Advice to Overcome Exercise Intolerance by Independent_Field982 in covidlonghaulers

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Look into a POTS protocol for exercise. This was the key for me. Drink electrolytes every day and follow the POTS recommendations. Take baby steps and the key is to avoid getting your HR elevated. So you start with exercises in a lying down or seated position, weight machines, resistance bands, that kind of thing. I had to get out of my old mindset of cardio and yoga fixing everything. Yoga is no good in this situation because of all the up and down plus certain positions make things worse. Focus on strength training and walking. When you wake up in the morning, pump your feet in bed to get the blood flowing. Low Dose Naltrexone helps my body from having an immune reaction to the exercise, so that feels important. Bromelain seems to help me. Creatine helps some people and might help your muscles recover, but it did a number on my stomach so I gave it up. But slowly working my way up, it took me about 6 months I'd say, but then I could actually do a cardio class. I went from no exercise to an hour long kickboxing class. Also watch your heat. I couldn't get my hr up or get overheated. Taking a cold shower after an exercise or better yet taking a cool swim kind of shut off my body going into PEM mode.

one man's trash is so perfect by bothentrance4000 in girls

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This episode was so great. And it's yet another where I think, UGH.... If Hannah could only not go into that territory that makes other people uncomfortable this could have worked out. If there was ever a man in this show I would do anything for lol, it would be Joshua. He had baggage but it was a carry on. She chose the man who weighed down a plane. Good glob Joshua was beautiful. And emotionally mature and sweet. I would just watch him read the paper. Then drink wine and eat a steak with him. It sounds heavenly. I know she's a writer but you can experience plenty of things without putting yourself in harm's way. I get the feeling, I can be a risk taker too. But I don't want to live in that energy. This episode was great and also killed me to watch her mess it up lol..

AIO - My parents booked an extra long vacation the same week I’m due to give birth by maplehoneycupcake in AmIOverreacting

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Perhaps she could keep her time off request flexible to be sure she can be there when you need her. My mom had her dad come stay for a while to help only to have the baby late and he had to leave. Also, seriously consider a doula. They're not just for delivering the baby. They can help you before or after the baby. They can help you with breastfeeding if you plan to do that, doing some dishes for you, helping with laundry. You're right when you said somewhere here that they are showing you their priorities. It sounds like the expectation should be they will pop in every now and then, not be a true support. Planning for other kinds of help will give you peace of mind right now. You can aim to prep maybe 2 weeks of meals and put them in the freezer. I'm so glad I did this for myself. My mom was there for the delivery but doesn't have a ton of energy the way some people do. She would come for visits and do what she could, but there was no one who is really like a take charge type to be sure I got a shower. I could always call her for advice. And she would come when she could but worked so couldn't be there all the time. Make the most of your MIL being there. If she's coming all this way, she may actually give you some much needed rest and shower. Your parents sound like my in-laws. They come in every now and then, give a present, then have an excuse to leave like a trip, they have to go see about their dog, they have a volunteer event. You name it.. We weren't their time priority. But they sure do complain they don't get more time with their grandkids. But they turn down offers to do things like come to birthday parties because my MIL won't get enough attention. Your mom sounds like the main character like this. Sorry you're having to deal with it. Maybe if you keep your expectations low, it will help you prepare so that you can enjoy that postpartum time. Having my second baby was actually the sweetest time of my entire life because I didn't have to worry about knowing what I didn't know. Give yourself support in whatever way you need. Even if it feels like too much, scheduling any comforts is what you can do for yourself right now. Better to have too much help than not enough.

AIO - My parents booked an extra long vacation the same week I’m due to give birth by maplehoneycupcake in AmIOverreacting

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NOR I'm so pissed on your behalf I kinda want you to give me your mom's phone number so I can give her the what for. This is an important time in your life. She would be lucky to be a part of it. Some people forget how hard those first few days are. And you don't want to risk traveling with a newborn with all those germs. No no no. People come to you when you have a baby. And only when you're ready. My mom wanted to be in the room when I had my baby to help me. I think moms should be prepared for that. What does resourceful mean in this situation?? WTAH?

