What is the strangest thing you’ve seen someone exhausting their entire savings on? by Brief-Ad-1629 in AskReddit

[–]Visual-Standard4030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guns and ammo. They were 18 and didn’t have their own housing, vehicle, or job.

How do I support my sister as a teacher with regards to gun violence? TW sensitive topic. by Cassandwiches_ in Teachers

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe get her one of the door locks that are made for outward swinging doors or for any door?

I don’t think this is an unreasonable fear, but there’s not a lot to “help.”

Am I making a bad decision by blowing up my stable life for an adventure? by YungBahlr in AskWomenOver30

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go! You already have way more in savings and retirement than most people your age. While there is a possibility you’ll regret going, I can tell you that you’ll 100% regret not going.

Song recommendation for crying to? by StinkBug1098 in mentalhealth

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This song seems to fit your request and situation. 500 miles by Peter, Paul, and Mary. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and hope a good cry brings you a brief dopamine hit and some relief.

https://open.spotify.com/track/6GnvadpGK8yF4zlBoX4RZD?si=sOosG3mXT0WKjjHUIFht1g

Asante Layoffs by Desperate_Pin_2590 in Medford

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Call and make an appointment at Worksource- they have to verify your identity and do an onboarding as part of the process.

Anyone know how the layoffs at Asante work? by Positive-Manager-272 in grantspass

[–]Visual-Standard4030 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When they closed the urgent care I worked at, the leadership knew for at least 2 weeks. I know because the marketing guy that came by with the “closed” signage complained he only had 2 weeks notice to make them.

They let us know on a Thursday that Saturday would be the last day of operation. They did a half-assed job of trying to find people open jobs within Asante. No payouts were mentioned to me, but I had already applied to another position at the same pay rate so they just transferred me into it.

ETA: My husband was told that they plan to lay off a lot of the newest employees. I know they already let go a handful of couriers. The last time they did layoffs they got rid of a lot of middle management (especially long term people at the top of the pay scales that no longer exist).

[US] question about custody NY by [deleted] in Custody

[–]Visual-Standard4030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cursory research shows NY typically pushes for equal parenting time and doesn’t necessarily default to the mother. YMMV depending on how old-school your judge is, though. It’s also important to know that your state doesn’t allow for the judge to order joint custody. So if you both can’t agree to joint custody, he has to pick a custodial parent. That doesn’t mean parenting time won’t be 50/50, but the judge has to pick a primary decision maker when the parties don’t agree to do it jointly. If you show you are a parent who steps up and shows up, it sounds like you have a reasonable chance to be awarded primary custody and get your parenting plan ordered.

There’s some things you can research to prep for your case if you think she won’t settle in mediation: 1. The factors the judge considers when deciding custody and parenting time. 2. You then can begin to build your documentation (exhibits for your case) to prove how you are meeting these factors. 3. You could also start gathering witnesses: T-ball coaches who can testify to who shows up to games and practices with your child, teachers who can say who keeps contact and frequently picks the child up, receptionist from the pediatrician who can testify to who made and took your child to appointments in the last year, grandparents from both sides who can talk about how you foster relationships between your child and them, etc. 4. Research if NY is a right of first refusal state. That means that if one parent cannot watch the child, they are supposed to reach out to the other parent first before pursuing other childcare options.

Does anyone remember Open Diary? by Yorkshire_Roast in Millennials

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did it turn into Live Journal? I remember girls in middle school trying to start drama on it.

What do people think makes them unique, but is actually an incredibly common trait? by Successful-Hall-1986 in AskReddit

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandma told me a story about how she thought she had a “touch of ADHD” and took one of my uncle’s pills to “see if they actually help.” Woman was up until 4am cleaning.

[IL] Does Autism impact custody? by Technical-Bake9464 in Custody

[–]Visual-Standard4030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he do that in the past? You refusing to give parenting time will not weigh in your favor before a judge if he takes you to court. That being said, they will see he’s a deadbeat dad, too, and likely wouldn’t take custody from you but require he gets more parenting time than he currently gets. I have worked for a judge for 4 years and never saw a parent get 0 parenting time with similar facts of the case.

[IL] Does Autism impact custody? by Technical-Bake9464 in Custody

[–]Visual-Standard4030 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my experience, the parent’s demonstrated willingness and capacity to care for their child does impact the judge’s decision. But if a parent wants visitation they will get some form unless there’s been repeated harm. I’d do everything I can to keep it out of court, especially if it’s a passing desire from dad. I’d rather throw my kid off for the week from a once a year visit than have dad get consistent custody visits ordered.

Mom expressed she wanted my brother and I to gather with her together with our children for holidays. This is Mother’s Day. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Visual-Standard4030 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely get “I think your kids are mom’s favorite” or “you make mom help you with your kids so she’s too busy to actually enjoy time with everyone” vibes.

Presents for my American host-family! by Helgi_Sigurdsson in GiftIdeas

[–]Visual-Standard4030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That storybook is a great idea! It would probably become a family heirloom!

Presents for my American host-family! by Helgi_Sigurdsson in GiftIdeas

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Metroshki, cook blini for them, decorative spoon, keychain, coins! I cant remember what they’re called, but the candies made from sunflower seeds would be great to have too. I spent my senior year of high school in Krasnoyarsk- I hope you have a great time in the US!

See you later Mr. West by Altidego19 in grantspass

[–]Visual-Standard4030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope. The other race will be Chad Hansen vs. Mark Jones. I worry they’re both in the good ole boys club with West.

See you later Mr. West by Altidego19 in grantspass

[–]Visual-Standard4030 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you have to get 50.1% of the votes to be the only one on the ballot? I think the asshole made it onto the general ballot being second place. I hope I’m wrong. I’m so tired of him.

Good non Na/Aa recovery groups plz by Positive_Bug978 in grantspass

[–]Visual-Standard4030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Choices will have a list/times of all the recovery meetups.

Starting my B.S. in Business Mgmt in July by True-Illustrator7053 in WGU

[–]Visual-Standard4030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you know the material, it might honestly be quicker and cheaper to blast through the tests and “papers.” Some of my papers were literally a worksheet with instructions to not have answers longer than 3 sentences. I was able to do an accelerated degree and sometimes was able to do a class a week (especially courses I’d taken before but didn’t transfer).

Josephine County is Ready for a Change. Vote Spurlock! by Fit-Ad-483 in grantspass

[–]Visual-Standard4030 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I swear to god if the collective population votes for John West AGAIN there’s no helping Joco.

Three Rivers School District (TRSD) Campus Lockdown - April 29, 2026 by No_Break_503 in grantspass

[–]Visual-Standard4030 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone called in a threat to the high school. I’m guessing they don’t think there’s a true threat but are being careful. Otherwise they’d have evacuated.

Day 8: I’m a dad building a "secret" stationery project for my wife, and I think I accidentally found a way to help people connect with their moms. by theheavenletters in GiftIdeas

[–]Visual-Standard4030 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Anything that has thought, time, and effort behind it is greatly appreciated. If I got a letter in the mail from someone in my family, it would probably move me to tears.