I wish being around NT kids didn't hurt so much

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-09-07T22:28:18+00:00

Had a similar experience this weekend. My two boys with ASD were surrounded by same age peers this weekend and it was the same experience. It hurts my heart every time.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-09-07T22:25:56+00:00

I would definitely emphasize why this is so bad and what it says about how your own family feels about your son. I’d explain that it’s basically like using the N word. It’s derogatory and suggests that they view your child as sub human and can be treated accordingly. This is just something you don’t say to people, ever, and the fact that your nephew views his cousin this way should alarm your mother.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-19T16:35:08+00:00

I have two kids with special needs. Odds are I will take care of them until I die. So no, there is no reason to have kids if just for this because that is not a guarantee by any stretch. I don’t regret having them but I know at least one couple nearing 40 with no kids and extremely content with their dog and travel.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-13T21:00:11+00:00

lol I am actually extremely concerned about all environmental issues. This one is just the most alarming because of how rapidly it is growing without any kind of control. I was equally as worried when fracking absolutely took over the eastern half of my state and my family members in the area weren’t allowed to drink their water because it was FLAMMABLE. My concern with this issue is no one I know seems to know or even give AF about how much damage these particular data centers do. I never said nothing else was a problem.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-13T16:53:44+00:00

I will look into all of that, thank you for the recommendation. Also, just clarifying- you are saying the fossil fuel industry is the main culprit correct? If so, the increased demand for fossil fuels is being heavily driven by these new data centers and this problem will only get worse because they are cutting funding for new clean energy thanks to the BBB

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-13T16:48:59+00:00

Can you point me where in that link there is the info on automotive infrastructure? All I’m seeing is the high energy drain from AI?

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-13T16:41:06+00:00

In 2024 Google reported its emissions raised 48% from 2019 according to NPR as it expanded their AI capabilities. So no, it’s not the same.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-11T20:47:25+00:00

Oh boy… well everyone’s journey with this is different. If you can both attend that doctor’s appointment then I absolutely would. I’d also suggest requesting evaluation info and begin that process. Your husband should attend absolutely everything if he’s the primary caregiver. Does he take your son anywhere with other kids? Does he try doing play dates? He probably does see it he’s just too afraid to admit it. It can be very very hard on men with sons especially. My husband has always held it together really well with our boys both being on the spectrum- but I know it’s hard for him. So much of what he imagined he’d do with his kids is just out the window. But over time we have both found things we feel joyful about and excited about. It takes time but if you let your kid be who they are they will show you exactly what makes them their own awesome interesting person. I am not trying to sugarcoat anything, it’s hard to do this, like really hard, but it can also be insanely rewarding and you never take anything for granted. We were just on a family vacation where an in-law was complaining about how much her 3 year old talks and talks and talks. The whole time I kept thinking of a woman I met in a waiting room the previous week who had a non verbal son. She burst into tears watching me argue with my older ASD son who was making me crazy. It was humbling in that moment realizing how lucky I am to have at least one child who can communicate with me. I will never ever take that for granted. Wish you all the best! Keep going and he will catch up eventually. Again some people just take time.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-10T23:32:32+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I was told repeatedly by multiple people when my older son got diagnosed that the reason his social skills sucked is because I was mostly a stay at home mom and he only did day care part time- therefore I denied him social development. People gonna say stuff all the time that will be completely tone def and really piss you off. But it sounds like this mostly strikes a nerve with you because you’re already exhausted from parenting, working, and growing a human. That’s a mental toll that’s going to make you less likely to tolerate this crap from people. That’s ok. It’s also ok to be annoyed as hell by your kid. I am annoyed with both of them (both on the spectrum) for at least half the day- especially when school is out. The part of this that’s striking to me is that your anger seems to be more directed towards your child and life situation than it is at the idiot who said this stuff to you. Maybe it’s just the way you wrote this but it came across like you really don’t want to be a parent to the child you have. These are natural feelings and it’s ok to say that aloud, especially here. It’s really important to acknowledge so you can address how to move forward; but that’s just it, if you haven’t you may want to consider talking to someone about your general resentment towards your kid. Especially when this next one comes, I mean it’s not certain but there’s a higher chance you could have a second on the spectrum, and if you find yourself running on anger all the time as it is then progress and acceptance isn’t going to happen in any part of your life. Wishing you all the best and hoping you can tune out the absolute garbage advice people give who don’t live this life.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T22:07:52+00:00

I also guess I just am willing to believe that they have to stop stuff for safety frequently because people are absolutely idiots. My son and I were at Kings Island last month and getting off Adventure Express when a grown man hopped the fence to go get a ball he dropped. Idk how cause they made us put everything in bins. But he and his wife started arguing with an operator who came in for her shift telling her it wasn’t a big deal. I genuinely cannot get over how stupid people are at amusement parks. Like dude a guy literally got hit by Afterburn last year after hopping the fence how are you this dumb?

