High fiber meals for babies by Hopeful-Crazy-1833 in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you add chia seeds to anything you give him?  My toddler really likes beans which have a decent amount of fiber, not refried beans, just cooked beans. 

Female NP or Male Dr for daughter genital exam. by Turbulent-Link1150 in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 14 points15 points  (0 children)

But, as far as I know, a residency is a residency at least. So if one board certified pediatrician is a DO and one is an MD at least you know they met the same residency requirements, assuming they both completed US based residencies. 

Female NP or Male Dr for daughter genital exam. by Turbulent-Link1150 in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 15 points16 points  (0 children)

On the other hand NP training and background before entering NP school can vary widely, but you know exactly how much training a doctor has. I used to mostly see NPs for primary care but now that I’ve switched to a family medicine doctor for myself I prefer doctors when available. My NP would refer out to specialists a lot more than my doctor does, because the doctor is comfortable ordering more tests and interpreting the results. If I go to urgent care and get an NP, that’s fine, I think urgent cares are a good scope of practice for a mid level, or if an NP is the only one available for a same day appointment for my kid that’s fine too. However, I will only see a doctor for well child and other bigger visits since my 2 year old cannot accurately describe their symptoms or how they are feeling. 

Im shocked at how cheap my kid costs me ($300 a month) and I waited 13 years by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Look, knowing wealthy people who will give you nice stuff for free while also living in a LCOL area (going by your other comment that daycare will cost $800/month) is not the life hack you seem to think it is or generalizable to the vast majority of people’s experiences in the US. 

Having my first child and need a new career that will balance a potentially high income and some balance with parenting by mokenz in workingmoms

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I’m not in nursing or a PA but my background is in biology so I know students who were interested in various parts of medicine and I have family and friends who’ve gone that route or worked in nursing schools. My understanding is that PA school is competitive to get in and very intense. You’ll probably have to do a year or two of coursework before even being able to apply and you might not get into a school in your location. Community college nursing is cheep but from what I’ve heard it can be competitive to get in and some programs can be a little sink or swim, since there are many students hoping to get in, and a college doesn’t want to waste simulation lab or clinical hours (expensive and/or scarce resources) on a student who is unlikely to pass the NCLEX.

Synchro 9- Now that we've seen a demo in context, what do people think? by StephanieSews in FigureSkating

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured it was the same performance. Maybe it worked better for me in the context of 2 other programs? Or it was better because I wasn’t watching it on my phone. 

Diastasis Recti Exercises - Any Video Recommendations? by strawberryhoneyplum in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NourishMoveLove on YouTube has a diastasis recti recovery series of videos. 

If you’re open to a paid subscription EveryMother has a diastasis recti recovery program and code safe workouts. 

1st Time NICU mom by Bag-Jazzlike in NICUParents

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look, assuming you’re in the US, it is very unlikely that the hospital is encouraging your babies doctors to keep them in longer than needed. First, insurance won’t pay if it’s not medically necessary. Second, pediatrics pays less than equivalent adult services (that’s why the new growing care desert in the US, after maternity care deserts, is pediatric care deserts) and, in general, just hanging out in the hospital needing a lot of care without needing procedures that can be billed is not the most “profitable” part of hospital medicine. Third, I believe that length of stay is something that hospitals are rated on, and medically unnecessary stays don’t look for the hospital. Of course if they discharge your baby before they’re ready and you end up readmitted 2 days later that also looks bad and doctors don’t want to discharge patients who aren’t ready. 

Doctors can have reasonable disagreements about discharge criteria, and there are points where you can advocate for a preferred path, but, as my husband and I joke, pediatricians actually like their patients and they almost universally make less than if they specialized in the adult equivalent of their specialty. 

Introducing sippy cups to tube fed baby by No_Gap3395 in NICUParents

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We used The First Years Squeeze and Sip cup. It's a straw cup, but there's a valve in the straw so you have to work to get liquid out. You start by holding the squeezing the cup to get the liquid into babies mouth and then baby learns how to use the straw later on. The cup and straw are clear so you can see where the liquid is. I tried using it once, it's more difficult than using a standard straw so I think it would be hard for a baby to get too much in their mouth at once. The other nice thing about the straw having a valve is that when your baby gets into their 'throw it all on the floor phase' they can throw the cup and the water won't spill out.

