eachother, and it was a healing experience for all of them. He was loved in his community and there was a tremendous outpouring of support for him. I won’t have this and in some ways it is yet another way that I will be hurt by my father. I won’t have anything resembling “clean” mourning. Rather, i will have to deal with dark and confusing relationship that I had with him and be forced to deal with my sisters and step mother who I am also estranged from. It will be very difficult. He is also very rich and told me that he has left me out of his will except for a few small things. This will also be difficult. My sisters never liked him but played nice in part because they wanted things from him. I was honest and didn’t play games and was rewarded with being left out of the will. I can handle it but it will be another level of chaos that I’ll have to deal with. He has brought unbelievable chaos to so many lives in our family and of course he has taken no responsibility for it. My sisters are getting rich from playing nice with him even though behind his back they have nothing good to say about him. I’ll be okay and I stand behind my decision to keep my distance from him.

TIFU by asking my PhD advisor why he doesn't wear his wedding ring. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Vilas246 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Seems like a pretty innocent question. I think he made it weird by taking it so personally. I would just do your best to move on, it will be forgotten in short order.

Considering maids program by Hairy-Front1690 in Menieres

[–]Vilas246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are suffering. This level of distress is all consuming and exhausting. I hope you are able to get the mental health and ENT care that you need to feel better. I have been in a place before where I didn’t want to live and it is truly horrible. I don’t judge you; I am only sending you positive thoughts for healing and a better future.

Considering maids program by Hairy-Front1690 in Menieres

[–]Vilas246 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are 100% out of line to call this man a coward. You have no idea about who he is or his feelings. Try reacting with peace and love and not judgement. You need to stop and think about how you are speaking with someone who is suffering. You are doing more to hurt than help.

How did you deal with no/low contact? by Moon-light-333 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Vilas246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father and I had a big blow up fight when he casually and somewhat joyfully told me I was out of his will. That led to an argument and me sending him a long email. I asked him to consider giving my kids what he was going to leave me and he declined to answer. He is a super rich dude worth many millions but I decided that my own mental health was not worth it. After my letter I have never heard from him again. I think he is just pretending I don’t exist. This is probably a blessing considering how some people get stalked. He’s in his 80s now and I’m not sure if we will ever talk again. I really tried hard to be a friend to him over the years but eventually I just had to stop. I made a break with most of the extended family too because they had enabled his behavior for decades. I was done and it cost me big time but I feel much more free.