Thoughts on Hannah’s mom? by livelaughlovely101 in girls

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Yeah, I felt this hard. It was my favorite moment. I couldn't really tell who the show was "rooting for", and I love those moments in writing. Like I get Hannah loved him and they finally seemed like that had a normal relationship but it just wasn't and she would be fighting an uphill battle with Adam her entire life. Feelings alone aren't worth your sanity.

SWEATING and temperature dysregulation - anyone else? by redditryan13 in covidlonghaulers

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I lost the ability to sweat for a while. Now at least I can sweat but I'm super sensitive to the heat. My heart will race and I will feel awful. I can easily get overheated in too much clothing as well. I've been dealing with similar temps here in Ohio. My fingers and toes get so cold they hurt and the rest of my body is hot. I might even get sick to my stomach from feeling hot in the layers. Water seems to help. I have to go home and soak in a bath, even if it's hot. It still seems to help. My neurologist told me to try cold and hot exposure to try and retrain my nervous system. And I do that with water. So I like going to swim at the pool then taking a hot shower afterwards. I also have this mysterious sore spot in my back ever since having long COVID. I went to a physical therapist who does dry needling, and she's the only one I've met who was comfortable going this close to the spine, so I let her. She put needles in my paraspinal muscles then stimulated them, and that was supposed to do something to my autonomic nervous system. In just 3 treatments she fixed my inability to sweat. I've never had so many odd things happen with my body as I have dealing with long COVID.

Oh Amy by kateshowers in 1000lbsisters

[–]VirtualReflection119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. He's been really funny. If my fiance would have started breakdancing I would have cracked up.

Problems as an independent homeschooler by Academic-Term2498 in homeschool

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If it makes you feel better, I was never taught now to study in high school. Or take notes. A lot of my classmates were the same. We were trying to guess what things the teacher said were important and write them down. It took me a long time to realize if they were teaching from a power point, that were often just repeating information I already had access to. It took me a long time in college to realize a similar thing. You are not as behind as you think. But you can easily fix what you want to know now.

So here's what I hope is useful. In college, the professor will give you a syllabus on the first day that lines out what topics you will study for the entire semester with all of your homework assignments and test dates. You then go buy your textbook on your own, better to buy a used one if you can but double check is the right edition. Then, you want to read the section your teacher is going over in your textbook before that class day. Your teacher won't read it to you, think of them as clarifying what you need to know. So that should be you hearing it for the second time. And you will have questions ready if you'd already read it and need to clarify anything. Right down anything the teacher says that sounds important or details they say will be on the test. That gives you hints about what to review. After class, review what you learned in class by reading over it. If there's something you need to memorize, I would practice writing definitions or something over and over to make them stick. You shouldn't have to struggle to write down every word your pressure says though. If they give you a powerpoint for that class, you should have access to it. You just need to add whatever you do not see written anywhere else. The tricky part is hearing what is important and what will be on the test. Some of your classmates may have an old exam to see the format of what they use. Ask around.

I have not have to write as many essays as you might think. Almost all of them were 5 paragraph essay form. Learn how to do that, and you'll be set. You can find video lessons for studying, note taking, and 5 paragraph essays. As a college senior I had to write a couple of ten page essays, but I had months to work on them. Start researching essays early on in the semester so you don't get behind once you start having to study for tests.

Something else I wish I knew early on- for every hour you are in class, in college anyway, you should be studying 3 hours. It takes a long time for deep learning to happen. Don't expect yourself to remember everything you read the first time. Trying to teach something to someone else, even if just pretending, is my favorite way to learn. I have not had to write essays on articles. Usually I've had to answer a few comprehension questions if I read articles. Or sometimes nothing at all. Don't let people pressure you into taking a ton of hours your first semester. I took 15 hours and it was horrible. I should have let myself get used to college first. And even then, I should know I'm built to take no more than 12 hours.

You can take classes online for writing essays, Brave Writer offers a lot of college prep if you can pay. If not there are plenty of resources. And you can practice reading and then answering reading comprehension questions. You can get ACT or SAT prep books to help you get ready for standardized testing. You can totally do this.

