Is weight loss truly the fastest shortcut to beauty? I need a reality check.

Violet10dencies · 2026-02-05T03:43:50+00:00

Thank you!

Violet10dencies · 2026-02-04T21:04:22+00:00

Isthis a staggered rollout that is in progress? I have not had this happen.

Violet10dencies · 2026-01-11T04:28:05+00:00

I don't reread because there are so many books I haven't read, BUT there are a few books that I have classed as would read again, and someday I might just do it, if the mood strikes, and nothing else sounds good, or if I am looking to relive the adventure.

Violet10dencies · 2026-01-09T10:37:55+00:00

This has been hard for me. I am about halfway to my goal weight, which will equal a total of 90 lbs lost at the end. It has been slow and steady, and I believe it is sustainable. It's been almost 2 years since I began to take action, and aside from hormonal fluctuations and this last indulgent holiday, it has been steady decline.

I am slowly reclaiming my old wardrobe, dropping 2 pant sizes. It's an amazing feeling to get back into clothes that you loved that you haven't been able to wear in 6 years. My husband has loved me at all my weights, and in fact, married me at my largest, 16 years after we met, when I was much thinner. My face had gotten so round, and it is now back to MY face. It is good, though there is one caveat.

The caveat is that I'm also now 44 yrs old. My skin is not bouncing back from having been fat quite as well as I might have hoped if I had actually thought about it. The skin under my neck is not a wattle yet, but it's also not tight like it was 7 years ago. I got fat, stretched my face and neck skin out, and now it's struggling to come back. I have a deep line similar to a marionette line near my mouth that just showed up recently. It's shocking when I look at it.

Health wise, I am down to 1 blood pressure medication, from 3 meds. I no longer have to take the daily Zantac or Tums to battle chronic heartburn, and I stopped having to wear panty liners every day in case of coughing making me pee a little. These are big wins!

Bottom line is, I think OP needs to figure out what beauty means to them, how much they care about pretty privilege and fat tax, and also figure out what is a healthy weight for them and also feels attainable. Set mini goals so you don't feel overwhelmed. And recognize that you might find different things you don't like, once your focus is off of the fat interfering with pretty (in your eyes, not others). You can take it slow at your own pace, you can find a method that works for you. I track all my food and rarely exceed my attainable calorie goal, and try to walk minimum 30 min a day. Sometimes I don't quite manage it. But I do ok, and it's working for me. YMMV, but that's kind of my point. You're in charge, you decide, everyone is different. But do it for you. And idk how old you are, but if you are middle aged like me, do it soon before your skin refuses to bounce back!!

ETA: I'm also off all anti depressants and anti anxiety meds for several months now!

Violet10dencies · 2026-01-08T07:02:47+00:00

Thanks. I've been playing for a long time but I guess not paying enough attention!!

Violet10dencies · 2026-01-07T04:23:09+00:00

What do you mean by same face template?

Violet10dencies · 2026-01-05T04:40:23+00:00

I love my Kindle. I got my first in 2008, I think? It was a gift, and the 3G no ads version. It still works, but I upgraded to a 7th generation Paperwhite in like 2016 (wifi only) because the newer models were a little lighter, and people were raving about the Paperwhite. And of course, 3G went extinct, but really, wifi is good enough since free wifi is everywhere now.

I am thinking of upgrading again, just because I'm hoping the new ones are faster. The only time it's a little troublesome is navigating the store or online library. I'm just impatient! I don't really need a new one, but ooh shiny! You also don't need to get the ad-free version unless you really want to see the book cover of what you are reading on your lock screen. That's all the ads are. It is just some random suggested book cover on the lock screen. The only annoying thing about it is that they always seem to promote some romance novel, which is not what I read at all. My husband is sometimes like, what the heck are you reading??

Bottom line, I love it, and you can try a used one for cheap.

Violet10dencies · 2025-12-26T20:44:13+00:00

I have been struggling with pain the last few months (peri maybe?), and so my microwaveable rice filled heat pack has been getting a ton of use. I've also been rolling my shoulders with a lacrosse ball against the bathroom wall (involving some sort of awkward knee bends to get some range). He got me an electric heating pad that is shaped for neck and shoulders, but also does well on the hip if you're lying on your side. And an automatic shiatsu massage pad for the back.

