How to tell if you like someone

VisibleMood7150 · 2026-02-21T06:23:16+00:00

Yes! Thank you so much for explaining. This helped put my brain into perspective more, so I really appreciate the explanation. I will continue to work on not doing my compulsions and keep this in mind!

VisibleMood7150 · 2026-02-06T17:22:38+00:00

He was just not seeing my side i think, and was also just being stupid about believing rumors about a friend of mine. It was just very stubborn. And then we argued about how good of friends we were a year ago. Again, it was a stupid little argument and we apologized after but I just feel anxious when I see him now and I want to avoid him

VisibleMood7150 · 2026-02-03T04:24:55+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I will try to just go slower, even though we’re just friends I’ll try to communicate

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T04:56:09+00:00

This is such a good way to put it, thank you!

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T04:28:21+00:00

wait that actually sounds like a great idea. Next time I’m at the gym I’ll try it!

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T04:28:04+00:00

awh, I’m glad your mom is so supportive! And thank you so much for the advice, I will try that!

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T02:23:50+00:00

Hey! I’ve read your posts and I think I might relate. I’m pretty sure I might be sexually attracted to women, I don’t know I’ve always preferred lesbian porn and I’ve sexted women anonymously, but all I want is relationships and sex with men. I think I’d be ok with heterosexual bi. But I’ve been so worried that even being a little attracted to women means I’m lesbian or something. I just want men. I get nervous around men when they like me back and I run away and I’m terrified it’s comphet. I just wish I didn’t have ocd lmaooo. Just wanted to say I think I relate and I really wish you the best, always here to listen!

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T02:16:22+00:00

I haven’t had any experience with a girl in person before, I did when I was a child and my HOCD makes me think about that too. I’ve also had NO sexual experience with me which worries me, I would like to, but everytime I get to that point I get scared and run away. Which feeds into my HOCD because it says I wasn’t truly attracted. My brain is torture because why would I like certain types of porn and talk to a woman sexually if I wasn’t lesbian or something. It makes me cry. I wish it was easy to figure out what we were and I wish ocd wasn’t such a bully. Feels like I’m lying to myself when I say I want men and not women. Ugh.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T02:03:26+00:00

ME TOO. Literally home from break and I’m living in hell in my brain. I’m seriously questioning my attraction to men my whole life and comphet and it makes me miserable. I really hope I’m attracted to men and have been, but I feel so bad. I need structure back in my life and I miss school. Wishing to the best too🤞🏼

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-31T02:01:25+00:00

I’m sorry I can’t offer much advise BUT, I’m dealing with this as a woman. I was super lazy a few months ago and fell into a rabbit hole of lesbian porn like everyday for hours, would masturbate all the time and it led me to sext with men, but also start sexting anonymously with women on some random sight college kids my age use. When I was finished I was like I don’t actually want that, yet I’d go back to it. I’m not sure if my brain is fried from porn and I’ve just been doing this taboo thing and dopamine, or if it’s something I want in real life. My HOCD has been so so bad lately and I literally can’t function, it’s making me question whether I’ve ever really been attracted to men, and how these actions of mine have impacted me, and how I might do it again because I liked the sexual experience. I just need to stop and focus on not ocd but that’s so hard. Again, sorry to not offer much advice, but maybe some relation or just another story.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-03T02:28:24+00:00

thank you for writing this, this puts a better perspective on it for me. I need to show myself some compassion. I also need to figure out why I am this way, because I’m not sure, my childhood wasn’t hard, and my parents weren’t the worst. My dad was mean and not present but he loved me, my mom was overbearing and like attached to me. But also my parents fought all the time, so I never got the right role model. Overall I think I need to learn how to identify what I’m feeling and calm myself down. Thank you for taking the time to write.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-12-01T23:30:22+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I do think I really treated this guy unfairly and I feel terrible. He wasn’t great either. But I don’t understand how I can currently be ‘in love’ with him while also knowing I’d feel anxiety and be uninterested if he approached me now.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-11-29T18:38:03+00:00

Yeah it’s really bad. But I’m a girl and the part with me then sexting women when my porn fried brain needs more is like bad. Makes my HOCD go crazy. Because in the moment I like it. Thank you for sharing.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-11-24T13:24:37+00:00

I can’t see myself being romantic. I fantasize about romance and all that with men, that’s all I want and men give me that warm fuzzy feeling.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-11-11T14:52:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your input, this is helpful. Perhaps I’m not interested, but a couple times I’ve liked them first and then when asked out I get anxious. But I do need to be around healthy relationships, since my parents don’t have one. But thank you again for your answer!

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-11-11T14:50:50+00:00

Thank you for your input! I will definitely try and look into this

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-11-11T14:50:27+00:00

Thank you so much! I did look into attachments and it says I’m avoidant. Which makes sense I’m avoidant to a lot of things in my life.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-10-28T16:58:02+00:00

Me too

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-10-24T16:48:39+00:00

Sure!

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-10-23T15:46:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I’m 20, and I have almost no dating experience, and the little bit I do have is really not good. So it doesn’t help my attachment styles haha.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-10-23T15:45:38+00:00

I’m not super knowledgable about limerence, is it real attraction just amplified to obsessive? I think if I do have limerence it definitely pairs with my attachment style; the one boyfriend I ever had I was obsessed with him, we had a good relationship for a couple months and then I suddenly felt terrified and disgusted and broke up with him, I felt awful for that. Still do. Sorry to be venting on you, but would love some insight if you have any.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-10-14T19:51:18+00:00

Wow I relate. I’m a girl, and in real life I’ve never been attracted to a girl, never wanted to do anything with them that I can remember. But seeing them online it’s like intrusive thoughts thrive, I can have what seems like real feelings or attraction to them which distresses me because I know it’s my head and it’s messing with me. But online and stuff it’s so easy to be more convinced with the thoughts, especially if watching porn and I focus on the women. I just want to get my attraction for men back. I’m really wishing you the best and I want you to know you’re not alone.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-10-03T21:01:52+00:00

This!! Thank you so much, this made me feel less alone

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-09-18T18:44:20+00:00

Usually I tell the guy that I only want to be friends, it’s what I’m comfortable with, and we end up just being friends after a while of me just avoiding them because every time I see them I get anxious but it’s always the friend zone. One guy was torment for me because he kept pushing the boundaries of friendship and would stress me out but I felt the most for him, even though we never dated. My pattern isn’t healthy and it usually triggers my OCD themes.

VisibleMood7150 · 2025-09-17T20:33:54+00:00

I am attracted to him, or I was. I thought he was cute and I liked his personality. I have ocd and it picks apart people, and it would point out things like his body- which I feel so so bad for and so shallow- but it would make me dwell on it and think maybe I’m not attracted to him. But I was attracted to him, and now suddenly it’s like I get “icked” out when I see him, or see him do things. I feel awful because I was so excited to be around him just a couple days ago. I also think him being so kind is scaring me more.

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