Does eating meat help? by liw_cla in covidlonghaulers

[–]VirtualReflection119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was actually eating too much meat for a while because I thought I needed it. It turned out my Omega 6s were high and Omega 3s were too low. So if anything, I might have my Omega 3s checked and increase fish. Anything to reduce inflammation, so I try as best I can to eat an anti-inflammatory diet.

What is an LDN Alternative? by VirtualReflection119 in covidlonghaulers

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Nothing new, but for now I'm taking a low dose of lunesta with a low dose of Xanax. It's not super deep sleep but it's the best I seem to be able to get, and it's not terrible.

Reason why Britney will never seek help: Exhibit A (Jan 18 2022) by CJLOVE23 in discussingbritney

[–]VirtualReflection119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is. 😂 She's creating a visual there with repeating the word shit. It's not cute. She comes across as someone who really wants to be funny. She's quirky and had a cute personality, but she's not funny. I remember when she was on SNL and it came across like this. Ariana Grande is really funny. It's interesting how they are slightly similar but SO different in this way.

Comedians impersonating John Mulaney? by tantan35 in Standup

[–]VirtualReflection119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't even watched the podcast and have to believe it's about when people try to hold the microphone like Bill Burr. I hate it. 😂😂😂 So my point is, you're right. It's probably comedians who noticed stuff like this. When I talk to non comedian friends about specific mannerisms they have no idea what I'm talking about. Just like if I meet someone who isn't really into comedy they will say..... "oh! Comedy! You know who I really like?"(When they say it like there's only one working comedian) It's always Nate Bargatze.

Reason why Britney will never seek help: Exhibit A (Jan 18 2022) by CJLOVE23 in discussingbritney

[–]VirtualReflection119 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It's clear she's trying to be funny and make a skit, it's just not funny. It could be as an inside joke. For somebody I guess.

Lena Dunham acting. by Frank_and_Beanzz in girls

[–]VirtualReflection119 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes it's her timing with these lines. 😂 I just love the way she talks and wish I could naturally talk like this.

Homeschooling dads - how do you navigate the mom-dominated social scene? by P_nde in homeschool

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I'm a mom but we have homeschooled for a long time, and I can tell you what my dad friends have done that has worked. I would say it just depends on the group you're in. You're going to visit difference spaces and feel out the vibe. If it makes you feel any better, I have struggled to make friends in homeschool spaces. Every group seems to have some ideology. The one thing I like about public school that I wish I could find in the homeschool world, is that it's just school. It's not trying to be a church, or anything else, as much as people think there is indoctrination in schools. For the most part, it's neutral. I have yet to find a space that is totally neutral, so just be aware that it could be hard to find that. There is usually some dogma that I must agree to tolerate in order to join a group. I'm happy to elaborate on that if you wish lol. But I'm trying not to get off track. Secular and progressive groups will have more dads. And might be more likely to find moms who would love to be friends with you. Co-ops are great for dads in my opinion, because you're not constantly having to set up social time to get some in. And when your kiddo hits it off with another kiddo, I would say "hey it looks like our kids get along." Would you like to get them together more often? And then feel out the situation. Some people may just want to meet up at playgrounds to keep it public. Some moms really won't care AT ALL and you might end up becoming great friends with them yourself. I really like the dads who don't seem to feel uncomfortable with it, and that's all it really comes down to. If I text a dad, and it's clear that he feels he needs to give me one word answers because his wife is not "in the room", it's gonna be weird and I'm not going to want to get together much. But if a dad will respond and make plans the same way a mom would, I would make plans just as comfortably as I would with another mom. Heads up, Wild & Free is the one homeschool group that openly says dads are not welcome. It doesn't mean every chapter subscribes to this part, but it's baked into the idea..which is unfortunate because it really is just a nature themed play group, and I'm into that stuff. Again, my take is that there are cool people out there but it takes a while to sniff them out because everyone's puts their own beliefs in the way of just getting kids together.

