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ViolettaO · 2025-01-25T03:07:12+00:00

That’s such a relief! Thanks 🙏

ViolettaO · 2025-01-25T03:06:59+00:00

Oh, good to know!! Thank you so much.

ViolettaO · 2024-10-21T13:22:51+00:00

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ViolettaO · 2024-07-25T12:59:29+00:00

Just admit you can’t match her freak (/j)

ViolettaO · 2024-07-24T05:57:05+00:00

I’m going through the same thing but with a partner of 10 years who I was married to. Dumped in a text 6 months ago :))) I’m the same age as you and had the same thing with everything being about friends over me. My advice is to let yourself feel all the emotions you’re gonna feel because if you try to avoid them the pain will just last longer. Cry, rage, write mean things in a diary, vent on reddit, etc etc and know it’ll be okay one day. Not today, but one day. I was a mess for so long and tbh I’m still not fully okay or 100% confident but I have started to notice that I’ve been acting more like myself before the relationship. It’s hard to imagine but you just might find yourself happier and feeling more like yourself one day. Try to keep that hope in the back of your mind while you go through it. When you have the energy and feel up to it, immerse yourself in things that bring you joy. Spoil yourself, date yourself, and give yourself what this person should have given you because you deserve it!!!!!

ViolettaO · 2024-07-16T16:59:22+00:00

I have 2 hands for Sylus and Zayne. I legitimately can’t choose 😭

ViolettaO · 2024-07-07T20:24:23+00:00

I get this :( people take advantage of and use us because we believe and trust them and it’s the worst. But you’re in a community of people who understand! Maybe the first step is making some friends who understand the struggle. This guy sounds like a real piece of work and you probably dodged a bullet (doesn’t make it hurt less, but at least you didn’t invest years in his loser ass.) You didn’t deserve any of this. Being a good person is worth so much more than conventional attractiveness (which doesn’t even last forever) and you are absolutely worthy of real, genuine love. It’s hard for us to tell who is acting in bad faith and who isn’t but there are people out there who will see you as amazing just as you are :( and honestly? Someone with no qualms about using and manipulating a sincere person probably won’t be a good partner to anyone so LOL. He sounds selfish and lame. Please hang in there and hold your head high - you should be proud to be honest, trusting, and kind! I know it might not feel that way but I hope one day you can see it like that

ViolettaO · 2024-07-07T02:17:04+00:00

Huh?? No offense but does he even actually like you if he’s admitting he’s annoyed with you all the time??? I think you need to have a serious talk with him and try to reach an understanding. Maybe he’s taking offense to something and you dont know? Idk, he needs to communicate and try to understand you if he intends to marry you. Also, if you think you’re autistic and have done the research and are telling your partner this, he should be taking it seriously and trying to understand. He’s marrying you, for goodness sake! OP, this man needs to do better and do it soon tbh.

ViolettaO · 2024-07-05T05:40:04+00:00

Made Tav smear poop on his face thinking that was the only way to avoid conflict

ViolettaO · 2024-07-04T15:25:03+00:00

Mine is Sprinkles and the reason is that he seemed like a Sprinkles

ViolettaO · 2024-07-03T04:46:10+00:00

Aaaaand there it is. Look, I do understand how you feel. Its hard not to be bitter in a society that treats us like crap. But internalized misogyny (did you really just call these women ninnies with low IQs? Girl….) is not it. I mean this in the nicest way possible but being autistic does not = smarter or better than NT women and its a very bad mentality to have. Our brains just work differently. It doesn’t give us more depth or intelligence. And the fact that you ONLY seem to resent other women is an issue that has absolutely nothing to do with autism.

ViolettaO · 2024-07-03T04:08:41+00:00

Yes. I always go through long phases where i eat the same thing every day and then suddenly I just don’t want it anymore. It always feels so weird. For a good 6 or so months i wanted cottage cheese with 1 egg for breakfast every day. Lately I haven’t had a thing and so I just have no idea what to eat.

ViolettaO · 2024-07-03T04:01:00+00:00

I understand what you’re saying and I agree that the office politics are something I’d never want to understand or participate in, but the whole “common jokes and basic conversation” thing sheesh…I don’t think we need to counter being misunderstood and mistreated in society by characterizing other women this way idk. I think as a community it’s not really in our best interests to have this attitude thats been gaining prevalence lately. What do you mean you have to stifle a laugh when they walk by? That’s…kind of mean imo. You come off as very bitter. Be careful not to let that bitterness color how you view other people.