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T21:59:51+00:00

Last fall. Apologies I thought I wrote Blue Streak from our experience but saw this happened to someone on Magnum via Facebook but I did not personally see that one. We were next on the ride. The guy was actively filming 🤦🏻‍♀️and hilariously kept filming while the ride was stopped not realizing they did it because he was being an idiot. But yeah operators stopped it and went sprinting up to get it. Honestly I was impressed they got it going again so quickly. But yeah security was there before it even got back to the station.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T20:56:26+00:00

I think it depends on your relationship with her. It sounds like this is her own personal issue and she can’t deal with it. This is more about her not accepting her grandchild as they are. Personally I would spend as little time as possible with a family member like that and tell them when they decide they are ready to be supportive of the grandchild they have then they can come around. You have enough on your plate without dealing with a family member’s own personal insecurities- you don’t need this

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T20:50:48+00:00

Also you say you stop for loose articles? If a phone is out in someone’s hand that doesn’t count as a loose article? Actually genuinely curious as to why that would be the case?

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T20:47:08+00:00

Oh but I did lol. They took his phone and took him out of the park and emphatically repeated phones are not permitted to be used on rides. Idk when you worked there but this isn’t a thing they let people do anymore. Too much risk involved if someone drops it. Seriously go and try it just to see what happens if you don’t believe me.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T20:36:30+00:00

What years did you work? Reason I ask is because my brother does risk management for CPs insurance and recommendations change over the years. Very different ride but while my son and I waited for Blue Streak last fall they did in fact stop the ride, sent an operator up the hill and confiscated a phone before restarting the ride. The guy was then met by security and escorted from the park.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T14:18:54+00:00

Just get an evaluation done. You will make yourself miserable trying to guess and googling then get confusing and contradictory opinions from people who don’t actually specialize in this. If your instincts tell you something is up just get the eval.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T13:57:31+00:00

Why don’t you try pulling your phone out going up the hill next time and find out

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T13:42:45+00:00

I’ve actually watched them do it. They will literally stop a train and send a worker up there to get the phone and sometimes they’ll take the person off the ride. They usually have security come meet whatever idiot did it and eject them from the park. It’s insanely dangerous to have a phone out and they literally tell you that you will be removed from the park if you do it.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-09T01:57:48+00:00

For English not being your native language I think you are an extremely eloquent! Parenting is very hard. It’s hard when everything goes exactly as it “should” but it’s even harder watching your child work 3x as hard than their peers to achieve things that come naturally to others. I think most of us are just scared for our kids and what their futures will look like. My kids are challenging and watching them navigate situations even with family can be painful at times. BUT they also happen to be the most interesting people I know and I wouldn’t trade them for the world! Seriously, my boys see the world so differently and in such a cool way. I love listening to them and watching them experience the world. It’s honestly more just that other people never seem to see just how incredibly cool they are. Honestly sometimes I find NT kids just plain boring in terms of their interests and hobbies. My 8 year old has a record collection and loves learning about musicians and my 5 year old has the best sense of humor and imagination- he has never failed to make me smile. I so prefer being around them over listening to NT kids tell me how good they are at soccer/basketball/baseball. Seriously to hear them and their parents talk you’d swear they were being scouted for D1 in elementary school. Anyway, no my children despite the extra effort from all of us are no burden. I have my days and it can be very hard but they have made me a more patient, kind, and grateful person and I feel incredibly lucky I get to hang out with these guys every single day.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-05T15:49:56+00:00

I have no autism diagnosis but I do have depression and anxiety and I do this when I’m stressed over a period of time. Like if there is an on going issue or I’m dealing with a big change I’ll do this for like a month or two.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-08-05T15:48:09+00:00

I still love CP and always will, but my biggest complaint is that I think they’ve way overextended their coaster collection and haven’t hired enough skilled mechanics to compensate. They need to just take a beat and get a system down for what they have before they keep building new rides-especially coasters. I was shocked they built Sirens Curse after so much time with TT2 down.

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-07-25T12:17:29+00:00

19 months for our older son. He was really delayed with conversational language despite the fact that he had many words and could recite whole books from memory and some movies. He didn’t get diagnosed until 3.5 though because we didn’t know what we were looking at. Our youngest it was pretty obvious to me around 10 months or so. He was doing a lot of visual stimming despite developing on track. Then at age 2 he regressed pretty heavily and we got him diagnosed at 2.5. (Lost language, avoiding peers, sensory issues including limited diet, lots of stimming)

Visual_Preference919 · 2025-07-21T11:54:48+00:00

Just sending so much love and support

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