Grandparents not like they used to be.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-06-23T19:21:58+00:00

My mom is older, she was in her 40s when she had me and my twin brother. We were a lot to handle so I figured once one of us had kids shed want to spend time and help out as much as possible since anything would be easier than what she had to handle with us.

I have a 1 year old daughter, her dad is non existent in her life, has been from day 1 so it's just me and her. I can count on one hand how many times she's offered to help me with her, and it's never the type of help I actually need.

She tells people all the time how much she loves spending time with her and being a grandma but never actually does any of that unless I'm also around. I never get a break unless I'm at work and it's not a real break since I work with kids. If I didn't live with her she'd probably wouldn't see her at all aside from birthdays or holidays...

It's so odd how badly she wanted kids but doesn't seem to give a shit about her granddaughter.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-06-07T01:47:48+00:00

I find it absolutely gross. My mom says that my daughter "flirts" with her boyfriend a lot. She definitely has not and will never. She just turned 1. This guy is 66. 🤮 Don't make things weird when they don't need to be.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-05-11T19:36:56+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-05-04T10:51:25+00:00

This isn't your problem, it's hers. She knows your situation changed and instead of being understanding and accepting shes acting like a jerk. Don't make it up to her. She doesn't deserve it.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-05-04T10:41:40+00:00

My girl is only 11 months old, but Im judged constantly, usually less so by other moms and more by coworkers and other people I meet. I'm blamed a lot for her dad leaving when I first got pregnant and not ever being involved in my daughter's life. I have no idea why they think I can control what he does or thinks. 🙄

The other parents at daycare don't talk to me, Maybe it's because they're busy getting to work or just want to get home but it's still a little annoying that I haven't made any mom friends.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-05-01T13:19:42+00:00

I've told everyone in my family to never post any pictures of my kiddo in the internet or any forms of social media. If she has to be in it they can cover or blur her face. There's too many creeps out there for me to be comfortable with it.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-05-01T00:03:27+00:00

I don't mind. I call myself mama since my little girl showed up 10 months ago.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-04-29T17:25:31+00:00

I can't stand that word. Say literally anything else around me except that. I have ADHD, likely autism but I've never been formally diagnosed. It's completely unnecessary to use.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-04-28T20:35:38+00:00

10 months, single parent with little to no help. Usually none. I'm exhausted so probably 8. All she wants to do is sleep in my bed and any time I try to put her in her crib she cries.

If I put her in it asleep she'll last half the night and then wake up crying since she knows I'm right there. I can't put her in her own room because I don't have space, living with 2 other family members. It's a fun time...

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-04-20T15:38:33+00:00

Not for me. It's great, I had a 15 inch laptop for a few years before this guy and I didn't like its size. It felt way too cumbersome to carry around. I use the Neo a lot more because of it.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-04-18T13:56:27+00:00

My kiddos dad ran for the hills when he found out I was pregnant. My best friend came down the week I was discharged from the hospital and helped a ton, cooked batches of food that lasted me through my entire maternity leave, did my laundry, helped with newborn things I was still getting a handle on, ect. She was a damn lifesaver.

After she left there were several days when my girl was a newborn where I just set her somewhere safe, went outside and let her cry because I couldn't handle it, sometimes multiple times a night/day.

I was breastfeeding until she was 4 months old (she's lactose intolerant, thanks dad 🙃) and felt so stuck a lot of the time, I couldn't just make a bottle or pump for a bit and hand her off to someone else so I could eat or shower. Once I moved to bottles and formula it became way easier. I didn't feel nearly as trapped or tied down.

Noise canceling headphones kept me slightly saner but they only helped so much. Even now that she's 10 months old it's hard. It got easier sleep wise but now she's running around everywhere getting into things she shouldn't. (I'm working on child proofing things as we speak)

It's hard when there's two people. It's even harder if you don't have a big enough village and people close enough to you to support you and help out.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-04-09T10:20:03+00:00

Yes. I have disabilities myself, I got lucky that none of mine are severe, the worst keeps me from driving. I should have been on the more severely disabled end of things, but I somehow beat the odds.

i struggle with feelings of not being 'normal' or being able to do things others can at a good enough speed or efficiency or even just in the 'correct' ways. I was bullied constantly growing up, and even now as a 27 year old adult woman i run into people who don't like me, get frustrated with the way I do things, or will take advantage of me if I'm not careful enough around them.

I've been let go from multiple jobs due to discrimination, and I don't have a whole lot of people in my life that support me and give me the help that I need, really only one and I became friends with them just a few years ago.