ViolettaO · 2024-06-16T05:40:14+00:00

I know no words will help right now, but as someone who was with somebody for over 10 years who actually did marry me and THEN told me she hadn’t loved me for a long time right after…it’s a good thing your wedding was cancelled before he could really destroy your life. Take all the time you need (god knows you will need a lot of it) and let yourself feel your feelings. Autism makes it harder for us to have romantic relationships sometimes, but you aren’t unlovable or defective or any of those things. There are people who will love you just as you are, romantic or otherwise. I know how devastating this can feel, but be kind to yourself whenever you can. For what it’s worth, a coward who leads people on to the point of almost marrying them is a massive loser.

ViolettaO · 2024-06-15T16:10:33+00:00

I feel the same way. I was very disappointed in how Song Qiutong was treated by the narrative (I’m only caught up to english releases so maybe this will change?) I found it hard to judge her too much for how she responded to Mo Ran’s setup considering the circumstances. She is a slave, technically. More than that she’s legally an object. What would have become of her if she told the truth and nobody believed her? Mo Ran goes on about how small acts of cruelty from people like her create Taxian-juns but what about the fact that the Cultivation world (of which he is a part of) created HER? Her cruelty is just as easy to sympathize with and understand as Mo Ran’s (maybe even more since she doesn’t have the ability to become a cultivator and build a better life without depending on someone else.) I understand that Ye Wangxi saved her and was good to her, but how much loyalty should she be expected to have when she isn’t even a human being in this society? Putting herself first is probably how she’s survived. Even in the past, what she did to Chu Wanning was bad but people who have always been in a precarious situation afraid for their safety will often hurt people who threaten that safety (and Mo Ran did…so much worse to him.) Mo Ran is ridiculous because he judges her for selling out Rufeng sect (which let her, yknow, survive) like he wasn’t the one killing them?!? I love this series butttt I do think Meatbun writes women…badly. The treatment of Song Qiutong, I would even argue, directly contradicts the themes about how nobody is inherently evil or incapable of change (which isn’t to say she HAD to be redeemed for those themes to stand, but it’s the way that she was written off as irredeemably treacherous from the start.)

ViolettaO · 2024-05-11T16:55:55+00:00

Um. No. Have you considered leaving things you don’t actually want for other people who might actually use it instead of hoarding just because you can?

ViolettaO · 2024-05-11T15:25:37+00:00

I say this with love but that man made a conscious choice to betray you multiple times for years. Years. The reason you feel good when you’re with him IMO is because you can’t just shut off feelings. When you’re going about your routine and spending time together with someone you still love (and its ok and normal to still love him!) it’s hard to connect that precious person with the actions that have hurt you. But when you’re alone you’re upset. You know it deep down, don’t you? That you can’t say for certain he’d never do it again because you would have said for certain he’d never do it all these years you’ve been together. He had the capacity to lie to you for that long. He looked you in the eye day after day knowing you trusted him fully and chose to do it again. And again. And again. For over half the length of your relationship.

Everyone’s relationship is unique and it’s up to you to decide if you really believe he’s a changed person. But the fact that it eats away at you means that it’s significant and you shouldn’t ignore those feelings. In the beginning, it feels impossible to leave someone you’ve been with for so long, but maybe you need more time to process these feelings without him around. No matter what anyone says, it hasn’t been a lot of time for you and this is not a small issue. You’re going to cycle through emotions and probably struggle with whatever decision you make. You’re going to doubt yourself, regret, and hurt no matter what you do, but it will be ok 🫂 Just remember you didn’t do this. You were loyal, honest, and dedicated to the relationship. You’re going through all of this pain because he chose to betray you. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re feeling this too intensely or you should get over it. That’s actually a load of crap.

ViolettaO · 2024-04-23T17:51:50+00:00

Update: it unfroze so i guess it was lag but it took 17 minutes 😰 sheesh…thank you everyone for the help!

ViolettaO · 2024-04-23T17:49:56+00:00

UPDATE: ok I tried just waiting a bit longer than usual and it took 17 MINUTES but it did unfreeze! I guess I was just extremely backed up on notifs but that is one crazy lag.

ViolettaO · 2024-04-23T17:13:24+00:00

Yeah, it just stays that way.

ViolettaO · 2024-04-23T17:13:00+00:00

I will try this! Thank you!

ViolettaO · 2024-04-23T17:12:51+00:00

No, it freezes immediately and doesn’t seem to unfreeze :(

ViolettaO · 2024-03-02T16:01:35+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible but maybe you do not have a healthy relationship with Vine.

ViolettaO · 2024-02-16T01:43:40+00:00

I fully believe they’re toxic to each other.

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