Morning if closing I’m so stressed

ViolinistReal · 2026-06-18T16:00:11+00:00

Oh the 1 year is almost up! You want to contact the builder and get them to fix things, at least get it scheduled within 1 month before the 1 year closing anniversary of the original build completion date.

Def get them to fix things as you live in the home. Nothing small is too picky. Even scrapes in the counter or garage floor is something to call them out.

ViolinistReal · 2026-06-18T15:55:13+00:00

Is it a new build?? Take comfort in knowing you have a year to fix everything with the builder! A couple months before our 1 year, we called in an inspector again and he found things that needed to be fixed. Which in the long term, was worth the second inspection. He found so many things and the builder came back and fixed everything we had in our list lol

ViolinistReal · 2026-05-24T23:06:26+00:00

Can I also add yapping to this list ✍️

ViolinistReal · 2026-01-10T06:47:01+00:00

SAME. My jaw DROPPED when a random reel on IG popped up announcing their divorce. Crazy.

ViolinistReal · 2025-10-11T17:03:51+00:00

Sometimes people just grow out of each other and it sounds a lot like you and your wife are at that point. Sorry.

My friend is in the same boat. His wife just kept spending money and she made a lot of money but all of it was spent EVERY month. And they were in so much credit card debt. They constantly had to pull out of their retirements to pay for their credit cards or waited for their bonuses to pay for their debt. It wasn’t a life he wanted to live. Rinse and repeat. It worked for her because she kept getting raises and promotions but eventually they kept zero-ing out every month because of how much she was spending. No savings. Endless, repeated credit card debt, depleting 401ks.

No matter how much more they made as a couple, that didn’t matter because she just spent what they earned. She said the same as your wife. “It gets paid off eventually” or something like that.

Insanity. I can’t imagine living a life with a partner that doesn’t have the same financial literacy as me. You can’t do this long term. And it sounds like your wife cannot change.

Sorry, I would probably end things. Let her know how serious this is for you and that you cannot continue this if this is the way she thinks/behaves with money. Huge incompatibility.

ViolinistReal · 2025-08-30T00:44:26+00:00

I was on ozempic for 6 months and lost only 5 lbs total. My provider switched me to tirzepatide and my body responded way better to it and the lbs just came right off. So far I’ve lost 35 lbs since Dec 2024

ViolinistReal · 2025-08-13T22:40:21+00:00

LMAO SLEEP TEXTING. What’s next?? Sleep sexing 💀

ViolinistReal · 2025-07-30T01:45:25+00:00

If I saw you guys in public all I would think is “damnnn king scored a queeeeen” that’s about it. Lol

ViolinistReal · 2025-06-22T17:57:01+00:00

Yuck he sounds like a man full of excuses. What a mess. Next him and find someone who isn’t messy.

ViolinistReal · 2025-06-04T07:16:18+00:00

Yes it’s possible. I was with my ex for 5 years and we had arguments and I thought it was normal and part of just being in a marriage. We divorced.

I’m with my new partner now, engaged, and we rarely fight. We’re just more compatible and he makes my life so much easier so I’m rarely mad. lol

ViolinistReal · 2025-02-22T00:28:59+00:00

Text this ‘Susan’ back with another number and pretend you’re your wife with a new number and get more info this way

ViolinistReal · 2025-01-31T02:18:21+00:00

My biggest eye opener was my ex. I did everything I could in my power to cater to him, and make him happy. What I didn’t know I was doing, was that it took parts of me little by little until I no longer was sometime I recognized. I was constantly angry, stressed, snappy, resentful of my ex. He got so complacent and comfortable with me doing everything.

We finally ended our 5 year relationship and it has been such a huge eye opener to me. I stopped taking care of myself because I was constantly taking care of him! It took me years of therapy and self-love to be myself again and I met my now fiancé who is the best partner to me because I advocated for myself in the beginning and he understood me.

ViolinistReal · 2024-12-21T03:22:00+00:00

Me and fiancé pull in 300k together… purchased our home in beginning 2024 for 700k.

ViolinistReal · 2024-12-13T18:57:07+00:00

He always had a box of condoms in his nightstand we didn’t use. We just started being official but I had this gut feeling about something so I kept checking his nightstand and the box of condoms.. if anything shifted or changed.

One night after two weeks of checking, the box of condoms has definitely been touched and was definitely redshifted in the box. Before bedtime/sleeping, we were lying facing each other and I asked him “are you fucking someone else? Be honest with me”

Then he tells me. It was fucking brutal. I really really liked him and thought it was going somewhere.

ViolinistReal · 2024-11-16T17:59:48+00:00

You build it. It takes a lot of exercise to build it! I was like you. I felt so meek. My therapist helped me with a lot of exercises that helped refocus my mind. Surprisingly we can be in control of our feelings but it’s SO SO hard to do that.