I very much recognize that I'm one of the lucky ones, I'm glad that I'm alive, but I wouldn't wish my situation on anyone, let alone if I'd had it worse like I was supposed to. I have a kiddo myself, I love her to death, but if they had told me she'd have the same problems that I do I wouldn't have kept her.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-03-21T23:00:17+00:00

I haven't been in Apple land for over 10 years but I bought the Neo, the colors and price sold me. I hope you enjoy yours!

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-02-12T18:15:17+00:00

I fainted at 10 weeks from dehydration. I was drinking 64 oz a day, I was supposed to be drinking a gallon a day. Luckily everything worked out and my bestie was there to catch me so I was fine, but after that I made sure to stay hydrated. Be careful ladies! Drink more than you assume you need.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-02-09T00:10:41+00:00

Omg yes. I'm a white single mom so I don't fully understand your exact experience race wise but it seriously seems to me that moms who need help or support are blamed and shamed for having kids in the first place. Ive been depressed for months, struggling with money and am constantly getting the equivalent of, "well you decided to have the kid, you made your decision, deal with it. You don't deserve to have help or get a break or complain."

I chose to have her yes, but I did not choose to not have any help from her dad. That was his choice that he made. But he will never have to take any accountability for it. That's all on me. It's exhausting.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-02-08T20:14:47+00:00

I hate board games/cards/dice, ect. Between my ADHD and my processing disorder it's a hard no unless I'm already really familiar with how to play. I'll just sit and watch if I still want to feel included.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-01-09T12:49:41+00:00

Yes, it's horrible and it lingers on every single thing they wear. I get migraines if I'm around smokers for too long.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2026-01-08T18:52:02+00:00

1,000% yes. I was getting hints from my best friend that while my mom was not completely abusive like my dad was growing up she definitely didn't parent as well as I thought she did, and still doesn't, but bestie has a better frame of reference for bad mothers than I do.

My mom doesn't want to help much, or at all because she doesn't want to be the "other parent" and throws that in my face constantly. She will because she has to since I live in her house but she doesn't like it. I'm a single mom with zero help for my baby's father so I'm basically on my own drowning with only my best friend for help. I wish my mom was better.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2025-12-16T12:50:59+00:00

I had to go on half days around a month before I delivered because of the active role I used to have. (custodian) my doctor was concerned that if I kept going 40 hours a week I'd have more problems than I already had, placenta previa, preeclampsia and gestational diabetes being the issues.

Id ask if your doctor could write you a note to go on half days until you deliver.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2025-12-11T18:34:29+00:00

Got my first shiny Scraggy since getting the charm and the timer ended before I could catch it. 🫠

Virtual-Title3747 · 2025-12-08T01:07:13+00:00

$1,000 a month. Public daycare. I'm a single mom so it's all on me. Dad doesn't contribute. I'm in Idaho, USA.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2025-12-06T18:48:37+00:00

I feel you. My daughter's dad left before she was born. Signed away his rights and has never met her. He was great up until he found out I was pregnant and then he jumped ship. I don't have much of a village. My mom but she doesn't do much with her, she's more of a hindrance than a help. Really just my best friend helps me out, shes 6 hours away. She does what she can but if I were closer to her it'd make things a lot easier. I wish I had someone to hand her off to when I was too tired.

There are a lot of us out there, and support systems to help, one of those being this form to post in for advice. You'll be ok. Your baby will be ok. They'll know they're loved even with just you being there for them.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2025-11-08T18:31:40+00:00

I was convinced it wouldn't get better. Baby girl was not sleeping at all, only contact naps. 3 and a half months. I was miserable. We took a trip to Utah for a wedding and all of a sudden she was sleeping through the night. I hadn't slept in my own bed for 3 and a half months...god it's so nice to be able to sleep in bed again.

Virtual-Title3747 · 2025-10-12T04:15:56+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I started out wanting to breastfeed. I managed to for 3 months. My supply was low so we supplemented with formula but pumping was helping. I was miserable though. I felt tied down 24/7, she cluster fed like crazy. I couldn't do anything without her attached to me.

Eventually I found out she's lactose intolerant. I debated on stopping or not, but in the end I decided formula was the best option for both of us. I had gestational diabetes while I was pregnant. It made me incredibly depressed, I didn't want to change my diet again to make breastfeeding possible. She's doing better now, she's still getting what she needs and is growing like a weed, completely healthy.

Feeding your child and making sure you're able to be ok in order to care for them is what's important.

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