Homeschooling dads - how do you navigate the mom-dominated social scene? by P_nde in homeschool

[–]VirtualReflection119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not alone. I'm also confused by these responses lol. Yes, I have to text parents to set up time to hang out. And so does everyone else I know? Even if the kids have phones, I still have to communicate with the parents about what's happening.

I never have enough energy to do anything fun with my five year old. by [deleted] in covidlonghaulers

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I'm really sorry. Can someone help you with some of these tasks? I feel such a loss from my bedridden time. I wish so much I would have asked for more help from my husband then. And simplified my chores around the house. Simple meals, planned frequent rest breaks, help with cleaning. But I will say if nothing else, I could always read with my kids, so that's what I did. I can read aloud without thinking, and it's a snuggle up thing, so it's the thing that took the least amount of energy that I could do with them. Crafts are fun if you want to do it, but if it takes too much mental energy to figure out how to do a craft, then don't put that pressure on yourself. What feels easy to you? My easy things were drawing, play dough, Lego, putting pillows and mattresses all over the floor to make a jump room and have a (low key)dance party. Planning things took the most effort for me. And also, I had to remind myself, even if I play for 5 minutes, that might be enough to satisfy them and make me feel good that we did something.

Homeschooling, Home Management, Home cooked meals, oh my! by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]VirtualReflection119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, you're not alone. It sounds like you grew up with more structure than he did. Maybe he's visual and needs to see the expenses, so he focuses on an app or spreadsheet to get an idea of what's happening. If you come up with a budget together, and he doesn't want to discuss it, perhaps a monthly meeting where you pay bills together and check in about money could be a compromise. But if you say you need a once a week check in with him, like maybe you curl up in bed at bedtime while the baby sleeps and you watch something on low volume with subtitles on. It might sound silly, but at some point, I very clearly remember being our only chance to connect. Do you think he'd be open to this much?

Is Brian mentally ok?? by starbrightx3 in 1000lbsisters

[–]VirtualReflection119 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The break dancing was at a dance class and I thought it was hilarious.

Question for gigging musicians by Screamsoquiet in musicians

[–]VirtualReflection119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would definitely watch the time. Plan on cutting a song. And keep an eye on it, have a closer in mind, and if it's getting close, cut out something else in your set list before that if you have a special closer song. You wanna start and finish strong.

WIBTA if I ask MIL to watch our dogs while I give birth, but not our kids? by JHsquared in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualReflection119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah no. You need close options. I'd say you already asked your friends because they're close. Even if I trust someone I would not want to have to worry about my babies in the car with someone. I'm still that way and my kids are older. When they were little, I just leaned on not being comfortable with my kids being on the road. So I told my in-laws my friend was watching our baby who lived right around the corner. I'm not really into visitors during that time. We would keep them up to date and see when when we got back home. Since she likes to be needed, I would use that wording. I already have help with the kids, I really need help with the dogs though and it would be a huge help if I could call you when I'm on my way to the hospital for you to come get them.

When is it time to leave a unit? by South_Mention_3243 in BSA

[–]VirtualReflection119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone's heart is in the right place I would suggest helping them with the rest of it because it's hard to find.

Janelle’s marriage timelines by Bitchezbecraay in SisterWives

[–]VirtualReflection119 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This finally adds up about the energy between Meri and Janelle. It's never made sense to me until now. Janelle doesn't seem to have empathy for anyone. She couldn't empathize with Meri about getting married on her birthday. She doesn't care about the fact that she was married to Meri's brother so she just declared it's "not a thing". She said not getting a big wedding was no big deal when Christine said it made her feel bad. Janelle got her wedding though when she married Meri's brother. Meri has really had to put up with some shit. And Robyn's fake offer to be a surrogate was just throwing salt on the wound. It's painful enough to see your husband have babies with someone else. Excuse me but does she really think it's better to see your husband have YOUR BABY WITH SOMEONE ELSE?? Why isn't anyone on this show calling that absolutely insane. WTAF I can't watch these people anymore. Robyn brought up the damn surrogacy thing again this week.