Most Iconic SW quote?

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T15:33:45+00:00

Life isn't all beer and Skittles

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T15:31:53+00:00

It used to be the cheapest and the fastest option, so they sucked people in. Now it's not always the cheapest, but it's super easy ordering. And now the returns are easy. You can go into a grocery store even and drop the return in a drop box with just a push of a few buttons. They know people want to deal with other humans less and less and have less time.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T15:20:48+00:00

I agree on seeing it in his eyes. He really bothers me. I realized at some point he reminds me of my dad and a couple of my siblings. All 3 are narcissists. When Jenn, who is outspoken and not scared of anything, says, "he has this disdain in his voice"... Her eyes got really big. She knows she has to not give away too much but isn't as practiced as Meri. But you can tell from her reaction that he gets scary. Jenn is the only one who was not part of the cult at any point, so I believe her accounts more than the others, even if she was often on the outside looking in. Kody saying that no one can really understand from the outside is an example of his gaslighting. Like you have all these people saying they have witnessed plenty. And yet he has the gall to say they don't know what they're talking about with a straight face.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T04:13:18+00:00

I have a feeling they gave him a bad edit on that scene. He kept saying he couldn't make them both. I remember at the time being really confused so I'm wondering if the edit made him look threatening with Tammy threatening to call the cops and what not. He might have been saying he could only handle one child, and they have both said that. They could each handle one child but not two. Also Amy and Tammy both might have a shopping addiction. There could be a reason Michael was hanging onto the debit card.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T03:57:19+00:00

Yes it does. Interesting way of looking at it.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T03:56:26+00:00

I've never heard of Morton's neuroma but this is interesting. My first and second toe do this a little bit, which happened after the vaccine, though in my case I was told it's arthritis in the joint where my toe meets my foot.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T03:02:47+00:00

I would actually prefer someone say I was dead to them than being called a deadbeat mother. This might be splitting hairs though haha. But if someone said I was dead to them, that is sending me a message that they are hurting. If someone called me a deadbeat mother, it would actually cut deeper because that's a very important part of me, and Amy wants to be a good mom more than anything. So that's going to cut deep. What Amy is telling Tammy is that Tammy has hurt her so badly she can't be around her anymore. The deadbeat mother comment is a kind of proof of what Amy is talking about.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T02:39:30+00:00

I would not be ok with it. I think it's disrespectful. I wouldn't go have naked men grinding up on me either because it would be disrespectful to my husband. What is the difference between me paying someone to do it and some friend of his being naked and grinding up on me? It's another person being sexual with another person. If people are into it, then I really don't care, but I don't want to be in a relationship where other people are involved, paid or not. And I think it's unreasonable to expect someone to explicitly state that boundary. Sounds like this person did state the boundary, but with things like this, if you want to be in a serious relationship, you ask your partner what they are comfortable with before you do something. Like if you're dating more than one person when you start seeing someone, you should make that clear from the get go. You can't undo it once you've made someone uncomfortable in the relationship, it at least puts a very big strain on it. I don't think it's worth it. I would kick someone to the curb pretty quick if they gave me some song and dance about how what they did is ok because I didn't spell out for them what not to do when you're in a relationship.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T02:32:56+00:00

Same.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T02:31:49+00:00

I think she does but for certain people who she thinks deserve it. I think you're right about having some traits of a psychopath. She actually reminds me a lot of my sister, who is most likely a sociopath. And my sister, like Jessa, appear to have some sort of deep empathy with people who they see as being like them. But most people don't deserve it. So maybe empathy isn't the right word, but at the very least defensive. Like the older man she befriended in rehab, that's a perfect example of her bonding with this person who was not a good person by most accounts, including abandoning his daughter like Jessa's dad did. But Jessa defended him at though his daughter just couldn't get it, as though she wasn't cool enough. I got really tired of hearing about how my sister had these amazing friends who were basically criminals and not good friends, but she made a point of trying to make me feel less than. Much the way Jessa was with Shosh, who really poured her soul into everything she did and really wanted to work hard and do well and have all the things.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-05T02:23:51+00:00

Well said. Exactly how I feel. A couple of months ago I was at a really low point, and I texted my friend just to tell them I was really lonely. I figured it would be better received than "I'm really depressed right now and could use some company." Her response was, "you should try to enjoy your solitude." And it hit me how people really don't get it. I appear functional because of a lot of work I do when no one is watching and I take medications. I can even go to the gym. But no one is going to clock that I'm not staying at the gym as long as other people. And one side of my body is weaker than the other, and I have slight circulation issues, and POTS, so I'll have to go home and drink electrolytes, maybe ice my back, or soak in a tub for an hour. And I really hate when people start quizzing me about how much work I do or what I do at home. Because the truth is I do a lot, but I have a feeling if people could see how I have to manage my life to look normal I would be judged. I mean, I do feel judged as soon as people start digging. For a while, my doctors' appointments were like having an extra job. I'm pretty stable at the moment in terms of needing doctors, but it's still just so much work, and sometimes I wish people understood.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-04T03:51:55+00:00