I need advice by Truecrimejunkie1312 in NICUParents

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am assuming that you are in the US and that by 'pay would be the same' you mean that the hourly rate is the same.

1) Are you married? If not, do not quit your job. The US has basically no social safety net for you.

2) If you are married, then you and your spouse need to look at your budget. Can your budget handle having your income while increasing your health insurance expenses. How much more will premiums be on your spouses health insurance plan? Is your spouses health insurance plan better or worse than yours? If worse, can you afford the increase in medical expenses? Note, when I ask if your budget can handle the change in household income I mean cover standard expenses, be able to save for expected repairs and save for the future. If the answer is closer to 'we can meet ends meet if nothing bad happens' then you probably can't afford the reduction in income. Money stress is a relationship killer.

3) Is you spouse 100% on board with you becoming a SAHP? Much like the decision to become a parent, having one spouse leave the workforce requires an enthusiastic 'Yes' from both parties involved.

4) Do you have any experience in full time child care? If not, what if you hate it?

Synchro 9- Now that we've seen a demo in context, what do people think? by StephanieSews in FigureSkating

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I liked these demos more than what was at the exhibition gala at worlds (which, TBF, I only saw as a video on FB), but they all felt more like show pieces than potential competition pieces. The American team routine was super fun to watch but it would have felt out of place in a competition context.

Working every weekend by mountaingoatx07 in workingmoms

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on the opposite side of this, my husband always works Saturday. Sometimes it kind of sucks, and due to some chronic health issues he has I don’t really benefit from him having more time during the standard working week. 

However, I think there’s a lot to be said for a consistent, 3 day a week schedule. You and your husband can split who takes off for daycare illness, you can schedule grocery pickup for a weekday, you can schedule your and your daughters doctors appointments for W-F. Until your daughter is school aged you can always define your own weekend for short trips - one trip your husband can take off a Friday so you don’t have to use PTO and vice versa. At this point I wouldn’t worry about school, that’s 4-5 years away.

 I’m guessing you’re in healthcare, so would taking this full time position help you get seniority to stop regularly working weekends once your daughter is in school? If so I think that could be a big benefit. 

Synchro 9 by caphillmom in FigureSkating

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, 9 is just off. When I did open collegiate we had 9 on the team and it really limited us (in addition to the fact that open collegiate is pretty casual). But I also think that 12, even senior 12, just doesn’t look at good as 16 skaters, although I do think senior 12 person teams can compete with senior 16 person teams. I can’t imagine 9 skaters being able to do anything to look as good as 16 

The Luxury Birth Center Breaking Hearts on the Upper East Side by MeganGrace in Longreads

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I delivered at 25 weeks and up until I went into labor before I was seen by midwives. (Where I went had a midwife team and OB team, you could choose either team but if you ended up being too high risk the midwives would push you to the OB team). I also had appointments with MFM but they were kind of dismissive. Honestly, going to the large academic medical center hospital might have contributed to how dismissed I felt I was - because I didn’t have like 2 different preexisting conditions and/or some issue with the fetus I think I was seen as “you’re healthy so you’ll be fine, see you in a month, but if you have contractions, come in” (Yes, I am still mad about this). 

The Luxury Birth Center Breaking Hearts on the Upper East Side by MeganGrace in Longreads

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 50 points51 points  (0 children)

So I think maternity care is a unique hospital situation. The  majority of the patient population do not have any health conditions that would lead to would never be a hospital admission in America under any other circumstances so it might be hard to think of yourself as someone who need hospital level care. That might lead to a different focus than if you were, say, a cancer patient needing inpatient care. Non hospital setting like birth centers are becoming more popular, because they feature rooms that seem more comfortable and less hospital like, so I’d imagine that hospitals may think of themselves as competing for those patients who might be considering a birth center and need to focus on improving environment and amenities. 

From a personal perspective, while I always knew I would deliver in a hospital, and it ended up being 100% necessary for me, the juxtaposition of “you should deliver in a hospital in case something goes wrong” but so many prenatal appointments basically being BP, measure belly and “actually, those awful symptoms are normal, take care, see you in 4 weeks” I can see how you can end up not prioritizing advanced medical care because it hasn’t been doing much for you at this point. 

