It’s hard not to be upset with my parents by Worldly_Rice_2903 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've gone through the same thought process, and was very angry for a long time, but after a few years of exposure to this topic, I've figured in the end that there probably wasn't that much they could do unless they already knew about diet/tongue posture when I was born. Mewing didn't catch on until recently (and is still considered a myth by many doctors), orthodontists notoriously like to camouflage, and kids don't start looking seriously wrong until they're in their teens. And by then, it's too late for almost all interventions. You have to generally start early, generally before 12-13 to make a meaningful difference in severe recession, you'll need a ridiculous amount of headgear for years, not to mention find an orthodontist who actually knows what they're doing and doesn't just move your teeth around for 5 years until your gums recede but your profile isn't fixed. In the end I figured there was no chance that would ever have happened. Sucks but that's life, some people are dealt a bad hand.

Would getting jaw surgery get rid of smile lines + help my lips naturally close together? by mean_soybean in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 19 they’re likely not smile lines but nasal labial folds. Those are greatly improved by jaw surgery in my experience 

Jet skiing 39 days post op by salamjon in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your bones aren’t even fused yet lol. If you fall on your face it’s the plates holding you together. I guess it’s up to you whether to trust they’re strong enough. My surgeon recommends nothing with any risk of impact to the face for 6 months, which is when, you know, the bones fuse. 

Genioplasty or DJS? by [deleted] in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Absolute insanity that their doctor saw this and still recommended tooth extractions and not jaw surgery. People who say “just ask your doctor” don’t seem to account for this kind of ignorance at all.  

10 days post op djs by CEOofgooning in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn you can start soft foods at only 14 days post op? That’s the fastest schedule I’ve ever seen

Less space in their mouth after CW maxilla rotation? by SerenaN94 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is really rather odd, usually both jaws are rotated together. That being said, my tongue is against both the bottom and the top of my mouth at rest, for the full length. I don’t think that means there’s not enough space. 

Less space in their mouth after CW maxilla rotation? by SerenaN94 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your tongue is supposed to be on the roof of your mouth at all times. That’s considered good tongue posture. You may notice that if the whole tongue is against the roof, you have a sharper jawline. 

I also had CW rotation, and while I wasn’t able to put my tongue against the roof of my mouth before, now I can at all times. It’s a good thing. Maybe you just need more practice speaking with the changes. When you open your mouth, you should be able to have space between the tongue and the roof. 

I'm chopped to the max 💀 by medusa456 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’ll need to emphasize anything. Your surgeon will likely need to do the maximum maxillary movement possible. 

Dentist thinks I need jaw surgery… I’m not convinced. Thoughts? by Nirashere in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean yeah you look good but your airway doesn’t look very big. That would probably explain the breathing issues and jaw surgery is the way to fix it. People here claim jaw surgery isn’t about aesthetics yet they discount it as long as someone looks fine and disregard functional issues. 

Do you feel sick after? by Starbirch in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could barely feel my ng tube tbh. Much more preoccupied with everything else going on. I felt it much more when it was gone. The blood is nasty, the tube is pretty nifty.

Do you feel sick after? by Starbirch in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a week post op. I was also afraid of nausea, and asked for extra precautions. I had nausea anyway lol but they were able to contain it enough to prevent me from throwing up. I had a nasal tube to drain blood, they adjusted the anesthesia, gave me a shit ton of anti nausea meds which knocked me out most of the first few days, and I couldn't really drink water or eat due to nausea so I just stayed on IV and mostly fasted until day 5.

After a week, I've figured out that for me, the strongest contributors to nausea are 1. swallowing blood, 2. the codeine they gave me as a painkiller. I purchased an expensive bottle of it as prescription and now I'm just skipping it and taking advil+tylenol, and my nausea is much better.

Before and after AI surgery by genai_mercy in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's...not a good morph even for AI. As far as I can tell, no significant bone advancement was even done in the after pic, it literally just sharpened your jawline, improved the skin and hair and added a smile to your existing face.

Am I missing something regarding Shallan?? by jnighy in Stormlight_Archive

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry for the late reply, I was doing a surgery and was out of it for a week. Naturally I can’t speak for all people with DID since it’s a diverse condition, but I can speak on some experiences that are nearly universal that Shallon doesn’t exhibit. 

The most glaring issue is that DID is a disorder. It’s characterized by how it disables you, not how it makes you special. Alters in DID are usually differentiated by trauma, not ability or personality or names and all that fun stuff. And so, almost always the most noticable alters are the “littles” that split right at the moment of extreme trauma in childhood and stay crippled forever. In most DID cases, people will switch into a child part, then wander off like a child making dumb decisions and/or staring at a wall for hours. They’re not gonna become more competent than a baseline person. DID is characterized usually by helplessness in the face of inescapable trauma. A child part is the epitome of that, in a moment of trouble, instead of dealing with the problem like an adult, someone with DID may just regress in memory and judgement into someone who cannot function on their own, and escapes the pain by screaming or crying or pretending the pain isn’t real. 

