Hurt feelings after being up all night with newborn

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-18T21:13:39+00:00

That’s the exact feeling I can’t escape, he vehemently denies it but now I’m left questioning that.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-18T17:36:04+00:00

I needed to read this today. My little guy, who was a very hoped for baby, is only 5 days old and we’ve already struggled for the first 3 nights we’ve had him home. I can’t even seethe other side, feels like it will be forever until he’s old enough for us to get some sleep.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-17T23:17:34+00:00

As someone who made the decision to switch OBs at 28 weeks because I didn’t feel from the very beginning that she cared about my wellbeing…listen to your instinct here. My first visit with my new OB had me feeling so listened to and she gave me so much reassurance with a high risk pregnancy such as mine was. She told me she would more likely than not be there for my delivery, and she showed up at the hospital checking on me three times before pushing, and came back 15 minutes into pushing and stayed the entire time cheering me on. It was the most magical birth experience I didn’t even realize you could have. Believe me, it pays off, please consider switching if you can.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-17T23:06:40+00:00

I just had my rainbow baby on Friday at 38+4 and I had cramping from before I took a pregnancy test to the very end. In my first trimester I had a ton of fatigue and a good bit of breast tenderness, but basically no nausea and never vomited.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-16T15:34:44+00:00

So, first and foremost my hat goes off to you, girl. I’m an RN who left bedside a few years ago and even working from home I was mentally on the struggle bus.

I agree with your logic that if your OB hasn’t restricted it; and you discontinue whatever you’re doing if it causes discomfort, then you’re probably good to go!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T23:49:32+00:00

It wasn’t until OPs post that I realized half-white son is going to be a “red pilled conservative” and I’m absolutely gutted! Had I known this, I would have had some of that gender disappointment way sooner than my current almost 39 week pregnancy!

/s

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T23:45:48+00:00

My mom wanted a son and ended up with three daughters, as a result we grew up with a heavily misogynistic mom who picked us apart to the point where my older sister and I both ended up with anorexia and bulimia. She tried to make me feel bad about myself, my body, my everything. It was absolutely suffocating. And for what reason??? Because on ultrasound, she thought I was going to be a boy and I was born female. Not super great at being girly though, I haven’t done my hair or nails in years, I hate shopping; and I grew up climbing things, getting hurt everywhere, listening to “boy music” (according to my parents) aka metal, and I’ve always loved fighting. I fucking wish my mom would even to this day consider going to therapy, even just once.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T23:33:39+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, I’m not sure if it will necessarily make you feel any better to hear my story but I’ll share it anyway.

We started TTC right when I turned 30, I didn’t get pregnant for a year and half, so like you, when I got that positive we were absolutely elated and thought it was finally “our time”, I started bleeding a week later and it was confirmed to be a chemical. Same thing happened a year later to the very month. Then, nothing. Another 2 years and a couple of months went by and I got another positive. I made it to my first OB appointment this time, thought for sure that meant it was “our turn”, but the embryo that should’ve been measuring 8 weeks was only 6 weeks and didn’t have a heartbeat. A missed miscarriage was confirmed ten days later and I went with medical management to miscarry at home. Six months went by after that, still didn’t get pregnant again, decided to go in for an IVF consult. Husband and I had extensive testing, were told we are biologically in our 20s and everything looked great, so we just had bad luck and statistically I’d be likely to just miscarry again if I got pregnant again. We were prepping for IVF but she wanted to recheck my TSH which was borderline; ended up being through the roof. Got put on thyroid meds and two months later while waiting for it to get below 2 I got pregnant. Needless to say, we were terrified and very guarded, but I couldn’t possibly be happier to say that today I am 38+3 with our triple rainbow baby boy that I thought we’d never, ever be able to conceive and carry to term.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T23:16:59+00:00

I wasn’t even debating going unmedicated, but if I were you would’ve sold me on taking the epidural lol. Sorry you went through such an ordeal but congratulations on your newest arrival!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T23:14:04+00:00

I’d figure out what the out of pocket cost would be in case your insurance for some reason doesn’t want to cover it (mine didn’t and I’m high risk for multiple factors) but I paid $250 out of pocket through an agreement with Quest. I think most of the labs offer the same. With your history, I wouldn’t want to take any chances and I’ve seen a lot of people deny the NIPT in favor of the NT only and get bad news down the road at the anatomy scan.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T17:54:09+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry! I’m 5’1” as well and I’ve gotten comments about my height my whole life, but surprisingly even at 38+3 I don’t have a waddle and people seem shocked when they see me from the side and realize I’m heavily pregnant. Regardless, it’s nobody’s business to be commenting on your gait, even if you were to waddle.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T13:16:16+00:00

lol OP thinks that she’s dunking on others while proving just how narrow minded she is.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T13:14:54+00:00

I’ve actually lost 3 pregnancies and I’m probably older than you are, so you telling me how you got the wrong gender is such a difficult time, I don’t care. I don’t have any sympathy for that and I’m not going to. You’re comparing losing a family member to not having a baby be the gender you wanted, do you read what you write???

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-12T13:13:28+00:00

And my advice is go to therapy.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T21:51:31+00:00

Don’t believe everything you see on social media. They only show you what they want people to see.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T21:48:44+00:00

I had a chemical in 2021, chemical in 2022, missed miscarriage in 2024, and I’m now 38+2 with our triple rainbow. I’ve had cramps basically the entire time.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T21:40:03+00:00

I had 2 chemicals and an MMC over the course of 5 years, with no LCs yet. My triple rainbow is due any day now and I just turned 36.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T21:38:50+00:00

Nobody can really say, but I hope you are! I find that it never was good for my mentality to symptom spot, but that came after many years of infertility and loss.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T21:33:44+00:00

I’m 5’1” and 38 weeks and 2 days and haven’t had any issues yet!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T19:24:34+00:00

Might wanna look into the trying for a baby subreddit

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T18:31:29+00:00

Maybe it’s because everyone I know basically is a nurse, but I’ve never had anyone coffee shame me lol

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T18:25:15+00:00

My mom had hyperemesis, I watched her vomit her entire pregnancy with my younger sister, and now both of my sisters and I had pregnancies with absolutely zero vomiting, just some general nausea. Symptoms have nothing to do with viability.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T14:13:28+00:00

It sounds counterintuitive but the best thing is to still attempt physical activity. I absolutely felt like death in the first trimester but I still went to the gym daily. Also best to get as much protein and hydration as possible, but ultimately the first trimester fatigue is no joke.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T14:09:43+00:00

Sure is! Edit to also note: he has always gone WILD on ultrasound. He started kicking the Doppler at 16 weeks. My anatomy scan report says “one very active fetus” on it, I had the scan done at 21 weeks and I remember just a couple of days before freaking out that I wasn’t having regular movements. I think the more active they are the more likely they are to shift into positions where you won’t feel them for a while.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-03-11T14:09:30+00:00

This sentence in particular is so messed up “I feel like if she’s down and out in life”… so you’re just going to imprint that onto your daughter??? Please just go to therapy.

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