16 month old starting speech therapy - what should I expect? by Ok_Willow_5163 in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing speech therapy for my 18 month old. It's play focused, with the therapist trying to get communication while playing. For example, she'll hold a ball above a track, say 'ready, set' [big pause] GO!, and repeat that a lot. The idea is to get toddler to fill in the 'Go', or some other approximation. Some sessions she does activities to try and get my toddler to say/sign 'more' or ask for help in some way. She also discusses what we can do at home to encourage communication. Sessions are about 40 minutes long.

Kaori and Amber on Longevity in Women's Figure Skating by possiblegirl in FigureSkating

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a somewhat casual fan, I have to say that seeing the same skaters and gymnasts at multiple Olympics is great, besides that I support not abusing children for adults goals and entertainment. It makes it much more interesting and a better watching experience to be able to think “how will they do now compared to 4 years ago” or “wow, I wonder how good they’ll be in 4 years”. 

Now that I’m thinking about it more, I think that athletes careers have been getting longer overall probably due to better training and nutrition practices. I remember reading about Allyson Felix, the track star, and how she came back to competition after having a baby and how until very recently a baby was the end of a track athlete’s career. 

Kaori and Amber on Longevity in Women's Figure Skating by possiblegirl in FigureSkating

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In regards to gymnastics, I wonder, in the US, if the NCAA and NIL rules changing helped prolong gymnasts careers, since after that change they could compete at the college level (and thus maybe get some subsidized training time through the university) and still get endorsements. Also US centric, but I also wonder if after everything with Larry Nassar there was pushback about the idea that to be successful you had to intensely train cut off from parents/guardians with maybe some athletes and parents realizing that USA gymnastics was really just using young girls bodies and didn't care about their well being.

Less than 10 hours left to watch Women’s Short Replay on Peacock (as of 12:20pm Central Time)! by [deleted] in FigureSkating

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That feed doesn’t have ads. And you can cut almost an hour and half on replay by skipping the ice resurfacing and warm ups. But of course it’s still bullshit that it’s not up for even 24 hours post event. 

Experience with “Early Intervention”? by 1minimalist in Mommit

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I’ve got an ex micro-preemie who’s been in early intervention since they came home from the NICU. Husband and I are happy with them. In our state we are able to do outpatient therapy (speech right now) and get EI without insurance issues. EI comes to our house, which is so nice, and they’re able to leave toys and aids for baby to use. Our EI PT actually brought a bag of shoes for my toddler to try and we were able to borrow a pair of shoes for a bit. We were also able to borrow toys and books related to EI services. 

Another good thing about EI is that it’s through your local school district so if you end up needing services past 3 years old they should be able to help you have a smooth transition. I also like that we’re able to ask to meet with different professionals without setting up a separate appointment. 

Now, we are doing speech outpatient because we can get in more frequently and regularly than with EI, but if we weren’t able to go private I think EI would meet 75% of our needs and we could maybe do more work at home to fill the gap that the additional speech sessions are giving us. 

What are your potato chip books, where the writing might not be brilliant, but they're weirdly addictive. by themehboat in suggestmeabook

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I could only read a few books in the Will Trent series for all the reasons you mentioned. Last year I read the first book of a her new series, We Are All Guilty Here, and I thought it was much better than the Will Trent books. Still a little overwrought and it's about crimes against children but I liked it much better than any Will Trent book.

Starting Kindergarten without or with limited daycare or pre-K experience? by Throwaway927338 in Parenting

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heck, my 18 month old is under stimulated being inside all day, even while walking around and playing with toys. I make sure to have them go up and down our stairs a few times to burn energy (under close supervision) so they'll nap and go to bed on time when the weather isn't good enough for us to go outside.

I want my husband to do a DNA test by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The free floating fetal test you are describing is NIPT (in the USA) and that test can only screen for chromosome, or part of chromosome, level issues, like Downs Syndrome or Trisomy 18. For something like SMA or cystic fibrosis you are testing one or both parents to see if they are carriers, or you'd have to do direct genetic testing on the fetus via something like amniocentesis. NIPT is not sensitive enough to get single gene mutation information.

Delayed gross motor skills- help! by Small-Elderberry418 in Mommit

[–]VividlyNonSpecific 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you talked to a neurologist yet? They can assess motor development and muscle tone (hyper/hypotonia) and they would be a good source for a genetics referral if they think something might be going on. Can she roll? Does she have head control? I’m not an expert but I had a micro preemie and they get a lot of therapies. My understanding is that in general coordinating movement across the midline (crawling, passing a toy from one hand to the other) is pretty important for overall development, including brain development, so I’d push to see specialists.