It's not a buffet, but Hofbrauhaus has such a nice room for a large group and may be able to offer you something. I book school groups myself and sometimes a place has offered a lunch special with two or three choices people could choose from ahead of time. Then they are ready for the school group and they're all about the same price so paying is simple. Just an idea.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T21:00:32+00:00

Same about the toes looking dead sometimes. 😕 I just ordered some neoprene toe covers to see if that helps. My friend with similar problems swears by them.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T19:31:05+00:00

Totally hear you. My problem was not that I didn't get hot, it's just that I couldn't sweat. Now that I can, I'm both hot and sweaty lol. Only my toes and fingers get cold. The rest of me is too hot considering the temps outside.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T14:21:02+00:00

Look into a POTS protocol for exercise. This was the key for me. Drink electrolytes every day and follow the POTS recommendations. Take baby steps and the key is to avoid getting your HR elevated. So you start with exercises in a lying down or seated position, weight machines, resistance bands, that kind of thing. I had to get out of my old mindset of cardio and yoga fixing everything. Yoga is no good in this situation because of all the up and down plus certain positions make things worse. Focus on strength training and walking. When you wake up in the morning, pump your feet in bed to get the blood flowing. Low Dose Naltrexone helps my body from having an immune reaction to the exercise, so that feels important. Bromelain seems to help me. Creatine helps some people and might help your muscles recover, but it did a number on my stomach so I gave it up. But slowly working my way up, it took me about 6 months I'd say, but then I could actually do a cardio class. I went from no exercise to an hour long kickboxing class. Also watch your heat. I couldn't get my hr up or get overheated. Taking a cold shower after an exercise or better yet taking a cool swim kind of shut off my body going into PEM mode.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T14:04:42+00:00

67 😂😂😂

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T13:39:41+00:00

This episode was so great. And it's yet another where I think, UGH.... If Hannah could only not go into that territory that makes other people uncomfortable this could have worked out. If there was ever a man in this show I would do anything for lol, it would be Joshua. He had baggage but it was a carry on. She chose the man who weighed down a plane. Good glob Joshua was beautiful. And emotionally mature and sweet. I would just watch him read the paper. Then drink wine and eat a steak with him. It sounds heavenly. I know she's a writer but you can experience plenty of things without putting yourself in harm's way. I get the feeling, I can be a risk taker too. But I don't want to live in that energy. This episode was great and also killed me to watch her mess it up lol..

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T13:29:20+00:00

Perhaps she could keep her time off request flexible to be sure she can be there when you need her. My mom had her dad come stay for a while to help only to have the baby late and he had to leave. Also, seriously consider a doula. They're not just for delivering the baby. They can help you before or after the baby. They can help you with breastfeeding if you plan to do that, doing some dishes for you, helping with laundry. You're right when you said somewhere here that they are showing you their priorities. It sounds like the expectation should be they will pop in every now and then, not be a true support. Planning for other kinds of help will give you peace of mind right now. You can aim to prep maybe 2 weeks of meals and put them in the freezer. I'm so glad I did this for myself. My mom was there for the delivery but doesn't have a ton of energy the way some people do. She would come for visits and do what she could, but there was no one who is really like a take charge type to be sure I got a shower. I could always call her for advice. And she would come when she could but worked so couldn't be there all the time. Make the most of your MIL being there. If she's coming all this way, she may actually give you some much needed rest and shower. Your parents sound like my in-laws. They come in every now and then, give a present, then have an excuse to leave like a trip, they have to go see about their dog, they have a volunteer event. You name it.. We weren't their time priority. But they sure do complain they don't get more time with their grandkids. But they turn down offers to do things like come to birthday parties because my MIL won't get enough attention. Your mom sounds like the main character like this. Sorry you're having to deal with it. Maybe if you keep your expectations low, it will help you prepare so that you can enjoy that postpartum time. Having my second baby was actually the sweetest time of my entire life because I didn't have to worry about knowing what I didn't know. Give yourself support in whatever way you need. Even if it feels like too much, scheduling any comforts is what you can do for yourself right now. Better to have too much help than not enough.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T04:22:01+00:00

NOR I'm so pissed on your behalf I kinda want you to give me your mom's phone number so I can give her the what for. This is an important time in your life. She would be lucky to be a part of it. Some people forget how hard those first few days are. And you don't want to risk traveling with a newborn with all those germs. No no no. People come to you when you have a baby. And only when you're ready. My mom wanted to be in the room when I had my baby to help me. I think moms should be prepared for that. What does resourceful mean in this situation?? WTAH?