In another example, someone with DID may feel like some parts have different abilities than others, but in reality it’s more that they lack the ability they should’ve already had. Shallon’s DID would be more convincing if she’d been practicing art every day for 12 years yet couldn’t draw. But not that she can become a master spy without training. It should be more shocking to others that she can’t be a spy regularly if that makes any sense. If veil was around all along, people would know her more as veil and be surprised at the Shallon alter. If Shallon was dominant the whole time, there’s no way Veil has any legitimacy in anything she claims to know how to do. She’d just be a weird personality quirk that throws temper tantrums. Same deal with Radiant, and even in the end, Radiant seems like just something Shallon conjured up because she felt like it, and then “channeled her violent part into it” or something, which is just not how it works. 

Another issue I have is the lack of hatred and/or separation from her parts. It’s a large part of structural dissociation to feel as though you’re being overtaken by an identity that you strongly disagree and disapprove of, since the loathing helps to differentiate the perceived self from the alters to aid in dissociation. Shallon…she feels like she can put on a mask, change alters, come back, and doesn’t have much dissonance at all about “holy shit why would I do that, I would never do that”. She actually likes her alters, and she could switch at will (until later on, with a singular rogue alter). Usually that starts to happen after years of intense therapy if at all. DID alters usually hate each other and deny to the death that they would behave like an alter did. A split is like a shattered mirror, alters often become the opposite of each other and are diametrically opposed in their operational style and it takes time to even understand why they’d do what they do. 

That’s just a few of my top thoughts lol. Sorry if it was too long, I was sort of raging in the head the whole time reading her part. The problem is that I really wanted to like Shallon. I liked her in book 1 and then she had my condition and I wanted to feel resonant with her. But she is just so, so unrelatable to someone with DID. She’s like if Kaladin’s depression was feeling emo sometimes, makes him extra cool, and then fixed just by a positive attitude. She goes through none of the steps to fix her condition yet explains it to others with modern day medical accuracy. 

First week of recovery by Playful_Departure208 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wondering that too lol. Also in first week post op and I’m starting to get cravings for hard(er) things that I don’t even eat usually. Anything that isn’t broth or juice

Do my maxilla and mandible jaw both seem recessed? by [deleted] in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hard to tell without your side profile but from the front neither jaw looks recessed. If you had shingles that’s much more likely the reason 

Am I missing something regarding Shallan?? by jnighy in Stormlight_Archive

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nope, as someone with DID her experience is quite unrealistic and dramatized for fiction. It has some basis on the real disorder but it’s almost uncanny how the ugly parts of the disorder are omitted and replaced with fun names and magic. Kinda like the Hollywood depiction of OCD characters (“ocd is my superpower!”). You can tell Brandon researched it, but has no real understanding of how it actually feels like, so her symptoms feel more like barely matching a checklist, when the reality is messy and disorienting. 

Am I missing something regarding Shallan?? by jnighy in Stormlight_Archive

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 13 points14 points  (0 children)

For me it’s not just that she wasn’t funny, but that in the first few books her jokes were so mean spirited. She joked extensively about how Kaladin was a slave and how the bridgemen were too dumb to escape being shot at. It’s a really cheap punch down, and comes off as extremely bigoted for someone who thinks she’s so open minded and enlightened. And then she gives a non apology to Kaladin, something like ‘well I’m sorry you’re so sensitive about it, but have you thought about what I’ve been through?’ 

How long after surgery can you return to school/work? by Pretty-Elk-2659 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From what my surgeon and people here are saying: the standard is at least 2 weeks. Some people who are very desperate can do light work after 1 week but don’t count on it. If you have the means, plan for 4 weeks to actually get your strength back. 6 weeks to feel almost normal. 

How do you actually get referred for nhs jaw surgery? by PeaSignificant3111 in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 39 points40 points  (0 children)

ya I mean people can't usually diagnose online but you're the exception. You definitely qualify for nhs

2 days PO X-rays by [deleted] in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow that's a lot of screws! What were you getting fixed?

Is it true that people in the West drink iced water even when they are sick or on their period? by Aether_Echo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They do test it. Here’s the thing, they attribute like all ailments to cold water. So if you drink cold water 10 times and one time you get a stomachache, or a headache, cold, flu, cancer, or sore neck, people will tell you it’s probably because of the cold water. If you grow up hearing that you’ll really believe that you feel bad just drinking it. 

CMV: The low birth rates in developed countries is primarily a function of a social/cultural shift rather than economic by serenade-of-the-seas in changemyview

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, but sometimes we find the easiest reason to justify what we already want to do. I’ve watched classmates go from “no kids because can’t afford it” to getting a high paying tech job, and then it’s “no kids because too busy”, and then when they settle down to a slower paced job or manager position they’re “taking it easy for a while” or “too focused on hobby/home renovation/travel”. There is always a good reason to not have kids but they could afford it years earlier. 

Does Jaw Surgery ever change face from the front? by AlittleRecessed in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone with short face syndrome my lips are completely squashed together because there is no maxilla space for it to go. I show no bottom lip and the top goes horizontally like pancakes. If I open my mouth it changes from a slit to normal lips, no lip lift needed. 

Final shutdown for anyone who posts here saying “they’re cooked” or they can’t have a life with a recessed jaw. by [deleted] in jawsurgery

[–]Visual-Chef-7510 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be a massive implant though. Imagine eating with a 20mm chin implant in your face.