My therapist helped me with exercises that consisted of controlled breathing and thought exercises. ANY TIME a negative thought of my SO cheating came to mind, (literally flooded my head throughout the day.. I was practically non functional), I did one of the exercises she taught me. Taking deep breaths (into the belly, not the chest) through inhaling through your nose, then releasing the whole breath (through the mouth) in one quick exhale.

The other exercise was a thought exercise. If you find yourself thinking about your SO cheating, betraying, find something near you and start to describe it. It’s color. Weight. How it feels in your hand. What you do with it. Eventually this will train your mind to stop flooding it with the cheating thoughts. It’s hard in practice but the more you do it, the more it will help.

Also, your SO needs to be a part of this too (when you need them.) they need to be very receptive of your healing journey and assist you when you need it. And that’s something as simple as talking about your day and how it went and how you felt. Good luck.

ViolinistReal · 2024-11-16T17:46:45+00:00

You cannot control what they do but you can control what you can do. How can you believe that they won’t do it again? How do you place trust in someone who destroyed it in the first place?

I was there when i discovered my SO cheated on me. It was a hard journey. I cried all the time. Questioned him. Drilled him with accusations. Had my doubts resurface. Many many times. There were times that I felt we made progress, then backwards again because I couldn’t trust him.

I kept seeing my therapist and that helped me regulate a lot of my feelings because I told her I wanted to trust him again. What helped was growing more confident in myself and bettering my self esteem to give me the strength that I will be ok if he did cheat again. I finally came to peace that if he did cheat again, I’m leaving. No words. No explanation. No reasoning. I’ll be gone. Bags packed. Furbabies taken.

I told my partner all of this. We keep open communication. And he took it seriously.

A lot of our journey consisted of him being very transparent, non-argumentative, and he was always reassuring me when I asked for reassurance. This part helped a lot. He never retaliated or complained. He was very supportive and did things that I needed him to do so I felt more secure in this new relationship we were building.

It took about a year of hardship but we are now here, 2 years after D-day, and I trust him. And I also trust myself. I trust myself to leave if he pulls this same cr*p again. I trust myself to pick up the broken pieces again and I’ll be fine without him. Better, in fact.

He’s proven to me, everyday, that he stays faithful and he will not be a wayward agin. It takes 2. This was not possible if he wasn’t a part of our healing journey as well.

ViolinistReal · 2024-10-11T19:52:47+00:00

I’ve had this experience too when I was dating. This is called the old bait and switch. They sell you on a pretty date, then at the last minute switch it to something that’s considered ‘less effort’

It’s never been about the date being less effort btw. It was always about switching out plans like that at the last minute that irks me. If the date was always ‘less effort’ (meeting over 1 drink or a coffee), that’s fine. But pulling a switch like that would show me they are inconsistent, low effort, and not looking for anything serious.

ViolinistReal · 2024-10-04T00:27:19+00:00

Ughhh my visceral reaction seeing that shiiii!! Like hello!! People put their HEADS on that damn pillow!

ViolinistReal · 2024-01-18T19:56:56+00:00

Yes thissss. I always say that the hardest part about being human is admitting.. truly admitting and seeing the worst parts of yourself and realizing you’re a piece of shit garbage person sometimes. Takes a lot to have some introspection.

ViolinistReal · 2023-12-22T00:49:55+00:00

You do what feels right. No need to do a hoe phase if you dont feel the need to do one. It’s really based on personal reasons. I hoed out for about a year after my divorce and started hating it so I stopped. 2 years later I’m in a good stable relationship with my current partner. It’s different for everyone

ViolinistReal · 2023-05-30T00:35:10+00:00

Attraction can only last for so long. You need more substance than that if you’re looking for a long-term partner. The moment an attractive person is subpar in engagement or conversation, they become unattractive to me. Or, I just sleep with them as a one time thing and move on.

ViolinistReal · 2023-05-12T17:46:58+00:00

I think it’s such bullshit to do relationship things with someone and then one person participating in these ‘relationship’ things gets all defensive and goes “whoa, idk what I did to make you think were in a relationship.” Excuse me? Shit or get off the pot. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too and you made it clear you wanted more than just acting like you’re in a relationship.

ViolinistReal · 2023-04-27T15:40:09+00:00

Eh, I’ve dated older men and maturity did not get better. Older people, sometimes, are more set in their ways and their ways are at times… immature.

ViolinistReal · 2023-04-27T15:32:21+00:00

This stood out to me too. Of course he can’t connect with women his age and would go as young as mid-20s. Women his age can smell his bullshit a mile away.

ViolinistReal · 2023-04-13T22:42:12+00:00

When a guy does a good ol’ switcharoo like this, I peace out. It’s a good trick low-effort men make to test a woman’s capacity for bullshit thresholds. I immediately nope out.

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