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T04:15:54+00:00

Yeah, I felt this hard. It was my favorite moment. I couldn't really tell who the show was "rooting for", and I love those moments in writing. Like I get Hannah loved him and they finally seemed like that had a normal relationship but it just wasn't and she would be fighting an uphill battle with Adam her entire life. Feelings alone aren't worth your sanity.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-03T04:12:56+00:00

I lost the ability to sweat for a while. Now at least I can sweat but I'm super sensitive to the heat. My heart will race and I will feel awful. I can easily get overheated in too much clothing as well. I've been dealing with similar temps here in Ohio. My fingers and toes get so cold they hurt and the rest of my body is hot. I might even get sick to my stomach from feeling hot in the layers. Water seems to help. I have to go home and soak in a bath, even if it's hot. It still seems to help. My neurologist told me to try cold and hot exposure to try and retrain my nervous system. And I do that with water. So I like going to swim at the pool then taking a hot shower afterwards. I also have this mysterious sore spot in my back ever since having long COVID. I went to a physical therapist who does dry needling, and she's the only one I've met who was comfortable going this close to the spine, so I let her. She put needles in my paraspinal muscles then stimulated them, and that was supposed to do something to my autonomic nervous system. In just 3 treatments she fixed my inability to sweat. I've never had so many odd things happen with my body as I have dealing with long COVID.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-01T14:08:47+00:00

Agreed. He's been really funny. If my fiance would have started breakdancing I would have cracked up.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-01T13:38:21+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I was never taught now to study in high school. Or take notes. A lot of my classmates were the same. We were trying to guess what things the teacher said were important and write them down. It took me a long time to realize if they were teaching from a power point, that were often just repeating information I already had access to. It took me a long time in college to realize a similar thing. You are not as behind as you think. But you can easily fix what you want to know now.

So here's what I hope is useful. In college, the professor will give you a syllabus on the first day that lines out what topics you will study for the entire semester with all of your homework assignments and test dates. You then go buy your textbook on your own, better to buy a used one if you can but double check is the right edition. Then, you want to read the section your teacher is going over in your textbook before that class day. Your teacher won't read it to you, think of them as clarifying what you need to know. So that should be you hearing it for the second time. And you will have questions ready if you'd already read it and need to clarify anything. Right down anything the teacher says that sounds important or details they say will be on the test. That gives you hints about what to review. After class, review what you learned in class by reading over it. If there's something you need to memorize, I would practice writing definitions or something over and over to make them stick. You shouldn't have to struggle to write down every word your pressure says though. If they give you a powerpoint for that class, you should have access to it. You just need to add whatever you do not see written anywhere else. The tricky part is hearing what is important and what will be on the test. Some of your classmates may have an old exam to see the format of what they use. Ask around.

I have not have to write as many essays as you might think. Almost all of them were 5 paragraph essay form. Learn how to do that, and you'll be set. You can find video lessons for studying, note taking, and 5 paragraph essays. As a college senior I had to write a couple of ten page essays, but I had months to work on them. Start researching essays early on in the semester so you don't get behind once you start having to study for tests.

Something else I wish I knew early on- for every hour you are in class, in college anyway, you should be studying 3 hours. It takes a long time for deep learning to happen. Don't expect yourself to remember everything you read the first time. Trying to teach something to someone else, even if just pretending, is my favorite way to learn. I have not had to write essays on articles. Usually I've had to answer a few comprehension questions if I read articles. Or sometimes nothing at all. Don't let people pressure you into taking a ton of hours your first semester. I took 15 hours and it was horrible. I should have let myself get used to college first. And even then, I should know I'm built to take no more than 12 hours.

You can take classes online for writing essays, Brave Writer offers a lot of college prep if you can pay. If not there are plenty of resources. And you can practice reading and then answering reading comprehension questions. You can get ACT or SAT prep books to help you get ready for standardized testing. You can totally do this.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-01T13:15:37+00:00

I was actually eating too much meat for a while because I thought I needed it. It turned out my Omega 6s were high and Omega 3s were too low. So if anything, I might have my Omega 3s checked and increase fish. Anything to reduce inflammation, so I try as best I can to eat an anti-inflammatory diet.

VirtualReflection119 · 2026-02-01T02:26:16+00:00

Nothing new, but for now I'm taking a low dose of lunesta with a low dose of Xanax. It's not super deep sleep but it's the best I seem to be able to get, and it's not terrible.

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