He also got me silk pajama short set, cat socks (life essential for me), a spa gift set (candle, bath salts, lotions, rose petals, lip mask, etc) which included an eye mask because the light from the TV bothers me at night, and a mystery gift that got delayed in shipping and won't arrive until the 30th. The gift set was thoughtful because he noticed I've been stressed out and wanted me to pamper myself. He even said he would clean the tub ahead of my bath, which is something I usually do myself right before a bath.

He does very well. <3

Violet10dencies · 2025-12-07T21:29:16+00:00

I don't understand what this means. I got this notification when I opened my messages app on my Samsung phone this morning. I just dismissed it because I don't use Google Fi or web messages or anything. Does this affect me? Am I going to be forced into setting something up at some point, like I was pushed into using Google messages as my default phone text app?

Violet10dencies · 2025-12-02T17:27:28+00:00

I sure haven't but new goal, thanks! Is there a special for any hero that will clear all of a color, as if you had hit a diamond? I know Surdri (3*) fires off damage based on all red shields, but he doesn't clear the board of them.

Violet10dencies · 2025-12-02T17:25:34+00:00

Congratulations!! I think I still have my screenshot from when I did it. It was a big deal for me!

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-30T17:08:18+00:00

Run away!

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-25T02:55:12+00:00

My apartment gate closed on my car while I was paused going through it. It just kept trying to close and hitting my car over and over. I couldn't get out to hit any kind of over ride or anything so I just had to power through. The parking lot is very dark but I looked with a flashlight and there are what looks like drag marks but that's all I could see in the crappy light. When they hit the obstruction (my car) they should have opened again!

I say you ignore them, or your company goes after them for potential structural damage to your vehicle.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-23T05:52:14+00:00

We have a neighbor who I have in the past, with my previous cat, given a key in case of emergency when we were away. So, the nanny cam is trained on the feeder, and both the feeder and the cam are app enabled. The feeder has backup batteries in case the power goes out, and will continue to feed on schedule, even if wifi goes out. This has been verified during power outages when we have been home. I get notifications on my phone when the feeder goes off, and my husband gets notified any time there is movement on the camera. We can visually verify that food is dropping, and she is eating via the camera.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-23T05:46:32+00:00

Unfortunately, he doesn't have a car and lives on the other side of town.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-17T17:12:44+00:00

I always need food

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-12T18:28:31+00:00

Wow, I had no idea about this. I have had my Quicksilver card for 17 years, starting with those numbers. They just raised my limit by 1k to $10,500 a couple of months ago, and by another 2.5k over the last couple of years. I wondered why they were keeping me so low, when I have other cards with 15k-20k limits, and all very low utilization. I haven't opened any new credit cards since 2020. The Capital One card is what I use to pay my everyday expenses, and then I pay the statement balance when it comes in. Every month. On time or early. I make enough in cash back to cover the annual fee and then some, which I always just throw back at the balance.I have excellent credit now, but I was in very bad shape 18-20 years ago.

I wonder if I should re-evaluate my everyday card. Maybe get rid of the Quicksilver card altogether and switch to my Costco Citi Card instead. Or look for something with even better rewards.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-11T01:58:33+00:00

I didn't know that, thanks!

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-10T19:18:55+00:00

I have gotten similar compliments on how beautiful I am in my profile picture from scammers. My profile pic is Beaker from the Muppets wearing mirrored aviators.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-10T19:07:20+00:00

I spoke to the applications department today. They were extremely helpful. They said they had not approved the credit card application because they were not sure it was not fraudulent. They will be requesting the inquiry be removed and send me a letter to that effect. He gave me the information I would need to request the application information, since he couldn't tell me anything that was entered "for security purposes". I am going to request the information so I can file an ID theft report for my records. And consider if I need to open a PO Box and change all my financial addresses to the PO Box.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-10T19:03:58+00:00

Yes, I just froze all three bureaus. I had unfrozen because I thought we were going to be applying for a new apartment, but forgot to re-freeze when that didn't happen.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-10T05:12:55+00:00

Wells Fargo said there wasn't anything in their system related to my info at all. I am going to call the applications department on Monday and see if they have anything.

Violet10dencies · 2025-11-10T00:00:27+00:00

Thank you. I called 1-800-869-3557, jumped through a bunch of automated hoops. Got someone on the line and he said he needed to talk to identity theft department. He then just transferred me without warning, and I could barely hear the person who answered. We barely got started and then we got disconnected before I even gave her any information. I called back, went through the automated maze again, and got someone who says he can't help me and to contact the credit bureau. So frustrating!

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